They don't know their ar$e from their elbow.
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Our SW has just called me to say that probation have asked why I don't let my husband in the house.
Part of our CPP set by SS is that my OH is only allowed contact with our children in the community, supervised by myself. We have been sticking by this rule since July last year, yet the SW seemed completely surprised that it was even part of the plan!!!!
Part of our CPP set by SS is that my OH is only allowed contact with our children in the community, supervised by myself. We have been sticking by this rule since July last year, yet the SW seemed completely surprised that it was even part of the plan!!!!
Why am I not suprised - so many people are so complacent in their work - to them it's probably not ticking a box but to you it's all important.
Yet if someone on licence makes an error it's an immediate return to prison card!
Yet if someone on licence makes an error it's an immediate return to prison card!
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And these are people who are meant to protect children but are incapable of following their own plans and say that we are incapable of protecting our own children.
Yes it seems to be this way, there is no way I could be as incompetent at my job! I can't say too much but I will say my childrens father was found guilty in January he registered at police station he doesn't live here but does spend >12 here with our 2 children (supervised atm) and... no one has contacted me to tell me he is on the SOR. Go figure?
I had to refer myself to Childrens Services as apparently the referral the PO made the case was closed without even contacting me! Apparently that's because he has said he is supervised with the kids and he has told me of his offence but for all they really know he may have told me he was acquitted and could be having unsupervised as no one has even bothered to check with me! Thanks for safeguarding my kids!!!! To boulster my argument for this he said he wasn't guilty in court and he was found guilty I would say then a 'proven liar' but they beleive him when it suits them.
I just want to scream at the morons! But Ofcourse they don't deal with me just him becasue they missed the memo of working together to safeguard children.
the offence was with a decoy so the only kids getting harmed in this are my kids!
I had to refer myself to Childrens Services as apparently the referral the PO made the case was closed without even contacting me! Apparently that's because he has said he is supervised with the kids and he has told me of his offence but for all they really know he may have told me he was acquitted and could be having unsupervised as no one has even bothered to check with me! Thanks for safeguarding my kids!!!! To boulster my argument for this he said he wasn't guilty in court and he was found guilty I would say then a 'proven liar' but they beleive him when it suits them.
I just want to scream at the morons! But Ofcourse they don't deal with me just him becasue they missed the memo of working together to safeguard children.
the offence was with a decoy so the only kids getting harmed in this are my kids!
What is so upsetting is the amount of money we've spent to have days out or the kids being freezing cold in a park when we could have done something at home!
Isn't it funny how everyone knew who you were talking about just off reading the title! X
Finally got a reply week after phoning social worker! Good job I didn't need something urgent usual flaff no answers no movement
Core group meeting this week. I was told not to "hen peck" my other half.
I seriously can't keep up. Seems to me , ss want no less than perfection.
Be protective enough, but if your too protective that's not good. Don't trust the offender, but if you're to un-trusting they want to know why. Don't minimise, but don't "hen peck".
I seriously can't keep up. Seems to me , ss want no less than perfection.
Be protective enough, but if your too protective that's not good. Don't trust the offender, but if you're to un-trusting they want to know why. Don't minimise, but don't "hen peck".
I'm cross on your behalf. How completely unprofessional of them. I hope that's in the minutes from the meeting that this was said to you. Absolutely disgusting
I have a whole list of errors SS have made in the 2 years I've been dealing with them. The worst one was my person was having a Adverse Childhood Experience course run by CS. He said to the lady that since the knock he had viewed normal adult porn twice and then decided it wasn't for him. The lady fed this back to CS and our SW manager who told the police and SW that he'd accessed "indecent" images since the arrest. So I then had the SW come and tell me this and after the 2nd interview police met with me and told me the same. I told both of them this information was incorrect and he'd only accessed legal stuff. My person hit the roof, emailed SW manager and copied in police officer in charge and solicitor saying that this was incorrect. SW manager then replied and apologised saying she'd used the incorrect word. She used "indecent" instead of pornography. Even the police officer was shocked that she'd made such an error. Luckily police officer hadn't included any of that in the report to CPS....but what if she had? Could have been so damaging!
