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Upset mum

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Posted Fri March 31, 2023 4:25pmReport post

Afternoon lovely ladies x

As we come to the end of a week again,

What a week it has been, I hope your week has gone ok x

Work has been good, home life very quiet as usual but occupied myself with Netflix lol x

Spoke to my son :-) his week has been ok and he is ahead of his work for the degree he is doing x

We have all been able to express our gratitude to have (as Smile said) the final piece of the jigsaw re join this group, Welcome back Lee we have all truly missed you xx

SoTired I hope the new luxury expensive cream has been enjoyed ( I would rather wash my dishes in the sink rather than a dishwasher any day lol )

Smile I hope your son is doing ok x

Seaside did you end up wearing your warrior tshirt?x

My big girls pants have gone in the bin! Because I actually realized I dont need them! Because each and everyone of you give me the strength to get through each day x

I was hoping to get to cut the grass this weekend but Mr Rain has decided to not stop all day so no chance of that happening!

Happy Friday you amazing women xx

K4

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Posted Fri March 31, 2023 5:01pmReport post

Happy Friday!!



kept big girl pants on all week, taking them off now for a weekend of rest.



what have you watched on Netflix??



love to you all xx

Kt

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Posted Fri March 31, 2023 5:09pmReport post

Happy Friday ladies, I really do like these weekly check ins,

Our week has been a bit topsy-turvy. We though case was with cps but OIC rang to extend bail until September because waiting for sons brand new console to be checked(we know it's clear) so they can send to cps altogether, so so frustrating and left me feeling very numb. On the plus side my son passed his driving theory. Also wondering if we can get him a weekend night job, he has never had a job before and with the bail it's really difficult to figure out what he can do. So the limbo feeling is very real this week xxx

Upset mum

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Posted Fri March 31, 2023 5:11pmReport post

Hi K4

Hope your doing ok, haha feels good to be free!

I have watched so much on Netflix, i binged watched all of Peeky Blinders in a week never thought it would be my thing but so good, bloodline, also secret city I could go on and on lol x

Blue Sky

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Confusedwife

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Posted Fri March 31, 2023 5:38pmReport post

Happy Friday!! I'm so ready for the Easter holidays, looking forward to trying to make some family memories before the next hurdle in our journey, we're 8 months in husband Rui.

our sw closed our case back in October and referred us to early help, so we've been having regular meetings with school every 6 weeks and early help. This week they have both closed down the early help as they can clearly see we're doing everything to keep our children safe, so that's a positive for us which I'm very happy about.

Upset mum

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Posted Fri March 31, 2023 5:51pmReport post

Hi Kt

Congratulations to your son on passing his theory test , glad we didn't have to do that when I was learning to drive all those years ago lol x

Sorry they have dragged out the case before sending it to the CPS

As for work while RUI he can carry on as normal as until he is charged he is able to carry on as normal (my son was RUI for 16 months so carried on with work and life even though me and his sister lived on our nerves as he was suicidal) they dont have to mention they are RUI for now, maybe he could sign up with an agency?

How are you coping?xx

Upset mum

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Posted Fri March 31, 2023 5:55pmReport post

Confusedwife

That's definitely a positive x

Have you any plans for the long weekend next week?

Easter egg hunt with the children? The weather is meant to be nice so maybe a day out for you all?

How are you in yourself?xx

Upset mum

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Posted Fri March 31, 2023 6:00pmReport post

Hi Lee

You bring so much to us so thank you x

I kind of guessed you and Daff were in contact outside of here, do you hear from Polly? I hope she is ok xx

I hope SW can get there backside in to gear x

How is hubby? How are the girls coping?xx

Smile through tears

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Posted Fri March 31, 2023 6:36pmReport post

All ok here guys - and I'm hanging on to my Bridget Jones's keep me warm Thankyou :-)

Son been a bit poorly - you never know if it's Covid, he's had it three times in prison up to press! He's on the mend now.

He really enjoys gardening. Becoming a tomato expert too! Even mows grass in perfect lines!

I'm ok, usual sad moments but coping. Bit of time off work over Easter week which will be most welcome.

love and bless all my friends on here xxxx

love this thread

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Runawaygirl

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Posted Fri March 31, 2023 6:44pmReport post

Hope it's ok for me to chip in.

My week has been stressful. I'd taken some time off work immediately after the knock so this has been my first full week back. I've had awful trouble concentrating and keeping my mind on my work but hopefully this will improve over the next few weeks/months.

