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How do you prove you're a protective parent, I'm continuing my relashionship with a partner who's been on SOR for 2 years with another 3 to go, I have two young children from a previous and currently pregnant with my now parter, i would never ever be careless with him being allowed in the house supervised, but how do I prove I'm a protective parent?
There's no guide or manual on being a protective parent. Think of it like a risk assessment. What is the risk, its sexual abuse, the kids seeing/coming across porn, being at risk from others because he's on the register. Think of all the things that may have a negative impact on the kids life because of your partner. Then think about how you are going to protect them from all if it. How are you going to ensure they are not at risk from abuse, for example never leaving him alone witj the kids, not letting him change nappies etc. And how are you going to do that, for example if you have relative near by so in an emergency they can help or have the kids. How do other family members feel about it and how can they help. What happens in the future, how are you going to manage life and protect the kids not just now but when they are older. What will you do if you find hes done something or you suspect sonething is going on. The parents protect website is very good and informative. Have you discussed with you partner the options, how life is going to work. What his is going to do to address his offending, how can he show he is reducing the risk, what is he doing. Social services will not tell you what to do and no one here can really tell you. You are likely already being a protective parent, do your best and understand the risk he may pose.
That's the same confusion as I've got. I feel that now we all know that if anything it will be easier as me and my teenagers are more aware and even husband. Obviously I wouldn't leave them on their own with him but I see no risk if out in public places or am I just being silly? I let my kids go to the shop with their friends but even that's a risk from others but it's a normal everyday thing. Do we need to keep accessed supervised until 18? So am I expected to not let 16 year olds out with friends? Easier said than done
I will do everything social services ask me to do which is what I am already doing, I'm having a boy and all his IIOC were female which brings the risk down, it's my 2 daughters they were concerned about, they're going to be assessing me for 3 months before I have another CP conference to 're assess our no contact with my girls here, his conditions are no unsupervised contact with children which I need to convince them I can supervise, he won't be left alone with my children whatsoever, he's on SOR for 3 more years and his SHPO lasts 3 years, I'm guessing after that he needs to be treated like anyone else? He's had nothing but praise from probation and he's completed a 2 year course to help him understand more about what he did, why he did it, and how he can move on and to prevent it happening again, I do think we can move on from this and I'm preying for a normal family life his his first ever child, even if we start of with seeing him through the day so he can help me with his son, because at the moment he has a full time job and I have my girls 5 days a week, so we are extremely limited on when we see each other, the summer holidays will be extremely difficult.