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Welcome to the wide awake club! I'm okay unless the dog wake me up and then I struggle to get back to sleep as my mind starts whirring away.

I have a good bed routine. Always go to bed at 10. Phone stays downstairs. No caffeine after lunch. Try not to watch anything to scary just before bed! After arrest, when I was really struggling, I found a sleep meditation really helped me to switch off. I also find switching off tv/phone etc an hour or so before bed helps as it gives the mind time to wind down while pottering about. I use the Bedtime mode on phone and tablet. I also do most of my processing when walking the dog in the morning.

I think you also need to cut yourself a bit of slack. You need to leave enough in the pot for you. Nobody is going to criticise you for not being totally on top of everything x

Hey So tired... I would definitely say my best tip to help at bedtime is not touching my phone once I am in bed.

Nice hot bubble bath and no phone xxx

I can easily fall asleep when I go to bed - it's the staying asleep that's the problem, and the demons that come calling at about 3am. Sleep meditation is the only thing that works for me; I use ones on Spotify, in particular Yogi Bryan.

I'm also a member of the wide awake club !!

I just can't seem to switch off my brain and 3 am usually finds me either ironing or sitting up in bed with my thoughts wirring.

I'm going to try doing some yoga and see if that helps but I've tried just about everything else ( except sleeping pills which I really don't want to take)- camonmile tea, baths etc no good.

Like you So tired I was also a teacher so used to working late preparing stuff for the following day with my brain on overload.

Maybe we should arrange a can't sleep message time with a playlist of soothing music?

Usually similar to Lola53 - drop off quite easily (usually after some wine) and then wake up early hours. But last night was awful. Tossing and turning for hours with all this running through my head. So early in this journey. How do you all cope?

It does get easier. While I didn't sleep well last night, my sleepless nights aren't that frequent now. We're 7 months in and post-sentencing, and I do worry about my husband (we're now separated), but otherwise things are fairly calm and we know what we're dealing with. I can't imagine what it is like to wait months/years for charges.

The only thing that seemed to work for me was anti anxiety medication. I have two children so must also be up nice and bright and early. Sometimes my DS likes to wake me about an hour after I finally manage to drift off and I'm back to square one (he didn't do it on purpose). I tried pretty much everything else, but having spoken to my doctor on only having 3-4 hours sleep each night I couldn't keep going like that and sleeping pills were not an option as had to be up early and not groggy.

my advise to all in the wide awake club is speak to your doctor, tell them how little sleep you are getting, dissuade sleeping pills and make sure you get something that works for you xx

think the first thing will be put the phone away easier said than done. Most of us need to check our phones before we sleep.

A nice warm bath, candle, bath bomb, bubbles then wrap up in cosy PJs.

I don't sleep much and I had no problems before. I'm looking into sleep sprays that you spray on the pillow, but theres lots out there.

Anne

I too am a firm member of the wide awake club'

I really like my pillow spray. I use a lavender based one. Even if it don't work it smells lovely!

I have listened to relaxing sleep music and audio books. Like others I tend to fall asleep fine but wake most nights and really struggle with the brain whirring away! I have always been like that since I had kids but got worse after the knock.



I had heard magnisiam is meant to help. I may look into that.

Just a thought

there is an app called "rain rain" you can set a timer on it but it plays your own mix of white noise.

white noise of rain is very relaxing (be aware if you have a full bladder when you start to relax you will need to pee within minutes lol and it's so annoying as you have just started to relax too)

SoTired; good for you! Your last post made me smile. Let me know how well the cream worked. I might treat myself too (haven't googled the price yet!)..... Sod the dishwasher! Glad you did something for you. X

SoTired

Your last post made me chuckle :-)

Good for you , sod the dishwasher lol xx

I should very much like to know how it pans out for you. Full review next week??

Deffo a better investment than a dishwasher...



x

Hi,

Meditation works for me. A walk or getting outside for a while at sunset can be helpful for reminding your brain that it's nearly time to switch off.
Let me know how you get on with the cream, feeling desperately old and tired the last couple of weeks xxx

Here I am at 0130 afraid of going to bed because of all the thoughts. A few nights ago I went to bed at about this time, was then awake at 3am thinking all the things that have happened, are probably going to happen, the carnage, the family breakdown and was awake til gone 6am. Then I had a nightmare. Then the alarm went off at 645am. I'm afraid of trying to go to sleep ????

I love watching Classic Coronation Street pm, tea + warm blanket perhaps a sarnie. I get lost for an hour a day. So I'd say soaps.... or easy watch TV.