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Kt

Member since
January 2023

180 posts

Posted Thu March 2, 2023 3:07pmReport post

Hi Ladies. I'm having a very scared day today. Some days I deal with this ok and other days is like the end of the world.

Apart from being so so angry that my son will now be punished as an adult.

I'm wondering if I should ask the solicitor to call the police to see if cps have got back with a decision, would i hear as soon as cps decide charges or should I just keep on waiting?? Xx

Distressed and pregnant

Member since
November 2020

994 posts

Posted Thu March 2, 2023 3:25pmReport post

Hi,

How long has his case been with cps? I'd advise against contacting the police directly as they won't have any answers for you right now. I don't think they would tell the solicitor until a decision has come back from cps about whether to charge and what charges. I know that the waiting is stressful and scary at times, try to distract yourself at times that you feel that anxiety creeping in. Sending love and strength xxx

Kt

Member since
January 2023

180 posts

Posted Thu March 2, 2023 3:36pmReport post

Hi thank you so much for replying, it's been with CPS since early January. I just have days where I feel like I can't cope with the waiting anymore but because there is absolutely nothing I can do about it I feel powerless and don't know what to do with the emotion. Xxx

Distressed and pregnant

Member since
November 2020

994 posts

Posted Thu March 2, 2023 3:52pmReport post

I completely hear that. Some days there are more emotions than we know how to handle. The most frustrating thing about this journey is realising that when our brains automatically go into practical mode it's not actually helpful because there are elements that there is no practical solution for. If your son is willing to work through some of the modules online and contact lff for the inform plus for young people this may be where you can focus your energy for now. I've done the inform course for family and friends and found it very useful, is this something you could do? While you wait for a charging decision try to build some time into your day where you allow yourself 10 minutes to think of the what ifs and then go and do something else. Allowing yourself time to think but not enough time to get stuck is something I've found beneficial xxx

Kt

Member since
January 2023

180 posts

Posted Thu March 2, 2023 4:09pmReport post

Yes my son has weekly calls with lff helpline, last week had a counselling session call with them and also has a call tonight for the young persons inform course. So I think we may be doing everything possible at the moment.

Media worry is tearing my heart apart. We are going to ask not to print name address or picture of him because he was minor at the time and for protection of my younger son but as I have read this is not always agreed to. We have told close family and friends who have all been so supportive but doesn't stop the worry does it xxx

Polly Pocket

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May 2022

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Posted Thu March 2, 2023 9:19pmReport post

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