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They may look at the referral and do nothing they may read the case history and feel there is adequate plans in place.

They may want to make another assessment and whist they undertake that assessment they may ask 'recommend' things ie no unsupervised or move out however these are recommendations you do not have to agree to them. However this could mean it escalates or it may not.

If they make contact with you then I think it's important you share your view point of how protective you are and what is in place probation may be wording things differently.

Also did she phone you to tell you this or leave your son to do it?

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I'm a SW and I would not panic about this. If your younger son is 16 he has a lot of say in the situation and would be seen as most likely being able to protect himself as long as he has an understanding of keeping himself safe, how to report etc.

Hi,

Ss can override po in terms of safeguarding. The sw did in my case. The age of your younger son will definitely impact on their decision. If he is fully aware of the offences and has a support network of people he can talk to and report anything that he isn't comfortable with then there should be no reason for your older son to move out. I know that it's hard not to spiral in your own thoughts but the best thing you can do is to go over your safety plan and try to identify any areas that you might add to. I remember you saying before that you reported the breach and also went to ss to notify them, forgive me if I'm wrong in that. This will go in your favour with ss and tbh it should with probation too as this shows you're supportive and also not enabling your son to duck any of his responsibilities. You are more than capable of protecting your children, you know this already. Breathe and maybe get outside for a while. Sending love and strength xxx

Hope you're okay SoTired x

SoTired

Just wanted to check in on you that you are ok?xx

Thank you for the update SoTired

Was worried about you

What a nightmare for you all x

Sending strength and hugs xx

Thank you for updating us. I was worried when you had deleted posts. I am pleased that your son will not be on a plan and that your older son can remain at home. Can I ask how you requested the assessment to be done by a team leader please? I'm hoping that when we go back that we can make a similar request as tbh something that really added to my stress last time was the constant "I'll need to run that by my manager" I'd rather deal with someone who can make decisions instead of relying on a sw to remember all the facts of all of their cases for a weekly meeting with their manager. The woodwork will still need painting when you've entered back into a normal state, fight and flight is the worst feeling xxx

Ah, thank you. I'm not sure either. We're years away from going back to them tbh but it's always in my head xxx