Absolutely peeved with SS
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Hi Dragonmamma,
I was on ccp they reckon they don't take u off in the first 3 months anyway, but we did get taken off on the third meeting. I would seek legal advice on forcing u to split with ur partner, I never split from mine, so why they r making u seems very unfair and I no others that have not split from theirs.
I am no expert but I do no how u feel, we had a horrible sw, who said I was minimalising wat my oh had done so put us a ccp, but she got a telling off because apparently we should have gone on it when he was first arrested.
Please hang on in there it can get better x
I was on ccp they reckon they don't take u off in the first 3 months anyway, but we did get taken off on the third meeting. I would seek legal advice on forcing u to split with ur partner, I never split from mine, so why they r making u seems very unfair and I no others that have not split from theirs.
I am no expert but I do no how u feel, we had a horrible sw, who said I was minimalising wat my oh had done so put us a ccp, but she got a telling off because apparently we should have gone on it when he was first arrested.
Please hang on in there it can get better x
I sympathise with you and can't believe the standpoint from them either. When my partner was under investigation SS said to the child's Mother that it was worse because he was denying it?? How does that make sense and how is that innocent until proven guilty?
I truly do not understand the approach by SS as it should be on an individual basis, if there is no concern within the home then why make everyone's life hard work? Internet offences do not mean contact offences. Their procedures seem to be extremely outdated and not rooted in any kind of evidence or studies. Sending love, hopefully you beat the SS beast soon x
I truly do not understand the approach by SS as it should be on an individual basis, if there is no concern within the home then why make everyone's life hard work? Internet offences do not mean contact offences. Their procedures seem to be extremely outdated and not rooted in any kind of evidence or studies. Sending love, hopefully you beat the SS beast soon x
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Hi Dragonmamma,
Sorry I couldn't remember all of ur story, ok so now it makes perfect sense, it's just a shame it has come to this. How is oh taking it? Probably a stupid question
I hope ur daughter is OK, I no it can be tough, our daughter was suicidal and self harming when this was all kicking off, so I literally had her a month or so before telling me she told her teachers she wanted to die and then this kicked off and they both ran along side each other.
Please don't feel alone if u need to talk about ur daughter, as I no how it feels xx
Sending love to u xx
Sorry I couldn't remember all of ur story, ok so now it makes perfect sense, it's just a shame it has come to this. How is oh taking it? Probably a stupid question
I hope ur daughter is OK, I no it can be tough, our daughter was suicidal and self harming when this was all kicking off, so I literally had her a month or so before telling me she told her teachers she wanted to die and then this kicked off and they both ran along side each other.
Please don't feel alone if u need to talk about ur daughter, as I no how it feels xx
Sending love to u xx
Your story echos mine so much.
I became an absolute monster to SS. I did everything they asked and complained everytime they let us down. I have made 2 formal complaint via the local authority. I have not given permission for
1. Unannounced visits
2. Talking to my kids alone
3. Disclosing my OH offences to my children
4. Visiting my children at school.
5. Duty social workers to visit
Two of my children are neuro-diverse which is why I have stood my ground on these matters.
I was told it was our LA'S "policy" to not take children of CPP at the 3 months point. I asked for that I righting, they couldn't provide it.
None of this has got us off the plan any sooner, but it has made me feel empowered. SS know I'm not a push over.
We are just waiting a risk assessment and hopefully we will get our lives back. Though me and OH live separately, I have always said that I did not rule out reconciliation and they now know that once the plan is over we are going to get marriage counselling with a view to getting our family back.
I became an absolute monster to SS. I did everything they asked and complained everytime they let us down. I have made 2 formal complaint via the local authority. I have not given permission for
1. Unannounced visits
2. Talking to my kids alone
3. Disclosing my OH offences to my children
4. Visiting my children at school.
5. Duty social workers to visit
Two of my children are neuro-diverse which is why I have stood my ground on these matters.
I was told it was our LA'S "policy" to not take children of CPP at the 3 months point. I asked for that I righting, they couldn't provide it.
