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So my (soon to be ex) husband has been charged with having and sharing iioc. He pled guilty and is due to be sentenced soon (no date confirmed yet). We have two children together
He previously had bail conditions limiting his contact with under 18s to supervised only and preventing him entering our home. This made life very simple in some ways because there were very clear guidelines about what is and is not acceptable. However after his plea the judge lifted the bail conditions entirely meaning that there are now no limits on his contact with our girls.
My question are as follow - Does this mean I should allow him unspuervised contact? Are they saying he is no longer a risk? This is what he claims but I can't believe that when he has pled guilty to this kind of crime that he should be allowed unsupervised contact with our kids. What rights do I have to stop it, if any? Anyone else been through this? I understand that after sentencing he may have restrictions put on him, but what do I do until then? And what if no restrictions are placed on him? Where do I stand on this?
TIA
He previously had bail conditions limiting his contact with under 18s to supervised only and preventing him entering our home. This made life very simple in some ways because there were very clear guidelines about what is and is not acceptable. However after his plea the judge lifted the bail conditions entirely meaning that there are now no limits on his contact with our girls.
My question are as follow - Does this mean I should allow him unspuervised contact? Are they saying he is no longer a risk? This is what he claims but I can't believe that when he has pled guilty to this kind of crime that he should be allowed unsupervised contact with our kids. What rights do I have to stop it, if any? Anyone else been through this? I understand that after sentencing he may have restrictions put on him, but what do I do until then? And what if no restrictions are placed on him? Where do I stand on this?
TIA
Hi,
Do you have a social worker involved? You absolutely don't have to allow unsupervised contact with the children. If ss are involved then they can work with you to put a safety plan in place for supervised contact if this is what you feel is best for the children. If they're not then you can email them and essentially self refer. Is there someone who can supervise if you don't want to do it? It's better to have a plan that you can go to them with xxx
Do you have a social worker involved? You absolutely don't have to allow unsupervised contact with the children. If ss are involved then they can work with you to put a safety plan in place for supervised contact if this is what you feel is best for the children. If they're not then you can email them and essentially self refer. Is there someone who can supervise if you don't want to do it? It's better to have a plan that you can go to them with xxx
Currently no social worker involved as they were happy that I would act as a protective parent while the bail conditions are in place. Now that they aren't he is pushing for unsupervised contact. Have contaced the MASH team this morning and awaiting further advice.
My not ex is only allowed supervised contact and is only RUI, not charged yet, let alone had a guilty plea. We were referred to social services the day of the knock. I would be very surprised if SS allowed unsupervised contact.
Strength and hugs to you xx
Strength and hugs to you xx