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My husband waa arrested in February for downloading illegal images and had also been on forums talking about fantasies. He hasn't been charged yet and is under investigation. He has admitted to me that he has been viewing images for yeara. at the moment social services are saying two supervised visits a week and no direct contact with our 12 year old son. These visits are already emotionally killing me as I despise my husband and feel he uses the time to try and get close to me. I wondered whether these visits will always be supervised? So if the police find he did not actually contact or touch a child, will they let my husband see my son unsupervised. Or if he is convicting of viewing the images will we always have to do supervises visits until my son is 18? I can't bear the thought of it although I will obviously do it for the sake of my son. At the moment he is really struggling not having his dad living at home. It breaks my heart to see him so sad and I'm so angry my husband has caused him so much pain. Thanks all for your advice

Thank you AllMyFault. It really is such claustrophic feeling having to spend time with my husband. I feel like my son is picking up on my negativity which is not good for him either. I fear if I can't keep up a positive atmosphere my son will think I'm being horrible to his dad. I just can't think of anyone else who will be prepared to supervise these visits right now. I think I now need to tell my son that we are divorcing and it will break his heart. But he does need to know. Just don't know how to explain without sounding like I am blaming his dad. But then he is to blame! Does anyone have any tips on how to approach that conversation?



sending love to anyone else dealing with these awful issues x