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Hi there. I'm gkad things are settling now. When he gets out I'm sure hell be a different person. You too. But you'll both be strong and if you've through through this together you'll get through anything. Unfortunately I split from. My person, but we will always be friends, it's just how both of us feel, we are trauma bonded and his mental health has been terrible. Time for us both to focus on ourselves now it's all over. But I do believe if you feel urs right to fight for your marriage you'll come out stronger than ever xx

I'm glad to hear things have settled for you and that you have support. I've never really celebrated Valentines Day but it's at special times I really do miss him, a way to show my love is usually through making and doing which is harder now, but we've both found ways.

I worry too that he'll change, he's done so well so far, but we are half way through the sentence and I do think he's starting to loose a little but I'd sight of who he is - But I'm hoping things will start happening soon in preparation for his release and hopefully that will stir something in him. We talk a little bit about the future and try to visualise what it'll look like - Nothing big, just eating dinner together, falling to sleep together, going for a walk - We hold onto those thoughts because day in day out its simple things like this that made us happy and content together.

It's hard sometimes to remember that this is temporary. There will be a time after this phase, then there will be other phases, but they are somewhat all temporary.