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Hi, I've not been on for a while as good I was getting consumed by it all so hope everyone is okay.
OH been on bail since sept, keeps getting extended. Seem to be having more and more bad days. Some days feel so angry and resentful towards my OH I can barely string two words together and the other days I feel so sad that this is where we've ended up. He hasn't got the answers, neither have I to be honest.
The pressure to pretend nothing has happened and keep the house running, check children are ok is overwhelming while waiting for this s**tshow to pass.
Can we get past this? How do we trust them again?
x
OH been on bail since sept, keeps getting extended. Seem to be having more and more bad days. Some days feel so angry and resentful towards my OH I can barely string two words together and the other days I feel so sad that this is where we've ended up. He hasn't got the answers, neither have I to be honest.
The pressure to pretend nothing has happened and keep the house running, check children are ok is overwhelming while waiting for this s**tshow to pass.
Can we get past this? How do we trust them again?
x
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Thank you, you're exactly right that, it is like grief.
I think I'm just having one of them days where I feel sorry for myself. I'm annoyed I'm having to go through this.
I'm sorry to hear you're kind of back where you started. It just feels like Groundhog Day doesn't it?
It's bittersweet on here really as it's comforting to know I'm not alone but then sad that any of us are even here at all xxx
I think I'm just having one of them days where I feel sorry for myself. I'm annoyed I'm having to go through this.
I'm sorry to hear you're kind of back where you started. It just feels like Groundhog Day doesn't it?
It's bittersweet on here really as it's comforting to know I'm not alone but then sad that any of us are even here at all xxx
LilyRose84; if you'd read my posts here over the last 8/9 months you'd see the rollercoaster of emotions people in our situation face on a daily basis. They say it gets better and some days it does but other days it comes back like a tornado.
The thought of your loved one letting you down is unbearable. The images and thoughts that go through your mind are torture and knowing that your once (near) perfect life has this huge blemish now is soul destroying BUT you just have to keep going. For your children and your own sanity. Things may never be the same again for any of us who have had to live through this but we only have one life to live and as they say, hope makes the world go round, so, for now I'm clinging on to that as that's all I or any of us have right now.
Hope for the best and let fate do its thing.
Sending hugs and strength x
The thought of your loved one letting you down is unbearable. The images and thoughts that go through your mind are torture and knowing that your once (near) perfect life has this huge blemish now is soul destroying BUT you just have to keep going. For your children and your own sanity. Things may never be the same again for any of us who have had to live through this but we only have one life to live and as they say, hope makes the world go round, so, for now I'm clinging on to that as that's all I or any of us have right now.
Hope for the best and let fate do its thing.
Sending hugs and strength x
RIGG22,
Thank you for your response. You are right it is absolutely unbearable at times but because of the children I have been finding the strength. I'm sure I will have more days where I am angry and upset. It's just all the waiting around that makes it worse, the not knowing what will/could happen.
Bail has been extended again so more waiting around.
I am trying to stay positive, there is help out there and my OH is willing to do whatever it takes so only time will tell.
sensing love to you x
Thank you for your response. You are right it is absolutely unbearable at times but because of the children I have been finding the strength. I'm sure I will have more days where I am angry and upset. It's just all the waiting around that makes it worse, the not knowing what will/could happen.
Bail has been extended again so more waiting around.
I am trying to stay positive, there is help out there and my OH is willing to do whatever it takes so only time will tell.
sensing love to you x
Lily Rose I'm sure so many of us will be identifying with your post, Im sure we all have good days and bad days abd days when we think "I can't do this any more". I know I do. I'm the early days I found the situation so unbearable, then I realised after a week or so I *was* bearing it, however unpleasant it was, and since then have just regarded it is something that must be endured. I do have times when I feel deeply depressed and everything seems hopeless, so far fortunately I have managed to pull myself out of that pit.
It would be so much easier if I had friends and family to turn to for support, but only a couple of friends know, who I feel I can't overload with this, and no family apart from my adult children, who I don't feel I can unload on at all as they are suffering themselves.
It would be so much easier if I had friends and family to turn to for support, but only a couple of friends know, who I feel I can't overload with this, and no family apart from my adult children, who I don't feel I can unload on at all as they are suffering themselves.