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Confused&worried

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June 2022

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Posted Fri March 3, 2023 10:32amReport post

After 8 months fighting with SS so that it doesn't happen, the SW is going into my children's school today to speak to them about their "lived experiences".

I have so many emotions going on, it feels like my body is to small to contain my feelings.

I have fought so hard to stop this, but have no choice now as SS threatened to start care proceedings and have my children taken into Foster care.

My children are so happy and loved, they are so well rounded kids. They love school and hobbies. I am just so scared that this will take their innocence away and create trauma that will last a lifetime.

I do not believe that my OH has hurt them.

Today is even worse than the day of the knock, I just want my babies in my arms.

K4

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October 2022

608 posts

Posted Fri March 3, 2023 11:05amReport post

Hugs to you, so sorry they and you are going through this



xxx

Life feels over

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Posted Fri March 3, 2023 11:05amReport post

I have no words to offer comfort except I see you and hear you and send you love & strength x

Seaside

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Posted Fri March 3, 2023 12:42pmReport post

Sending you so much love and strength for today xx

hpl111

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Posted Fri March 3, 2023 1:50pmReport post

Gosh, I am so sorry. Hugs. I always say that British Social Services are the modern day version of Gestapo.

What does this meeting entail? I am so sorry xx

Upset mum

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June 2020

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Posted Fri March 3, 2023 2:54pmReport post

Hi Confused&worried

No advise but just wanted to send you hugs and strength xx

Dragonmama

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Posted Fri March 3, 2023 3:22pmReport post

Same sort of boat, sending love and support to you xx

HelpMe

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Posted Fri March 3, 2023 3:28pmReport post

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Confused&worried

Member since
June 2022

326 posts

Posted Fri March 3, 2023 6:54pmReport post

Thank you all.

The children didn't disclose any wrong doing. Although that is what I expected, its still a relief.

They have been told that "Daddy got in trouble for looking at things he shouldn't on the Internet". Then proceeded to ask if they had seen anything online from a body map.

I think my son is oblivious, 7 yo and neuro-diverse. My 9 yo old daughter will probably brew on it and have questions later.

They know that I am here for them and that's the best I can offer right now.

K4

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October 2022

608 posts

Posted Fri March 3, 2023 7:00pmReport post

Sigh of relief for you and a big hug. Well done on getting through today xx

Upset mum

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Posted Fri March 3, 2023 7:52pmReport post

A bit of relief Confused&worried

I dont have young children so I cannot even begin to understand how you are feeling and coping but as a mum I can totally understand how much you want to protect them xx

Xxx

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March 2022

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Posted Sat March 4, 2023 8:01pmReport post

Sorry your going through this :( it's horrible . I didn't want them to go to my daughter's school but she has been twice and is going again but she says she is just going to talk to her generally and see how she is so goodness noes. The day she came and said I have been to the school I was so upset I couldn't stop crying and I was so angry at them .

I keep getting asked on the core group calls what does my daughter know and what have I told her in to regaurds of a disclose .

I hope once they have been and spoke to them and as time goes on SS will back off abit and give you a break xxx

Confused&worried

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June 2022

326 posts

Posted Sun March 5, 2023 8:51amReport post

Xxx, I'm hoping the same.

I have a protection conference on Tuesday, I've been told to expect to stay on the CPP plan for another 6 months. I've also been told that they're are taking me to PLO, I'm just waiting for the letter.

It seems to me that SS idea of "protection" is completely different to ours as mothers. I feel like I need to protect my children from SS as much as their dad.

I feel like SS have worn all the fight out of me.

Submissive is not my natural default state but I'd do what ever they tell me right now just get get them to back the f@ck off!!!!