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Seaside

Member since
July 2022

558 posts

Posted Mon February 27, 2023 5:50pmReport post

I haven't posted on here for a while as I've been struggling a bit with things but I'm gradually feeling better and trying to move forward.

My son has now completed his community service payback of 70 hours and will be looking for employment-unfortunately he was forced to resign from his previous job by the visor despite him being classed as low risk ...

We relocated following the knock ( planned beforehand) and luckily nothing was reported in the media at all.

I do find myself feeling sad that my former life has been destroyed and this is not how I ever imagined my retirement would be but this is where we are and we will continue to move forward.

Upset mum

Member since
June 2020

2385 posts

Posted Mon February 27, 2023 6:27pmReport post

Evening Seaside

I was thinking of you and your son just yesterday wondering how you were doing x

Glad you are feeling a bit better in your self,

I am pleased your sons done his hours and that his case wasn't reported in the media xx

It's a journey full of anxiety and anticipation and uncertainty but you will be able to live a new normal in time

I wish your son all the best and hope he finds some work soon x

Hugs sent xx

Seaside

Member since
July 2022

558 posts

Posted Mon February 27, 2023 6:33pmReport post

Thanks Upset your support has been so very much appreciated.

Did you get to see your son at the weekend? Sending you the biggest hug and a hug for your son xx

Upset mum

Member since
June 2020

2385 posts

Posted Mon February 27, 2023 7:16pmReport post

Hi Seaside x

We did he is ok we just get through each day at a time xx

Hugs sent xx

Newlady

Member since
April 2021

644 posts

Posted Mon February 27, 2023 7:19pmReport post

Hey seaside glad you are both starting to move on. Its so gard even after sentencing but I've found I've greuved my old life now and I'm. Moving on stronger than I ever was and making positive choices in my life and it feels good. Do things you enjoy. Get a hobby, join a group. Exercise or bake whatever makes you happy,x

Seaside

Member since
July 2022

558 posts

Posted Mon February 27, 2023 8:21pmReport post

Hi Newlady good to hear that you're doing ok I have been thinking about you a lot.

I am beginning to start doing the things I enjoy such as yoga and painting again

Losteverything

Member since
September 2022

216 posts

Posted Tue February 28, 2023 12:03amReport post

Glad you are moving on Newlady and Seaside. I am grieving for the retirement/ future I thought I was going to have. I love being part of a couple and sharing my life with someone and this has all been snatched away. I spent years on my own bringing my children up and I finally met my soulmate. I was looking forward to taking early retirement, renovating our house and travelling extensively. I'm lucky in that I have great friends but yet again I'm the one on my own in a sea of couples!! I'm angry about the unfairness of it all and feel that everything is ruined. People say I'll meet someone else but I feel miles away from that and I just feel that time is running out for me. I've never felt the happiness that I had before this.

Newlady

Member since
April 2021

644 posts

Posted Tue February 28, 2023 6:52amReport post

Hey you both. Its definitely like a death, you need to go through the mo ions and greige the life you thought you were gonna have and the one you had previously. Took me a long time to process and accept that my life is going to turn out differently than I thought. I actually like my own company and still have my bits coming in and out and a daughter at home so I keep busy with them, friends and work. I'm starting yoga too! And swimming im looking furwars to it. I've cut my hours in work to suit myself and have a better life /work balance. These are small changes I'm. Making yo better my life and gave things to look forward to. I appreciate the little things in life now so that's one positive thing I've taken from all of this. I also lost my sister around time of knock so I've greuved twice but feel like I'm coming out the other side. Keep going lovely people!!! You can do this. As for people saying you'll meet someone else, I've heard that too and I find it very unhelpful when the knkh person you want is your person who did this. I find being happy within yourself is much more important until you move on with another person. Tho King of you all. Ajways xx