Son’s birthday blues
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Yesterday was my sons birthday and his dad obviously wasn't there because of being on remand, all my little boy wanted was for his dad to be home, it near broke my heart having to tell him he's "at work" and can't come home. Couldn't even call him as it's not allowed.
feel so sad for my little one and so angry at his dad at the same time.
feel so sad for my little one and so angry at his dad at the same time.
It's heartbreaking indon't understand how a phonecall isn't allowed, I'm in the same position we are waiting on weather I can supervise contact with our daughter or not and asked about phonecalls said if it is it won't be video calls witch I understand but it's the children that are suffering as they don't understand, you'd think they would make acception for his birthday
Hi
social services don't care, besides when a person is in jail for sexual offences they automatically place a child protection on the prisoner which means can't even send a letter to a child or receive one either.
I really hope you get to supervise it's a pain in the butt to try find someone always available to supervise or always use a contact centre. It's not fair on the kids at all. But as I said social services don't care, they only want to cover their own butts. I hope I can eventually supervise too but doubt they will let me.
social services don't care, besides when a person is in jail for sexual offences they automatically place a child protection on the prisoner which means can't even send a letter to a child or receive one either.
I really hope you get to supervise it's a pain in the butt to try find someone always available to supervise or always use a contact centre. It's not fair on the kids at all. But as I said social services don't care, they only want to cover their own butts. I hope I can eventually supervise too but doubt they will let me.
That's my worry I think they are gonna come back and say no because the last visit she just kept going on about being concerned that we don't resume a relationship as I told her I won't be deciding until after sentencing I told her it wouldn't be happening but she didn't seem convinced I felt like she was treating me like a teenager that can't control myself. We don't have anyone else to supervise it's stupid because my daughter is nearly 15 but has additional needs so I already supervise her constantly since she was born I'm pretty much her shadow in the house and in public because of her vulnerability I never take my eyes off her.
Hi cherry,
im in the same boat but I've told them I'm getting a legal separation (which is true). There is no one else who can supervise for us either as moved here then pandemic hit didn't really have a chance to make friends, and the ones we did had children of their own or are unwilling to supervise.
I truely hope that you are able to supervise however I do also find it to be a bit silly as your son is 15, I think at 16 that they don't do much by way of supervision as your child will be over age of consent by law and in their eyes (I'm not saying your other half will do anything to you child) but ss like to cover their own a***s and don't really care otherwise
im in the same boat but I've told them I'm getting a legal separation (which is true). There is no one else who can supervise for us either as moved here then pandemic hit didn't really have a chance to make friends, and the ones we did had children of their own or are unwilling to supervise.
I truely hope that you are able to supervise however I do also find it to be a bit silly as your son is 15, I think at 16 that they don't do much by way of supervision as your child will be over age of consent by law and in their eyes (I'm not saying your other half will do anything to you child) but ss like to cover their own a***s and don't really care otherwise
Dragonmama
Thank you I hope so but Your probably right I think they would use her disability as well to their advantage? Or would that be discrimination? I don't know theirs so many unknowns it gives me bad anxiety to think about.
Thank you I hope so but Your probably right I think they would use her disability as well to their advantage? Or would that be discrimination? I don't know theirs so many unknowns it gives me bad anxiety to think about.
Cherry
i am pretty sure it is discrimination but it does depend on if it's physical or mental disability. If physical but she understands everything it will most likely be 16, if it's mental then it might be 18 or possibly older (adult social would then be involved).
for your sake and mine I hope we both can just supervise, I don't think ss actually have a clue on just how hard this is on us and our children.
I think Social are still working off a play book from the 70s if I'm honest, they need updating and seriously not treating us as criminals when we are innocent.
i am pretty sure it is discrimination but it does depend on if it's physical or mental disability. If physical but she understands everything it will most likely be 16, if it's mental then it might be 18 or possibly older (adult social would then be involved).
for your sake and mine I hope we both can just supervise, I don't think ss actually have a clue on just how hard this is on us and our children.
I think Social are still working off a play book from the 70s if I'm honest, they need updating and seriously not treating us as criminals when we are innocent.
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