In the beginning after the knock they also told me anyone who I wanted to help look after the kids had to have a DBS check so I gave them the names of several people to do checks on. 6 weeks later the kids were put on CIN plan and 3 weeks after that I was chasing the SW saying have the DBS checks come back yet. She then said "oh if they're on a CIN anyone I deem safe can look after them! What the actual.......! So for all that time I was paying for my then 3yo to have full time childcare and my 6yo to go to breakfast and after school club! It cost more than my mortgage payment! I was so cross!
I just feel like it's a tick box exercise for them. Luckily the SW we have now is very good but the manager is not seeing the bigger picture and clearly see's our family as another case number with no human feelings or needs.
In the beginning after the knock they also told me anyone who I wanted to help look after the kids had to have a DBS check so I gave them the names of several people to do checks on. 6 weeks later the kids were put on CIN plan and 3 weeks after that I was chasing the SW saying have the DBS checks come back yet. She then said "oh if they're on a CIN anyone I deem safe can look after them! What the actual.......! So for all that time I was paying for my then 3yo to have full time childcare and my 6yo to go to breakfast and after school club! It cost more than my mortgage payment! I was so cross!
I just feel like it's a tick box exercise for them. Luckily the SW we have now is very good but the manager is not seeing the bigger picture and clearly see's our family as another case number with no human feelings or needs.
It's an absolute joke. I keep telling them that when they clock off work, I'm still living this.
I actually had a complaint upheld because my data was shared without my permission, they then went and shared it again to new people.
I actually had a complaint upheld because my data was shared without my permission, they then went and shared it again to new people.
I'm incredibly frustrated with my SW equally. It's all started early this year for us. The social worker came over the very next day, and said she needed to complete a report in a month. We stacked up 4 meetings in 3 weeks, allowing time for her annual leave, and for her report to be done timely. Since then she was late, rescheduled appointments, postponed the deadline, even forgot an appointment. No show! Managed to get her notes soaked, kept asking same questions, and has failed to conclude that report, yet still.
I'm so tired.
I'm so tired.
Their incompetence is draining. Clearly they are under staffed and over worked.....but you know what, that's not our problem ladies. They put these (sometimes ridiculous) restrictions on us, put in place plans that we stick by meticulously but don't stick to their side of the plan. On all our CIN/CP meeting invitations my daughters DOB was incorrect for 18months! They say the children have to be visited every 10 days so I have to endure a visit at 6/6.30pm in the evening when I've just finished work, trying to get the kids dinner and to bed but yet when our SW was on holiday for a month and off sick, they either don't arrange visits(once the kids went 3 weeks without one) or a random person shows up at school to visit and I get told by the kids, no one communicates with me? Honestly I'm pretty sure I have PTSD from SS. Everytime I have to communicate with them, have a meeting or visit I get terrible anxiety, panic attacks and suffer for days after. I've just had enough of them. Eerything ferls like a battle. I've not committed any crime but my goodness they make me feel that I have!
Your story echos mine. I refuse to let a duty SW see my children, 2 of my children have autism so really struggling socially. I also refused unannounced visits because my kids are not good with people is the house.
SS didn't see this as me protecting the children's emotional wellbeing so they said if I didn't do what they want they would take me to court to have my children removed.
SS have definitely been the worst part of this journey.
SS didn't see this as me protecting the children's emotional wellbeing so they said if I didn't do what they want they would take me to court to have my children removed.
SS have definitely been the worst part of this journey.
Case now closed to childrens services soo many inacuracies doesn't my child deserve to read factual information in the future! Feel like not bothering as it will be consuming ie that panicky feeling however is not right! So Tuesday I think I'll be on the phone!