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Silverheart

Member since
February 2023

10 posts

Posted Mon February 20, 2023 9:58amReport post

Hi , Well not sure where to start as im still in pieces and struggling with pretending life is ok ... in Nov '22, 8am OH arrested outside and police came in . Said he was arrested for talking to 14yr old female online ( but it was police) Seized devices and took him. My world just stopped. When he came back after 5 hrs he was a wreck. Went into crisis. Had mental health team in as he was suicidal . My OH of 24 years !! How do you process this with your loved one that you adore ?? The following weeks were horrendous on suicide watch and like looking after a baby . Due to his mental state I wanted him to stay at home .. my 15yr old son has had to move in with a relative as can't stay under same roof due to bail conditions. A week later different police came to talk to my son about about an indecent image that could be on his computer so I had to take him for interview( the stuff she asked him was awful) s and now he's under investigation too . Just don't know how much more I can take . Only lost my mum 8 months before the knock. Sick and tired of living a lie and pretending. Bail for OH has just been delayed as devices still not finished with . Could take another 4 months or so. How do you all cope ??? Xx

Distressed and pregnant

Member since
November 2020

994 posts

Posted Mon February 20, 2023 11:05amReport post

I'm so sorry that you are going through all of this. I have no advice I'm afraid but please reach out to the helpline and your gp. This is so much to deal with xxx

K4

Member since
October 2022

608 posts

Posted Mon February 20, 2023 2:08pmReport post

Oh Silverheart, love and strength to you! I have nothing more to recommend than what's already been said xx

Newlady

Member since
April 2021

644 posts

Posted Mon February 20, 2023 3:00pmReport post

I'm, so sorry you're going through this but things will get better or easier. Remember don't always trust the police. Like thars eo I fair in you that both are investigated. Is your hubby doing any work on himself at the moment or at least calling helpline? They are there for you both as are we xx

Lola53

Member since
May 2021

269 posts

Posted Mon February 20, 2023 6:29pmReport post

Silverheart, so sorry that you're going through this. You cope by leaning of all of us on here, we've got your back. You'll have OK days and bad days - use every bit of strength that you can muster and whatever self-care works for you. For me it's exercise and my horses and podcasts and keeping on top of life generally; the more stressed I am, the cleaner my house is!!

Sending you hugs xx