Wishing everyone a peaceful weekend.

Upset mum

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Posted Fri March 31, 2023 6:51pmReport post

Lee

He is definitely a keeper if he can wear stockings lol x but in all seriousness glad he is ok xx

This journey is horrendous but we are all survivors x

Your poor girls all we want to do is protect them x

But having you as there mum they will be ok x

I am glad Polly is ok I know both myself and Smile miss her x

My son is ok so what more could I ask for xx

Smile through tears

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Posted Fri March 31, 2023 6:52pmReport post

Just join in Runawaygirl - don't apologise - we sail in the same boat xxxxx

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Upset mum

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Posted Fri March 31, 2023 6:55pmReport post

Smile my dear friend

Lol Bridget Jones haha I love those films

I see myself in her lol x

Sorry to hear your son has been poorly but hopefully the nicer weather is on its way and he can get some fresh air in his lungs and of course enjoy the fruits of his hard work xx

Upset mum

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Posted Fri March 31, 2023 6:59pmReport post

Runawaygirl

Well done on completing a full week back at work x that in itself is a step in getting back in to reality x

Its early days so be kind to yourself

We are all here to offer help and support so never feel like you are on your own because you are not xx

Sending strength and hugs xx

Distressed and pregnant

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Posted Fri March 31, 2023 7:15pmReport post

Hi,

Love the weekly check ins. I've had a poorly baby this week so she has been permanently attached to my hip. I think she's through the worst of it now and hopefully will wake full of energy tomorrow morning.
If everything goes to plan in the coming week then me and my person have a child free date night next weekend. If someone would have told me two years ago how much I'd look forward to spending time with him I would've laughed in their face but here we are.
Older two know about said date and are fine with it, it means so much to have their understanding that I need to be happy and live my life too.

My person is struggling at work but is actively seeking a new job as he knows better than to risk his own mental health for any job xxx

Upset mum

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Posted Fri March 31, 2023 7:22pmReport post

Evening Distressed

Glad you are ok x hope little one feels better soon x

I remember when mine used to hang on to my hips if only I could go back in time :-( x

Are you going away anywhere? But to be honest having some time together alone is precious, he is a lucky man to have you x

Glad the older ones understand x

You have to make the best of this shitty journey anyway you can xx

Distressed and pregnant

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Posted Fri March 31, 2023 7:32pmReport post

Thank you, I'm sure she'll be fine. I've felt like I'm constantly second guessing myself about whether to take her to the gp or not, I know that they'll say it's viral and to keep doing what I have been (calpol, fluids and cuddles) but it's always at the back of my mind that if I don't take her and she gets worse will I have ss involved again or if I take her too often for things treatable at home will they think I don't know what I'm doing.
Not going away, haven't decided what we're doing yet but yes time is precious whatever we do xxx

Smile through tears

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Upset mum

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Posted Fri March 31, 2023 7:49pmReport post

Distressed

Honestly I don't know how you cope having a young baby in this situation x but you are an amazing mum that is clear to see x

I totally understand your concerns but I am sure she will be just fine x

Even though your not going away just time for you both will be special so enjoy every moment xx its what you want x

Distressed and pregnant

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Posted Fri March 31, 2023 8:09pmReport post

Smile, I don't think we ever get past that stage of wishing away their pain. I struggle when my grown up ones are ill or struggling emotionally. I truly don't know how you and the other moms on here cope with this journey when it's your sons.
Upset, thank you. As I've just said to Smile I don't know how you moms hold it together. In some ways it's easier having a little one than ones that have flown or are about to fly the nest. At least if she's joined to my hip I know she's safe and her troubles are relatively easily solved xxx

Upset mum

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Posted Fri March 31, 2023 8:22pmReport post

Distressed

I think Smile and I would agree on this to have younger children and coping how you are is amazing x

Our sons are ok under the circumstances

My journey is my son has done wrong but as his mum I am there every step of the way

I know he deserves to be punished for his actions

But he is a good person, I am not making excuses for what he has done

I gave birth to him, so there is no way I will ever leave him on his own x

SoTired

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Upset mum

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Posted Fri March 31, 2023 9:36pmReport post

Aww SoTired

How proud are you feeling well done to your young child, give them a huge hug from me x

I can almost feel how luxurious the fac8 cream is from here :-)

Xx

SoTired

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Smile through tears

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Posted Fri March 31, 2023 9:38pmReport post

Yep, as always agree with Upset.

