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SS have forced my hand, threatened to start care proceedings and have my children removed if I don't allow them to disclose to my children and question them on their "lived experiences".
I don't think that there has been any abuse by my OH, in the grand scheme of these crimes his numbers were very low. 12, mainly cat C, just one cat A. There are no "red flags" indicating trauma in my 7 or 9 yr olds and my 17 Yr old daughter knows everything and tells me that he has never hurt her, she just wants him home.
But now that it's happening I'm petrified that something will come out. He has lied to me so much, am I being a fool to believe him. I honestly thought this nightmare was coming to an end since sentencing, then BANG everything is worse than ever!
I don't think that there has been any abuse by my OH, in the grand scheme of these crimes his numbers were very low. 12, mainly cat C, just one cat A. There are no "red flags" indicating trauma in my 7 or 9 yr olds and my 17 Yr old daughter knows everything and tells me that he has never hurt her, she just wants him home.
But now that it's happening I'm petrified that something will come out. He has lied to me so much, am I being a fool to believe him. I honestly thought this nightmare was coming to an end since sentencing, then BANG everything is worse than ever!
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The SS will be doing it, I have asked her to do it at the school so that one of the teachers I really trust and knows my children well will sit in.
I have never thought anything had happened, its just the reality now that they will be asked directly petrifies me.
I have never thought anything had happened, its just the reality now that they will be asked directly petrifies me.
Hi Confused
Like you I'm not certain why they are pushing the disclosure to the children.
SS spoke to both my kids. They attended school but they did not disclose. They are general questions and there were no red flags. The only differences here is that I had decided to end the relationship and it was for communication. Subsequently found out small amount of iioc
Perhaps ask them what typical questions they ask and if there is a way to do interview without disclosing.
wishing you all the best x
Like you I'm not certain why they are pushing the disclosure to the children.
SS spoke to both my kids. They attended school but they did not disclose. They are general questions and there were no red flags. The only differences here is that I had decided to end the relationship and it was for communication. Subsequently found out small amount of iioc
Perhaps ask them what typical questions they ask and if there is a way to do interview without disclosing.
wishing you all the best x
Also the other point is have SS completed a risk assessment on your OH? Perhaps the child interview is part of that but it would give an indication of level of risk. Sorry if you have already said and I missed it