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I've been reading the posts for a while, finally plucked up the courage to post.
My OH was arrested for distributing, and had devices taken for forensics. His ex was found in possesion and also arrested but blamed my oh for sending the messages.
Ss have done a assesment on his ex and dropped the case saying that there is no reason to be concerned about her ability to look after the kids. My OH is on bail and currently not able to see his kids, who he loves dearly and would do anything for. We dont know if there is still a police investigation regarding his ex.
I guess my question is, how can they charge my OH if no images are found, and how can they not charge someone who is in possession? Something doesn't add up in my eyes
I've been reading the posts for a while, finally plucked up the courage to post.
My OH was arrested for distributing, and had devices taken for forensics. His ex was found in possesion and also arrested but blamed my oh for sending the messages.
Ss have done a assesment on his ex and dropped the case saying that there is no reason to be concerned about her ability to look after the kids. My OH is on bail and currently not able to see his kids, who he loves dearly and would do anything for. We dont know if there is still a police investigation regarding his ex.
I guess my question is, how can they charge my OH if no images are found, and how can they not charge someone who is in possession? Something doesn't add up in my eyes
Hello, just wanted to say welcome to the club no one wants to be in, but we are all very supportive and caring so ask/vent/rant whenever you feel the need we are all here for you.
now is it possible that his ex is trying to be vindictive and trying to get him put away for something? Is it at all possible that your oh has sent some stuff she shouldn't have? I'm guessing here that the forensics have not come back yet?
it's possible that the ex has been "cleared" because she is a woman and unfortunately women usually are not the normal perpetrators of this type of thing, how sure she has been "cleared". this might be also the reason your OH hasn't been cleared yet because a. forensics haven't come back and b. because he's male (I'm not saying it's right btw but usually most iioc is committed by men)
I do hope for all involved that this situation you are in gets sorted soon.
Hugs being sent your way as no one wants to be here but we are all here for one another xx
now is it possible that his ex is trying to be vindictive and trying to get him put away for something? Is it at all possible that your oh has sent some stuff she shouldn't have? I'm guessing here that the forensics have not come back yet?
it's possible that the ex has been "cleared" because she is a woman and unfortunately women usually are not the normal perpetrators of this type of thing, how sure she has been "cleared". this might be also the reason your OH hasn't been cleared yet because a. forensics haven't come back and b. because he's male (I'm not saying it's right btw but usually most iioc is committed by men)
I do hope for all involved that this situation you are in gets sorted soon.
Hugs being sent your way as no one wants to be here but we are all here for one another xx
Hey,
Sorry you find yourself here. It may be the wording but it sounds as though no charges have yet been pressed.
SS can close a case before charges are brought so this doesn't mean his ex won't be charged. The charging criteria is whether a crime has been committed (having indecent image(s) on a device or distributing image(s). If a crime is established then it's a matter for the CPS to determine whether there is proof the individual committed said crime and whether it is in the public interest to do so.
Sorry you find yourself here. It may be the wording but it sounds as though no charges have yet been pressed.
SS can close a case before charges are brought so this doesn't mean his ex won't be charged. The charging criteria is whether a crime has been committed (having indecent image(s) on a device or distributing image(s). If a crime is established then it's a matter for the CPS to determine whether there is proof the individual committed said crime and whether it is in the public interest to do so.
Thank you for your response.
No there hasn't been any charges yet, OH was bailed, and then rebailed as there are still laptops to be checked, its been 5 months so far. He says that he has not been involved and is adimant that his devices will come back clean, so atm I have no reason to not believe him, that's not to say I don't worry. We both understand the severity of the alligations, and do understand that nobody can just take his word for it. But as you said I do believe that he is being made the main suspect as he is male (well I hope so anyway).
I just hope that they can hurry up with the devices, not just for my peace of mind, but also watching him fall apart as he has no communication with his children, is also heartbreaking.
I think it's important to say he was only arrested for distribution, not possession, so I'm hoping that this is just a matter of checking his devices to rule him out. Not that it makes the current situation any easier :(
No there hasn't been any charges yet, OH was bailed, and then rebailed as there are still laptops to be checked, its been 5 months so far. He says that he has not been involved and is adimant that his devices will come back clean, so atm I have no reason to not believe him, that's not to say I don't worry. We both understand the severity of the alligations, and do understand that nobody can just take his word for it. But as you said I do believe that he is being made the main suspect as he is male (well I hope so anyway).
I just hope that they can hurry up with the devices, not just for my peace of mind, but also watching him fall apart as he has no communication with his children, is also heartbreaking.
I think it's important to say he was only arrested for distribution, not possession, so I'm hoping that this is just a matter of checking his devices to rule him out. Not that it makes the current situation any easier :(