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Five years managing - but now need counseling

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majestictopaz

Member since
December 2019

499 posts

Posted Thu February 9, 2023 6:54pmReport post

I wish I had taken this step sooner. Signed up to StopSo counseling with first session next week. I have been 'alone' on this journey for mostly three years before I had to disclose to close family. But I can't burden them with all that goes through my head.

I have noticed I have become more resentful and resentful to those who are essentially innocent parties - in laws, courts, legal system and others mixed into this mess. The resentment I have with my person I feel is justified , when taking into considertion of their offending and conviction.

Hopefully by speaking to a neutral party I can just get off my chest and make sense of where I am at in my life ATM.

I had been put off getting help because I feel like I don't deserve it and that I shall lay on the bed I have made. But the build up of anger I can tell is going to get me in trouble with others as I don't have a realease.

I would highly recommend those on the long haul to consider seeking help. I'm somewhat optimistic the counseling will help, and I now have the funds to get the support.

Upset mum

Member since
June 2020

2385 posts

Posted Thu February 9, 2023 7:06pmReport post

Evening majestictopaz

So glad you have posted its been ages since we have heard from you xx

How are you keeping

It is certainly a frustrating and angry place to be x

I did the LFF course and it was nice to meet others on the same journey and talk face to face but I was hoping to meet other Mums but it was a mixture of other ladies on the same journey but with OH not sons

Xx

hpl111

Member since
November 2022

390 posts

Posted Thu February 9, 2023 10:36pmReport post

Hi majestictopaz, I have been on this journey since July last year and I will also start therapy this month. I am almost ashamed to talk to a therapist, but I know it will be better for me than suffering alone.

Inturmoil1974

Member since
November 2022

275 posts

Posted Sun February 12, 2023 7:58amReport post

My oh had the Knick 21st November 2022 and I can't seem to ask for help and I know I need it, organised oh support and my daughter but can't for myself it's a lonely place.
well done getting the help x