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Cherry

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Daffodil

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Cherry

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Posted Thu March 30, 2023 7:05pmReport post

Daffodil

Thank you I guess it's too early for me to make a decision i might be braver closer to the time after having more therapy ect I just don't know how I'll be it's only 4 months in.got everything back except his laptop that went off for further testing his mobile come back clear witch I guess is a good sign that he's been honest with what he's told me as he'd said he'd never used it and was all done on the laptop. he's said he will tell me anything I ask him he's told me mostly everything he's said but obviously not the details and I'm scared to ask.

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Daffodil

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Newlady

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Posted Fri March 31, 2023 7:00amReport post

Hey you . I feel for you the limbo stage is the worst we were almost two years , but try to live as normal as possible to get through it . Hard I know . Charges were on a sheet . When evidence was sent to solicitor before first court appearance, my person got it all emailed to him .the interview, the chat , the whole lot . He then emailed it to me . I won't lie it was horrible reading it , one of the worst things I've ever had to do, but I'm glad I did it . It's better to know everything move ahead . Now I hardly think about it , I think that that wasn't my person writing that , he was in such a dark place . It does pop into my head every now and again but I'm glad I did it otherwise I'd spend the whole time wondering xx

Cherry

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January 2023

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Posted Fri March 31, 2023 8:11amReport post

Hi Daffodil yes he's on bail they've just had to re-bail him a couple of weeks ago and will most likely have to keep doing it till the charges are through he's definitely not going to be able to contest anything as he admitted to what he did he give me his police statement he couldn't give them numbers of image's and was advised not to until they check but did say their would be all categories and may be prohibited or extreme pornography on there this is going off 5yr period but can't give them exact time he can't remember but we've worked it out as the same time his mam died.



Newlady thank you for the advice am terrified because of the timeframe he's been doing it as it will probably be a large number. I always new he was a hoarder of things but I never realized how big a problem it became. looking back now why did I not see it ? Why did I not question why he was staying up late and not coming to bed. I just assumed he was watching something or playing on the PS4. he would say he couldn't sleep, I told him a few months back before the knock to go to the gp because he's been depressed for a long time but kept putting it off, he has said he'd felt like a failure that he should of been in a better position career wise and always felt like he was letting me and the kids down that he thought I deserved more . He wanted more time with us and more money, he's always worked hard to provide for us and he's neglected himself in the process. It makes me feel awful about myself he's said none of it is my fault but his own thinking but it doesn't make me feel any better. Said it took him back to a time he wasn't responsible for anything just an escapism.