I have a PLO meeting today.
Yesterday I told my closest friend what was going on for the first time. She's been a health visitor for many years and was able to make me see things the way SS do in a rational, non emotional way. It has made me realise that I need to step back from my marriage for the sake of my children.
I do believe that the risk is manageable but I don't think SS are ready to hear that.
I believe that everything I have done and fought for (and I fight like a lioness protecting her cubs) was right for my children. However, the PLO has changed the field of play and I need to change my tactics.
My husband is feeling abandoned, and all I can think is "well you created this shit storm, so tough!"
Yesterday I told my closest friend what was going on for the first time. She's been a health visitor for many years and was able to make me see things the way SS do in a rational, non emotional way. It has made me realise that I need to step back from my marriage for the sake of my children.
I do believe that the risk is manageable but I don't think SS are ready to hear that.
I believe that everything I have done and fought for (and I fight like a lioness protecting her cubs) was right for my children. However, the PLO has changed the field of play and I need to change my tactics.
My husband is feeling abandoned, and all I can think is "well you created this shit storm, so tough!"
Good luck with your meeting and well done on telling your friend.
please May I ask what your friend said in particular that helped you see SS perspective?
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please May I ask what your friend said in particular that helped you see SS perspective?
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She knows me very well, has known me for 30 years, since we were kids. She knows that I am fiery and feisty, she understands that I have not been able to process what has happened.
When I told her what I was saying to SS about hoping that my family could survive and questioning them about thing my OH has been accused of, but he denies, she said she would be worried of she were a professional listening to it.
I think the problem is, to me it is so obvious that my children will always come ahead of EVERYONE, that I don't say it enough and all SS hear is me talking about my OH.
When I told her what I was saying to SS about hoping that my family could survive and questioning them about thing my OH has been accused of, but he denies, she said she would be worried of she were a professional listening to it.
I think the problem is, to me it is so obvious that my children will always come ahead of EVERYONE, that I don't say it enough and all SS hear is me talking about my OH.
That's really interesting, I suppose lots of us do the same - isn't it obvious that I want to protect my children?? why would I need to talk about that???
thank you for your response and how lucky you are to have a friend who can help you (you both sound awesome)
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thank you for your response and how lucky you are to have a friend who can help you (you both sound awesome)
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I just wanted to check as you are in PLO you have a solicitor and you are getting legal aid? These meetings are to legally outline what the LA/ss are concerned about so hopefully you now have some clear guidance and a plan to work towards x
Yes, I had a lovely lady representing me.
The PLO went well. I actually got an apology for some of the things that SS have done up to this point.
The solicitor has agreed to giving me legal advise probono when the PLO is over.
The PLO went well. I actually got an apology for some of the things that SS have done up to this point.
The solicitor has agreed to giving me legal advise probono when the PLO is over.