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Hi Lee 2.0
People have said great things about your previous posts and the advice you've given them but sadly all your posts under Lee1969 have been deleted. I was hoping to be able to read about your journey through the nightmare to the much better place you and your family are in now.
Your 'And so the journey continues.....' post was so inspiring and gave me hope. Would you mind sharing some of your story with me please? What your husband did, how long he wasn't allowed to live with you and your children for, what he was charged with, what his sentence was, what restrictions are on him now. Just as much as you feel comfortable sharing. It's amazing that your family have found happiness after this horrific traumatic experience. That's incredible and so inspiring that both you and your husband are using this experience to reach out to others and help them.
My husband was arrested on 14 Dec 2022 for possession of iioc. We are still waiting on the forensics results, but the police have said he's in serious trouble based on what they've already found. This situation is worse than my worst nightmare, the pain is unbearable. I can't imagine a life without my husband as we had a strong and happy marriage and I love him so much. I also can't imagine a happy life being married to a convicted sex offender and trying to raise a child with all sorts of restrictions in place. Me and our 5 month old baby are living with my parents. Being forcibly separated from my husband and having our little family (baby 5 weeks old at time of the arrest) ripped apart and everything that comes with this horrific situation causes me pain like I have never known. I'm so pleased for you that you are out the other side and through the worst of it. I long for that time to come! I just want this to be over. Your post gave me some much needed hope today so thank you for sharing.
People have said great things about your previous posts and the advice you've given them but sadly all your posts under Lee1969 have been deleted. I was hoping to be able to read about your journey through the nightmare to the much better place you and your family are in now.
Your 'And so the journey continues.....' post was so inspiring and gave me hope. Would you mind sharing some of your story with me please? What your husband did, how long he wasn't allowed to live with you and your children for, what he was charged with, what his sentence was, what restrictions are on him now. Just as much as you feel comfortable sharing. It's amazing that your family have found happiness after this horrific traumatic experience. That's incredible and so inspiring that both you and your husband are using this experience to reach out to others and help them.
My husband was arrested on 14 Dec 2022 for possession of iioc. We are still waiting on the forensics results, but the police have said he's in serious trouble based on what they've already found. This situation is worse than my worst nightmare, the pain is unbearable. I can't imagine a life without my husband as we had a strong and happy marriage and I love him so much. I also can't imagine a happy life being married to a convicted sex offender and trying to raise a child with all sorts of restrictions in place. Me and our 5 month old baby are living with my parents. Being forcibly separated from my husband and having our little family (baby 5 weeks old at time of the arrest) ripped apart and everything that comes with this horrific situation causes me pain like I have never known. I'm so pleased for you that you are out the other side and through the worst of it. I long for that time to come! I just want this to be over. Your post gave me some much needed hope today so thank you for sharing.
Hi Lee 2.0
Sorry for the delayed response. I appreciate you sharing some of your story with me. Sounds like you had a very difficult and stressful time. It's good to read a hope story as there aren't many. It feels impossible right now that we will get through this and ever be happy again. But all I can do is hold onto hope and take it one day at a time and keep finding hope stories.
Sorry for the delayed response. I appreciate you sharing some of your story with me. Sounds like you had a very difficult and stressful time. It's good to read a hope story as there aren't many. It feels impossible right now that we will get through this and ever be happy again. But all I can do is hold onto hope and take it one day at a time and keep finding hope stories.
For about a month after the arrest on 14 December, my husband continued lying to me and minimising what he had done. In a call I had with the investigator mid-January, he told me what he found in the preliminary check of my husband's devices and it's so much worse than what my husband had told me. What he viewed and did online is horrifying. I'm terrified of finding out the forensics results and charges, as I know it's going to be so bad. He's been looking at illegal images (extreme pornography and iioc) for at least 10 years and went so very deep down the rabbit hole. My husband has made it worse for himself in so many ways which is all the more devastating and I'm so angry. I just need him not to go to prison.
My husband has been more honest with me since my call with the police. We have had tons of very difficult painful conversations about it all and I think he's told me everything. He just can't tell me why because he himself doesn't yet know or understand why he did it. He's having therapy with a StopSO psychologist and he's had three sessions so far. He said he will do everything he can to rehabilitate and never do it again. He says over and over that he's so ashamed and disgusted with himself and hates what he's done online and the devastating consequences and pain which he's caused. He's trying to figure out why and how this happened. Repressed memories of being sexually abused when he was a teenager have come to the surface, as well as other traumas he never dealt with.
We had a very happy marriage and I love him so very much and I don't want our life together to end. I think he's worth fighting for. I just can't reconcile what he's done with the amazing person I know him to be. He made me so happy, we made each other so happy. I think our baby will have a better life if his father and mother are together. Social services won't make that easy, I know. They've already made things difficult.
I'm feeling both love and hate, anger and compassion and so many other conflicting, ever-changing emotions. You're right, there is so much more to a person than their offence. He's still the same wonderful person, we just need to do a heck of a lot of work to repair ourselves and our marriage. And learn to live within some difficult restrictions for many years. I will also need to forgive him and learn to trust him again some day. We are still only at the beginning of this horrific journey.
The police said today that it won't be long til they have all the results from forensics. I'm so scared.
Thank you for your messages, they're helpful xx
My husband has been more honest with me since my call with the police. We have had tons of very difficult painful conversations about it all and I think he's told me everything. He just can't tell me why because he himself doesn't yet know or understand why he did it. He's having therapy with a StopSO psychologist and he's had three sessions so far. He said he will do everything he can to rehabilitate and never do it again. He says over and over that he's so ashamed and disgusted with himself and hates what he's done online and the devastating consequences and pain which he's caused. He's trying to figure out why and how this happened. Repressed memories of being sexually abused when he was a teenager have come to the surface, as well as other traumas he never dealt with.
We had a very happy marriage and I love him so very much and I don't want our life together to end. I think he's worth fighting for. I just can't reconcile what he's done with the amazing person I know him to be. He made me so happy, we made each other so happy. I think our baby will have a better life if his father and mother are together. Social services won't make that easy, I know. They've already made things difficult.
I'm feeling both love and hate, anger and compassion and so many other conflicting, ever-changing emotions. You're right, there is so much more to a person than their offence. He's still the same wonderful person, we just need to do a heck of a lot of work to repair ourselves and our marriage. And learn to live within some difficult restrictions for many years. I will also need to forgive him and learn to trust him again some day. We are still only at the beginning of this horrific journey.
The police said today that it won't be long til they have all the results from forensics. I'm so scared.
Thank you for your messages, they're helpful xx