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Member since
September 2022

412 posts

Posted Wed February 8, 2023 8:41amReport post

After reading some of the more recent posts about restrictions placed upon people it's making my blood boil. I find it absolutely ludicrous that prior to sentencing most have no restrictions at all, they go to work or college and meet people of all ages, life continues; for some this can go on for years. Then all of a sudden because someone imposes a blanket legislation upon them they are suddenly treated as 'dangerous' and their lives become unrecognisable. Yet if you receive a sentence for GBH or Manslaughter those same restrictions don't apply. Apologies I'm in a OMG this is so unjustified mood. I needed a rant.

SAL

Member since
December 2021

895 posts

Posted Wed February 8, 2023 9:31amReport post

I've been feeling the same lately reading these posts. It's making my blood simmer. I'm some what sheltered from it because we are in the prison system but I'm not sure I'd be able to stop my blood boiling if on release our Visor behaves the way we've been reading on here.

My person is not a predator waiting at every opportunity to abuse - There are far more dangerous people walking the streets with no restrictions. He will want to find a way to make a income and live a very quiet life, I worry though that they will make this hard work.

I really feel so sad and sorry for those that are younger on this journey and are being blocked from building a meaningful life and build support and social circles - All of which actually makes them less likely to offend. It's ridiculous, it makes me want to scream.

Seems like so make of the authorities either have power complexes or just want to cover there ass.

SAL

Member since
December 2021

895 posts

Posted Wed February 8, 2023 9:31amReport post

I've been feeling the same lately reading these posts. It's making my blood simmer. I'm some what sheltered from it because we are in the prison system but I'm not sure I'd be able to stop my blood boiling if on release our Visor behaves the way we've been reading on here.

My person is not a predator waiting at every opportunity to abuse - There are far more dangerous people walking the streets with no restrictions. He will want to find a way to make a income and live a very quiet life, I worry though that they will make this hard work.

I really feel so sad and sorry for those that are younger on this journey and are being blocked from building a meaningful life and build support and social circles - All of which actually makes them less likely to offend. It's ridiculous, it makes me want to scream.

Seems like so make of the authorities either have power complexes or just want to cover there ass.

edel2020

Member since
March 2022

367 posts

Posted Wed February 8, 2023 11:04amReport post

Unfortunately the only way to get these things changed is to complain. Although I realise there is a worry about making things worse, it may lead to them assigning a different visor officer to the case. In the current climate, police forces should be taking complaints more seriously. They say they want to get rid of the 'bad apples' in the force.

This is a link to the complaints processes, for all the different forces.

https://www.policeconduct.gov.uk/complaints-reviews-and-appeals/make-complaint

Smile through tears

Member since
September 2021

2538 posts

Posted Wed February 8, 2023 11:57amReport post

I know where you are coming from. All of a sudden deemed dangerous yet while waiting for trial - minimum restrictions are in place, and allowed to live 'normally'.

The media put the 'predatory' slant on my son's crime. He's far from that and the label makes me so angry, so unfair......

Edited Wed February 8, 2023 12:34pm

hpl111

Member since
November 2022

390 posts

Posted Wed February 8, 2023 9:05pmReport post

This is what I am worried about. My husband is currently RUI for indecent images of children. Social services now allow him to stay in our house if I supervise him with the children. At night, he has to sleep in the guest room, while I sleep in one room with the children. We can live an almost normal family life

I am ABSOLUTELY convinced once he is charged and convicted and on the SOR, social services will become involved again. They will come down heavy handed on us again and ask him to leave the house again.

I hate these people. As a family, we can't afford to run two households. I have no other family living nearby to help me with the children. My husband has done something horrible , but despite that he's always been a wonderful father to our children, a good provider and protector.

They do so much damage in the name of safeguarding I keep on thinking they would prefer me and the children to sleep under a bridge as long as my husband is as far away as possible.

Summer

Member since
July 2019

394 posts

Posted Thu February 9, 2023 3:58pmReport post

As some of you will know my person was found guilty a few weeks back sentancing has taken place a while ago he has met with probation and also the visor/ppu he has signed on the SOR and notified them although not living at my address does spend more than 12 hours here and guess what!!! Not a dicky bird or a sausage informing me that a 'sex offender' is visiting my house and spending time with the children! So glad people are safeguarding children!



So my person lives with his mum and because his niece visits his mum with her parents although they would have never come to my house he has been told by the visor he needs to disclose because he lives there but there's no contact offence been commited like you say they make up their own rules! Probation don't think this is right though

So is it a case if they haven't told me because he's told them he's already told me?? But he's an offender who was found guilty so in their eyes can't tell the truth so why can they take his word he's told me or... they are just pap at thier job!!

Upset mum

Member since
June 2020

2385 posts

Posted Thu February 9, 2023 5:07pmReport post

My son had no clauses after the first knock then RUI for 16 months while the investigation was going on, he could carry on as normal, well apart from us having to monitor him daily as he was suicidal

Then the second knock they had more evidence, took him in and he never came home as he was deemed a flight risk and would jump bail

Wtf for 16 months I had to watch my son diminish to a wreck, dont get me wrong what he did was wrong but it was heartbreaking to see him wanting to take his own life, he had a suicide kit in his car, we only found out after he was kept in remand

Then finding out he was self harming on a video call

This has to be the most damaging journey to be on, not just for offenders but also us xx