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VISOR and curfew - couple of queries

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Lola53

Member since
May 2021

269 posts

Posted Mon February 20, 2023 1:46pmReport post

My son had his PSR meeting today - he felt that it went well except that the chap mentioned a 9pm to 6am tagged curfew. This seems odd, especially as we're talking 'just' a fairly small amount of images (I'm not making light of it, the 'just' is for context).

Also, he has his first VISOR visit tomorrow - what can he expect.



Many thanks x

cocoa2009

Member since
September 2022

21 posts

Posted Mon February 20, 2023 3:40pmReport post

Hi,

My OH had a tag for 2 months after sentencing in the summer 8pm- 6am if i remember, felt like a lifetime but went by fast :).

Edited Mon February 20, 2023 3:43pm

Lola53

Member since
May 2021

269 posts

Posted Mon February 20, 2023 6:24pmReport post

Thanks Cocoa - may I ask what he was convicted for? x

edel2020

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March 2022

367 posts

Posted Mon February 20, 2023 8:28pmReport post

I don't know if things are different now, but a tag and curfew for iioc is not normal. These offences are usually committed on the internet and in people's homes, not when they are out and about.

What would be the point of a tag and a curfew here? Often the men who do this, are spending far too much time inside and on their computers already. They need to get out and socialise more, not spend more time indoors.

cocoa2009

Member since
September 2022

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Posted Mon February 20, 2023 8:39pmReport post

Images and distribution (small number like you explained yourself) we didn't understand this as we said surely that's when it happens so why keep him locked inside, but i assume it's part of their community order/punishment?

Lola53

Member since
May 2021

269 posts

Posted Mon February 20, 2023 8:49pmReport post

Thanks Edel and Cocoa for your replies. It does seem really illogical! Hopefully it won't come to anything because cutting him off from his friends and social life isn't going to help his mental health at all.

Sadsister22

Member since
February 2022

95 posts

Posted Mon February 20, 2023 11:14pmReport post

My person was tagged too for 3 months 9pm-6am.

I too thought it was pretty pointless as if he was a threat to children this tag doesn't stop him hanging around a school or playground etc during the day (of course he would not do this but you see where I am coming from).

Bizarre

Maij

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December 2020

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Posted Tue February 21, 2023 1:20amReport post

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Lola53

Member since
May 2021

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Posted Tue February 21, 2023 9:52amReport post

Hi Maij

Hope you're well, I think of you and your son often. My son is in court for sentencing next week - we have a sense of relief that things are moving on, although obviously it's looming large. Forensics came back showing a small amount of images, mainly Cat C, so we're hoping for the best whilst preparing for the worst.

Very best wishes to you xx

Sadsister - I know exactly what you mean, it seems totally illogical given the crime!

Maij

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December 2020

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Posted Tue February 21, 2023 8:17pmReport post

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Lola53

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May 2021

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Posted Wed February 22, 2023 1:27pmReport post

Hi Maij

I'm doing well, thank you - as you know, I was in a very dark place and estranged from my son at one point, but we have a great relationship now and I've been there to support him through the recent legal stuff. He's made some new friends but doesn't see his old ones; he hasn't encountered any hostility but I think it's embarrassment and his decision to avoid them. A great shame as he was very popular. He's finishing his degree at the moment and is very positive about everything; we've just done a big house move (nothing to do with what's happened, we've been planning it for a long time) and he's really embraced that and is happy in the new place, as are we all. Just hoping to get through next week with the best possible outcome.

How is your son?xx