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SoTired

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K4

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Posted Sun March 12, 2023 7:34amReport post

Sotired, I second what Daffodil says. But I also understand the impulse. I have just taken on a big promotion in the knowledge that the work will keep me busy around the time of OH's potential charges/court dates.



I figure I'll go to a spa for a week or something when this is all over. Maybe we can do it together and just melt down into puddles of residual stress??



well done on the rooms looking lovely



x

Smile through tears

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Posted Sun March 12, 2023 8:23amReport post

Can I send you my address?

Seriously well done for your hard work - it takes guts to target your anxiety into something productive.

But as the ladies say dont over do it..... xxxxx

Seaside

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Posted Sun March 12, 2023 8:47amReport post

Well done on all your hard work and I know exactly where you are coming from on this because I too tend to overwork in order to take my mind off things that are overwhelming.

Dont overdo it though and try to take some time just for yourself ( easier said than done I know)

Wouldnt it be lovely to have a group meet up with all you wonderful ladies at a spa ?- maybe we could all have a virtual pamper session together on a particular day?

Sending you lots of love and hugs xx

Smile through tears

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Posted Sun March 12, 2023 9:07amReport post

love the idea of a virtual pamper day Seaside - my white towel awaits!

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K4

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Posted Sun March 12, 2023 10:37amReport post

100% virtual pamper day, ladies!!



I don't actually like spas because wandering about in a dressing gown and damp bathers all day is odd.



I Will be in a log cabin in woods by a lake.



you're welcome to join me (especially if you know how to light a fire)



x

Upset mum

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Posted Sun March 12, 2023 10:43amReport post

Good morning So tired x

Totally agree with what these lovlies have said dont push yourself to hard though xx

Bet the rooms look great

SPA day, Log cabin would be fantastic talk about bliss just been with you all xx

SoTired

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SoTired

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Polly Pocket

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Posted Sun March 12, 2023 6:47pmReport post

I stripped my house last summer. My bedroom went back to brick, anything I could change, I did! Bathroom and kitchen remain the same but everything else of re decorated. New carpets, the lot!

I couldn't think of anything worse now so I got it out of my system!

SoTired

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Polly Pocket

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Posted Sun March 12, 2023 10:51pmReport post

No, unfortunately it doesn't feel lovely. It feels terrifying and sad and temporary.

I can't imagine ever feeling safe here again.

It was a good distraction for a while though! Take it easy- if you are manic, you'll crash at some point and that's gonna feel hard! Lots of love xx

Grey isn't my favourite- I'm pink through and through :)

SoTired

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Smile through tears

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SoTired

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Lola53

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Posted Mon March 13, 2023 12:39pmReport post

K4, no spa for me, I'm joining you in that log cabin in the woods.

We moved house about 6 months after my son got the knock; it was a planned move and nothing to do with the knock but I'm glad we did it. The memories of my children growing up there were definitely tainted by what had happened.

We have now taken on a huge renovation project which totally fulfills the manic need to keep busy - I totally understand that impulse. The more stressed I am, the busier I get and there's definitely an element of control in that too; everything has to be perfectly in its place as a kind of coping mechanism.

K4

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Posted Mon March 13, 2023 1:26pmReport post

You can decorate the cabin if you get the urge while we're there x

Lola53

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Posted Mon March 13, 2023 5:37pmReport post

I'm working on a mood board already!! x

Dragonmama

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Posted Mon March 13, 2023 6:13pmReport post

Lol same thing here accept it was cleaning, my house was spotless not a speck of dust or dirt anywhere (which is stupidly impressive with two kids) I went totally bonkers with cleaning, up side I have found some great products to clean the hob without having to scrub the hell out of it lol

SoTired

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