Hi Everyone
I haven't posted for a while. I do regularly read the pots on here. My Son was at court today. Crown Court, there has been 3 adjournment so the build up to today was very stressful. It's been over a year since his arrest, just over 1000 images and roughly 30 videos of local. It has been the most traumatic experience we have ever had to go through. My Son has Autism he has engaged with and completed the inform course which was so helpful for him, he also completed the modules and attends weekly SAA 12 step meetings and has worked hard to make changes.
He received a suspended sentence for 18 months shpo for 7 years and has to complete the horizon course. The Judge was very fair, the character references were a great help and the Barrister was amazing.
Please dont give up keep on keeping on. Thanks so much for all the wonderful women on here with all their wisdom. Our Prayers have been answered and I am still in shock and feel very tired mentally. Xx
I haven't posted for a while. I do regularly read the pots on here. My Son was at court today. Crown Court, there has been 3 adjournment so the build up to today was very stressful. It's been over a year since his arrest, just over 1000 images and roughly 30 videos of local. It has been the most traumatic experience we have ever had to go through. My Son has Autism he has engaged with and completed the inform course which was so helpful for him, he also completed the modules and attends weekly SAA 12 step meetings and has worked hard to make changes.
He received a suspended sentence for 18 months shpo for 7 years and has to complete the horizon course. The Judge was very fair, the character references were a great help and the Barrister was amazing.
Please dont give up keep on keeping on. Thanks so much for all the wonderful women on here with all their wisdom. Our Prayers have been answered and I am still in shock and feel very tired mentally. Xx
This is wonderful to hear. Thank you for sharing and good luck to you and your family for the next steps xx
That's great news. That must be a relief.
Hi,
I'm very pleased that the judge seems to have taken everything into account. Wishing you and your son all the best for the future xxx
I'm very pleased that the judge seems to have taken everything into account. Wishing you and your son all the best for the future xxx
Hello Quand
I am so pleased to hear your son has had a good outcome today.
Continue to look after yourselves in the coming days as your emotions may all still be up and down as you fully process everything that has happened.
Thinking of you and your son and wishing you all the best for the future. x
I am so pleased to hear your son has had a good outcome today.
Continue to look after yourselves in the coming days as your emotions may all still be up and down as you fully process everything that has happened.
Thinking of you and your son and wishing you all the best for the future. x
Thank you everyone for your kind words. I was in a state of shock when I posted. My Son had his bag packed and a big part of me was expecting prison, especially as there was a large amount of images and videos. I think I am still in shock, he has a probation meeting this coming week and the Judge wants him to go back in April to review his progress. Its over in one sense and just beginning in another but am definitely not complaining.
I just felt so sad for my Son that it had come to this point. However, the unacceptable became acceptable and there has to be consequences.
Because of his back story and the work that he had done was his saving Grace.
I have felt every emotion under the sun since the "knock".....the anger..the shame...the disgust...the confusion..the rewinding of every memory trying to make sense of the crime. It has been devastating to say the least and bought me to my knees, but I had to get up and fight for my Son.
I became addicted to this group, I log in every day and the information on here is invaluable, I can say from the bottom of my heart that this group gave me hope and understanding and the ability to think differently about these crimes. I also Prayed so much which really help.me get through the difficult days which were many
Lastly I want to thank Lee who is not on here anymore, I thought I was going to need a ventilator when I realised that she had departed from here. Her information and advice was nothing short of gold dust. I did find her and she really helped me and calmed me down. I am hoping that she will come back.
That's not to say that anyone else's advice was not important or needed......a big shout going out to daffodil too. Thanks also Alison you always have a wealth of information.
The most important thing I have learned is there is no point in tormenting yourself, easier said than done. Tomorrow is not promised for anyone and as overwhelming and traumatic it is you will get through it simply because you have to.
Lots of love to you all. I will stay on this group and if I can help anyone I will try my best. Xx
I just felt so sad for my Son that it had come to this point. However, the unacceptable became acceptable and there has to be consequences.
Because of his back story and the work that he had done was his saving Grace.
I have felt every emotion under the sun since the "knock".....the anger..the shame...the disgust...the confusion..the rewinding of every memory trying to make sense of the crime. It has been devastating to say the least and bought me to my knees, but I had to get up and fight for my Son.
I became addicted to this group, I log in every day and the information on here is invaluable, I can say from the bottom of my heart that this group gave me hope and understanding and the ability to think differently about these crimes. I also Prayed so much which really help.me get through the difficult days which were many
Lastly I want to thank Lee who is not on here anymore, I thought I was going to need a ventilator when I realised that she had departed from here. Her information and advice was nothing short of gold dust. I did find her and she really helped me and calmed me down. I am hoping that she will come back.
That's not to say that anyone else's advice was not important or needed......a big shout going out to daffodil too. Thanks also Alison you always have a wealth of information.
The most important thing I have learned is there is no point in tormenting yourself, easier said than done. Tomorrow is not promised for anyone and as overwhelming and traumatic it is you will get through it simply because you have to.
Lots of love to you all. I will stay on this group and if I can help anyone I will try my best. Xx
What a lovely post Quand - I'm so glad you've turned a corner and now see a manageable future.
yes keep supporting us xxxxx
yes keep supporting us xxxxx
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Quand, your post really has given me hope that this does not have to be the end of the world for my son amd us as a family. We are still awaiting cps decision on charges I'm sure we will end up in court (less than 90 images and some videos) and I'm dreading it when it finally comes but reading posts like yours are so needed.
I too come on here every day hoping to read positive stories, xxx
I too come on here every day hoping to read positive stories, xxx
Quand I am so pleased for you and your son after reading your lovely message.
I wish you both all the best as you can now move forward together.
I wish you both all the best as you can now move forward together.
Hi Quand
Thanks for your lovely post.
I feel the sharing of our experiences and knowledge can not be underestimated in the support, advice and strength we can give to each other.
I too, miss Lee, and so many on here will be able to relate to your ventilator comment!
I hope one day that she may post again.
Wishing you and your son the very best for the future and I am so pleased that you are continung to remain on the forum to help/support others.
Thanks for your lovely post.
I feel the sharing of our experiences and knowledge can not be underestimated in the support, advice and strength we can give to each other.
I too, miss Lee, and so many on here will be able to relate to your ventilator comment!
I hope one day that she may post again.
Wishing you and your son the very best for the future and I am so pleased that you are continung to remain on the forum to help/support others.
Evening Quand
So glad to read your post and for the outcome for your son xx
I wish nothing but all the very best to you all.as you rebuild a new normal life xx
So glad to read your post and for the outcome for your son xx
I wish nothing but all the very best to you all.as you rebuild a new normal life xx
Does 7 years shpo mean on the register for 7 years please? Xx
KT
Sor is the register that has its own rules
Shpo is the restrictions or rules that go in line with sor so contact or internet based or both.
7 years shpo could be the same as 7 years sor but some cases they get one longer than the other. The visor team told us if that happens they basically reinstate the shpo so say sor 10 shpo 5 they would redo it . Not sure if that's true or if they were trying to scare us because this was told before sentencing
Sor is the register that has its own rules
Shpo is the restrictions or rules that go in line with sor so contact or internet based or both.
7 years shpo could be the same as 7 years sor but some cases they get one longer than the other. The visor team told us if that happens they basically reinstate the shpo so say sor 10 shpo 5 they would redo it . Not sure if that's true or if they were trying to scare us because this was told before sentencing
Ahh OK, thank you very much scaredandconfused xxx