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WeeWitch

Member since
June 2021

74 posts

Posted Sat February 18, 2023 9:43amReport post

I must and I will , but the cyclical,inevitable days where you just do not know how to go on....

I know all the self care malarky, but I work 40 hrs a week in a job where I give constantly to vulnerable adults ( and is also a total distraction to my own life) I have a 9yr old I share care with his dad, a tiny 1 bed flat and an adult son who for the past 2 years has been here full time suffering severe mh and won't access any support, has shut off and disassociated from the reality of it all. I AM RESPONSIBLE FOR EVERYTHING. And today I want everyone to go away so I can sit in absolute silence ... It can't happen, but it's all I want.

Sorry, this is just me saying this in a place I can ????

Losteverything

Member since
September 2022

216 posts

Posted Sat February 18, 2023 9:53amReport post

Weewitch, I'm so sorry that you are having such a hard time. Going through this and supporting someone who's committed this crime is hard enough without all the added pressures you have got. You are an amazing woman to do all this and to cope the way that you are. You are bound to have wobbles, none of this is your fault and it's so unfair. Do you have anyone to help/ support you. Meeting a friend for a coffee or a walk really helps me get away from everything.
Im not much help, but sending you big hugs. X

K4

Member since
October 2022

608 posts

Posted Sat February 18, 2023 9:57amReport post

Oh WeeWitch! I completely understand. I read something about Quaker services when I was a few weeks in, and the thought of having an hour just sitting in silence made me bawl uncontrollably!!



sorry you're under strain. Hope you get a moment's peace soon



xx

Upset mum

Member since
June 2020

2385 posts

Posted Sat February 18, 2023 3:44pmReport post

Hi WeeWitch

It must be so difficult having to deal with everything, I cant offer much advise but wanted to send hugs to you and I hope you can at least find just a bit of time for yourself xx

Annamarie

Member since
December 2021

74 posts

Posted Sat February 18, 2023 8:13pmReport post

I completely understand!

I'm the responsible 1 in my home. My 20 and 13 year old would not survive a day without me cooking and cleaning and taxi. I deal with all financial issues as well.

I often want everyone to go away and leave me too. I want them to take all the horrible thoughts in my mind with them.

I know it's so easy to say but try to make time for yourself if you need it. Even if it's just half an hour meditating or sitting in a park smoking...whatever it is you would like to do.

I wish I had some magical answer for you but I don't or I would have used it myself. Just know that you aren't alone. We all get how difficult this s##t is.

Take care of yourself as much as you can x