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Upset mum

Member since
June 2020

2385 posts

Posted Sun February 19, 2023 2:51pmReport post

Afternoon lovely ladies,

The sun has been out for most of the day dosent it make a difference

We had a lovely visit with my son on Saturday he is doing ok ,

Today has been mostly cleaning, washing and ironing , boring chores that have to be done

But today was so different I almost felt like normal, before the knock, it will be 3 years in May since that awful day and the journey began, how my life changed, I was married to my second husband, we had a good life, then it went downhill from that day, I became so distant, constant state of shock, so worried about my son, anxiety was at its worst, I diddnt recognize who I was anymore, the husband left ( not because of my son) but because of who I became, I lost the sight in my right eye, my detetina decided to detach but thankfully due to the urgency I had an operation to repair and it was a success, not 100% but better than what it was so it has been a tough journey

Now my life is a bit lonlier as on my own, work keeps me busy, I have my beautiful daughter and my older son, but my offending son is doing ok

So the sun is out, we are here and we are all ok

Small steps, but our strength really does go a long way xx

Apologies for the long post x

Tabs

Member since
November 2019

501 posts

Posted Sun February 19, 2023 3:37pmReport post

I'm so pleased that you are having a 'normal' day. They do become more frequent don't they?! You are an amazing mum! xx

RIG22

Member since
September 2022

138 posts

Posted Sun February 19, 2023 4:40pmReport post

Upset mum; thank you for sharing. Your positivity made me smile. Big hug x

Upset mum

Member since
June 2020

2385 posts

Posted Sun February 19, 2023 5:27pmReport post

It is a strange feeling Tabs, we are living a new normal, I wish it didn't happen but at the same time this journey has made me stronger

My relationship with my offending son is better than it was before this, no more secrecy, it is a weight lifted from him he doesn't have to live this life, dont get me wrong he understands what he has done, he has a long way ahead, he has owned what he has done, it's a hell of a journey but today made me realise I am here living in the new normal and we can get through this xx

Smile through tears

Member since
September 2021

2538 posts

Posted Sun February 19, 2023 6:53pmReport post

Hi Upset - yes the sunshine does help, but it tinges me with sadness as I think of my sons summer days of freedom gone. He is a gardener so poss will get out more than I do!!!!! BUT as you say we are healthy and here!

Finding our feet after a blip last week, how I hate these blips that shoot you back into feelings of those painful early days......

still we march upwards and onwards as we get back on track .... glad your visit went well x

Edited Sun February 19, 2023 6:57pm