New SS assessment post sentencing
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Hi everyone,
Im having a bad day today. Thankfully I do have more good days than bad now so I'm learning to roll with it.
I try not to come on here too much and notice there are lots of new names, which means many more people going thru this awful experience :(
those who don't know my partner got a suspended sentence for making iioc a-c last year.
we have remained together, our children were on a CIN plan initially and then it got closed as I could supervise. He was then allowed back home post sentencing then visor refered back to SS to do another risk assessment, despite him being allowed home a while ?!?! I think this should have been done before he moved home but he messed up.
those of you who have had SS involved again post sentencing, how did that go? What was the second assessment like? I'm told this will be a closing assessment just to keep paperwork right as our children are now old enough to understand what's happened. It seems to be taking a while as they don't have any concerns and he's living at home, yet we are still open to SS and nobody is making it clear whether he is allowed unsupervised access or not. No contact restrictions on SHPO.
Im having a bad day today. Thankfully I do have more good days than bad now so I'm learning to roll with it.
I try not to come on here too much and notice there are lots of new names, which means many more people going thru this awful experience :(
those who don't know my partner got a suspended sentence for making iioc a-c last year.
we have remained together, our children were on a CIN plan initially and then it got closed as I could supervise. He was then allowed back home post sentencing then visor refered back to SS to do another risk assessment, despite him being allowed home a while ?!?! I think this should have been done before he moved home but he messed up.
those of you who have had SS involved again post sentencing, how did that go? What was the second assessment like? I'm told this will be a closing assessment just to keep paperwork right as our children are now old enough to understand what's happened. It seems to be taking a while as they don't have any concerns and he's living at home, yet we are still open to SS and nobody is making it clear whether he is allowed unsupervised access or not. No contact restrictions on SHPO.
Hi,
We had a post sentencing referral and it was just a call to me asking if I was still happy with the safety plan and the arrangements. We then had another referral on the grounds that probation felt we were resuming our relationship. I also wanted a referral for me to supervise alone. This one was slightly more in depth than the original post sentencing one but still no assessment on my person just my capability to protect. Are you following a safety plan already and supervising? This may be a good time to ask about unsupervised if it's something that you want and feel would be best for your children. If you have a safety plan that ss are happy with then although no restrictions on SHPO I would still follow it until they say otherwise just incase xxx
We had a post sentencing referral and it was just a call to me asking if I was still happy with the safety plan and the arrangements. We then had another referral on the grounds that probation felt we were resuming our relationship. I also wanted a referral for me to supervise alone. This one was slightly more in depth than the original post sentencing one but still no assessment on my person just my capability to protect. Are you following a safety plan already and supervising? This may be a good time to ask about unsupervised if it's something that you want and feel would be best for your children. If you have a safety plan that ss are happy with then although no restrictions on SHPO I would still follow it until they say otherwise just incase xxx
This is the thing. I have always been able to supervise from day 1. But after sentencing I have it in writing from SS to begin leaving my children with partner (their dad) for small amount of times and build it up. This to me, along with no contact SHPO, and being allowed to live back home, was allowing unsupervised contact.
Now with this new referral they have backtracked a little and contested what they meant by small amounts of time - as in going in the bath, as aposed to going shopping for a few hours. I hate how we haven't had any real guidance and I still feel like I'm in limbo x
Now with this new referral they have backtracked a little and contested what they meant by small amounts of time - as in going in the bath, as aposed to going shopping for a few hours. I hate how we haven't had any real guidance and I still feel like I'm in limbo x
Jayjay
We're currently going through phased return we are a few months post sentencing but our case never got closed they've been involved the whole time. We haven't had any help from day one I've had to use my own logic of no personal care or anything else he could of still done it because nobody said he couldn't. My oh still needs to be supervised even when staying at home for the night. I ask mentioned unsupervised at a gradual process but they've pretty much by passed it at the moment I did bring it up on the last cin meeting and she said to see if he is still classed as low risk through the phased return. My children are tiny and i am here 24/7 anyway but I don't want to be supervising for another 16 years until their adults
We're currently going through phased return we are a few months post sentencing but our case never got closed they've been involved the whole time. We haven't had any help from day one I've had to use my own logic of no personal care or anything else he could of still done it because nobody said he couldn't. My oh still needs to be supervised even when staying at home for the night. I ask mentioned unsupervised at a gradual process but they've pretty much by passed it at the moment I did bring it up on the last cin meeting and she said to see if he is still classed as low risk through the phased return. My children are tiny and i am here 24/7 anyway but I don't want to be supervising for another 16 years until their adults
Don't get me wrong I have been using common sense, no personal care etc. but I just wish SS would put their neck on the line and say yes or no. Case was closed they knew he was going to move back eventually and said they wouldn't get involved again, which goes against everything else I've read. Visor gave permission to move back home. Now they are involved again, yet no plan, waiting 5 months for another assessment, no meetings etc.
I hope everything is going ok or well as it can be Jayjay.
Probation and visor will only contact children services when there has been a change childrens services prefer to assess and allow moving back in they work very differently have have different ideas of priorities although really all should have kids at the heart but we know that's not the case!
probation told my person he could have unsupervised (legally) with our kids I was like Woah I need SS to sign this off SW said this would have been child protection if you did this! Duh I knew that hence why I didn't allow it!!
Probation and visor will only contact children services when there has been a change childrens services prefer to assess and allow moving back in they work very differently have have different ideas of priorities although really all should have kids at the heart but we know that's not the case!
probation told my person he could have unsupervised (legally) with our kids I was like Woah I need SS to sign this off SW said this would have been child protection if you did this! Duh I knew that hence why I didn't allow it!!
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