I miss my dad, I hate him for what he did but I can't help but still love him. it's all still very raw and I know there's still a long way to go and it will never disappear. I haven't got any friends so im hoping this will make me feel less alone.
Hello sweetheart. I'm so sorry your in this club noone wants to be in. Of course you love your dad, I'm sure he's still your dad, just he did a bad thing and hell pay for or is paying for it dearly. These feelings are completely normal so go with them. Meanwhile call the helpline on here for an outlet. I went through this more or less alone too so I know, and I'm sure everyone in this group knows s, how lonely it is but I promise it does get easier. It first few weeks /months are horrendous. Reach out here or to a trusted friend or your gp for some counselling. You don't need to be alone there is help out there x
Oh Ballet, this is so hard and I think for family members rather than partners there is another layer of awkwardness to it all.
like NewLady said, do contact LFF, sign up for the inform course.
sorry you're going through this x
like NewLady said, do contact LFF, sign up for the inform course.
sorry you're going through this x
Oh ballet my heart goes out to you of course you love your Dad because you know the person he is rather than just looking at the crime.
Please phone the helpline the people on there really do listen and please take care of yourself.
You are not alone all of us on here are here to offer you support xx
Please phone the helpline the people on there really do listen and please take care of yourself.
You are not alone all of us on here are here to offer you support xx
He's still your Dad and it's ok to still love him. Sometimes people make bad choices, it doesn't mean they are inherently bad people. I hope with time you are able to rebuild your relationship. There's always support here x
Hi ballet,
Ive not been on here for a while but saw this and has to write to you. My dad also received the knock about 3 years ago now. And all these emotions do settle, I followed my head and me and my dad are as close as ever! It was the hardest time of my life, but I know I love my dad and I knew I wanted to be there for him. However your feeling do what feels right for you, not anyone else xx
Ive not been on here for a while but saw this and has to write to you. My dad also received the knock about 3 years ago now. And all these emotions do settle, I followed my head and me and my dad are as close as ever! It was the hardest time of my life, but I know I love my dad and I knew I wanted to be there for him. However your feeling do what feels right for you, not anyone else xx
Thankyou all for your lovely response's, it's definitely made me feel less alone about how I'm feeling x
Evening ballet2015
Firstly you have reached out x
I am so sorry you have found yourself here
Your Dad is still your dad, yes he has done wrong and it is an awful journey to be on
Look past and think of the dad he has always been
I am not excusing his actions by no means
This journey is horrendous, so be prepared for a long wait, only you can decide on what to do and no one else, take some time, do you have contact with him?xx
Firstly you have reached out x
I am so sorry you have found yourself here
Your Dad is still your dad, yes he has done wrong and it is an awful journey to be on
Look past and think of the dad he has always been
I am not excusing his actions by no means
This journey is horrendous, so be prepared for a long wait, only you can decide on what to do and no one else, take some time, do you have contact with him?xx