None of this has got us off the plan any sooner, but it has made me feel empowered. SS know I'm not a push over.
We are just waiting a risk assessment and hopefully we will get our lives back. Though me and OH live separately, I have always said that I did not rule out reconciliation and they now know that once the plan is over we are going to get marriage counselling with a view to getting our family back.
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Oh Dragonmama, I am so sorry they r making u feel like shut, I can see u r in a very difficult place and I probably haven't helped xx I'm sorry, I hope they pull their fingers out soon for u xx
Sending love & hugs xxxx
Sending love & hugs xxxx
Dawn14
you haven't made me feel bad at all, if anything quite the opposite. As odd as it sounds it's sometimes nice to know I'm not the only one even though I wouldn't wish this on anyone. I thank you for your reply's because I genuinely appreciate them. Even if people agree or disagree with anything I say it's all perspective.
xxx
you haven't made me feel bad at all, if anything quite the opposite. As odd as it sounds it's sometimes nice to know I'm not the only one even though I wouldn't wish this on anyone. I thank you for your reply's because I genuinely appreciate them. Even if people agree or disagree with anything I say it's all perspective.
xxx
Hi Dragonmama,
I'm glad I haven't upset or offended u xx I'm sorry ur in the situation u r xx
I'm glad I haven't upset or offended u xx I'm sorry ur in the situation u r xx
@Dawn14 and the list part for all
its a complicated situation to say the least and I just want things to go back to they were before but I also know that the my never will, I've just got to learn to suck it up, keep calm and carry on whilst still falling apart inside.
I have learned some things from all of this and those are
1. I am a strong woman
2. I am not alone
3. I have found support in the most unexpected places
4. ss/police do lie and they try to cover their own a***s
5. I/family can get through this
6. All this is a great way to loose weight (sorry last one is a bit of a joke, trying to make myself feel better)
love to all that are going through this type of thing xxxx
its a complicated situation to say the least and I just want things to go back to they were before but I also know that the my never will, I've just got to learn to suck it up, keep calm and carry on whilst still falling apart inside.
I have learned some things from all of this and those are
1. I am a strong woman
2. I am not alone
3. I have found support in the most unexpected places
4. ss/police do lie and they try to cover their own a***s
5. I/family can get through this
6. All this is a great way to loose weight (sorry last one is a bit of a joke, trying to make myself feel better)
love to all that are going through this type of thing xxxx
Hi Dragonmama,
U r correct in wat u say, and as much as no6 was a joke lol, I wished I'd lost weight I've piled it on, conlmfort eater here unfortunately xx
U r correct in wat u say, and as much as no6 was a joke lol, I wished I'd lost weight I've piled it on, conlmfort eater here unfortunately xx
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Update,
after ss asked several times if my daughter wants to actually see her dad where each and every time she has stated yes, I'm in the wrong for supporting my daughters wishes. And they have told me that I should put my foot down as an adult and tell her no it's not happening. Why because I'll be "they can't believe I would be allowing my daughter to be around a sex offender" (actual words)
bare in mind he had not done anything to her and he's not as of yet been convicted of online (non contact) grooming.
why in the hell ask her if she wants to see him again if that's what you think?????
why ask me if I'm being supportive of my daughter because when I am I'm in the wrong????
so where am I now, having to explain to my daughter that I must go against her wishes and she's not allowed to see her dad ever again. Yeah now I feel like a s**t mum.
after ss asked several times if my daughter wants to actually see her dad where each and every time she has stated yes, I'm in the wrong for supporting my daughters wishes. And they have told me that I should put my foot down as an adult and tell her no it's not happening. Why because I'll be "they can't believe I would be allowing my daughter to be around a sex offender" (actual words)
bare in mind he had not done anything to her and he's not as of yet been convicted of online (non contact) grooming.
why in the hell ask her if she wants to see him again if that's what you think?????
why ask me if I'm being supportive of my daughter because when I am I'm in the wrong????
so where am I now, having to explain to my daughter that I must go against her wishes and she's not allowed to see her dad ever again. Yeah now I feel like a s**t mum.