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Elaine

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October 2018

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Posted Thu October 4, 2018 11:17pmReport post

I seem to be in a slightly diferent situation to others who've posted here. After my husband's arrest we've been working together to try and get through this. my biggest worry is his motivation and self esteem, and what I can do to help him with this. Any advise?

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D

Member since
September 2018

71 posts

Posted Thu October 4, 2018 11:24pmReport post

Hi Elaine, I too am trying to support my partner through this and into recovery. There are some good books out there worth reading (a couple are mentioned in another thread which are aimed at partners, which you may find helpful). Paula Hall has some good books which I would recommend checking out. Sounds silly, but I’ve just started reading her “improving your relationship for dummies” and there is a good chapter in there about self esteem.

i hope this is helpful, and remember there are lots of people here all with widely varying journeys who can share their knowledge and experience to help each other through this, no matter what our own journey looks like. X

Jess

Member since
September 2018

24 posts

Posted Fri October 5, 2018 11:53amReport post

You are not alone, my husband and I have been working hard to get him better and deal with the legal situation. He found a lot of help with SAA and SMART recovery, and STOPSO helped him find a good therapist. I really do think we will get through this and be stronger.

Maria

Member since
September 2018

286 posts

Posted Fri October 5, 2018 12:21pmReport post

Im trying to get through this with my husband to. I think saa has rea

Lly help with his self esteem and to sort this sex addition issue. Its a long journey. We talk alot and try to understand how this nightmare has happened. The real help with his issues will come from therapy and saa but he has my support and we will try to work through it.

Paula

Member since
September 2018

80 posts

Posted Sat October 6, 2018 9:56amReport post

Good to read these posts. I have separated from my partner but am trying to be there for him as he has no one else. What I do want is to understand more than anything is how and why this happened .

Snuggle

Member since
October 2018

19 posts

Posted Sat October 6, 2018 8:07pmReport post

Hi, I am supporting my husband, I have 2 children and SS want us to split up. We are not living together as per there say so and children do not have contact. It has now escalated, I feel as though nobody is listening and they do not want to help us.