I could easily give my son a slap at times when I think of the heartache his secret life has caused.

But I remain firm in thinking he's a good kind man that for whatever reason got sucked into this dark world. I'm sure he never thought about consequences and he really loves us.

Gosh rid of the bags! It'd have to be bloody good cream to shrink mine...

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SoTired

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Confused&worried

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Posted Fri March 31, 2023 9:46pmReport post

Hi ladies

All good with me. First full week on placement as a student mental health nurse. I was worried how I would feel speaking to people with childhood trauma incase it triggered me, but I was very brave and managed to compartmentalise.

Now looking forward to a couple of weeks off with the kids xxx

I love this weekly check in, all the normal things that those of us further down the road are able to enjoy is great to hear. I hope it give some comfort to those in the early stages x

Smile through tears

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Posted Fri March 31, 2023 9:48pmReport post

Yep I like the lighthearted theme x

Upset mum

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Posted Fri March 31, 2023 10:15pmReport post

Haha SoTired

Love the idea of piles cream, it is meant to be so good, it tightens the area we never thought possible and compared to what you spent just a fraction of the cost lol xx

Upset mum

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Posted Fri March 31, 2023 10:19pmReport post

EveningConfused&worried

I bet you are an amazing mental health nurse x

Well done for getting through the first week on your placement x

I am so so proud of you xx

SoTired

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Upset mum

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Posted Fri March 31, 2023 11:38pmReport post

SoTired

You deserve to indulge in something we would not normally do x

My advice would be run a nice bubble bath, candles, a bottle of your favourite wine, soothing music, and then just you your own space, drifting away, your new cream on your face and thinking I may have spent a fortune but sod it I am worthy of been pampered xx

Kt

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Posted Sat April 1, 2023 12:01amReport post

So tired, I really need to know how this cream works out lol, my friend is trying to convince me to have botox but if there is a cream, I'm all in hahah xx

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K4

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Posted Sat April 1, 2023 7:05amReport post

So Tired! I didn't even think about what I was saying and where!! Hahaha!



Great news about the cream £40 for 8 hours sleep is a bargain!



So lovely to hear about all your weeks. Like Daffodil, I forget everything once I start typing and can't refer back to posts.



hope all the legal binges go well and thanks for the recommendations of Peaky Blinders. I am binging the new Serial Podcast this weekend.

xx

Upset mum

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Posted Sat April 1, 2023 7:29amReport post

Morning Daff

So pleased things have settled after that awful week you had xx

Pass on our love to Polly and glad she is ok x

Smile through tears

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Posted Sat April 1, 2023 7:50amReport post

All this talk of cream has aroused something in me. No not dashing off to Boots but maybe Birds to buy a huge 'cream cake'!!

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Seaside

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Posted Sat April 1, 2023 9:00amReport post

Morning all you lovely ladies.

Well it's been a much better week for me and the warrior woman/ big girl pants combo seems to have worked.

Son had a phone call to go for a second chat for the job with Hertz next Monday and then yesterday he went for an interview for a job working nights at Asda and was offered that immediately.

He would prefer the one at Hertz because it is better paid and hours but at least if that doesn't happen he has a backup now - and breathe.

Lee -I'm so pleased that you're back you are inspirational.

Sotired -that's fantastic news about your son well done.

Smile-I hope your son feels better soon and is able to get outside again.

Upset- as always thank you for your support.

Going to buy myself some of the magic cream today and maybe a bottle of wine as well!- love and strength to all of you xxx

Smile through tears

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Posted Sat April 1, 2023 9:05amReport post

Great news on the job front Seaside...... there is life after..........

my lad is ok now and was only off work one day. X

have a great weekend

Upset mum

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Posted Sat April 1, 2023 11:03amReport post

Smile lol definitely would join you for a cuppa and cream cake x

Upset mum

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Posted Sat April 1, 2023 11:09amReport post

Seaside x glad your week has gone ok definitely the big pants and warrior tshirt have worked lol x

I am so so pleased for your Son pass on my congratulations, and if everything goes well with his second interview Monday he can then make his choice on what job to do

Look back over the hellish few weeks you have had and now he has the chance to choose between 2 jobs :-) finally some good news for him and of course you xx

Confused&worried

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Posted Sat April 1, 2023 11:31amReport post

Seaside I'm so pleased for you and your son. He has been treated so unfairly x

Seaside

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Posted Sat April 1, 2023 12:19pmReport post

Thanks for all your lovely comments regarding my son I just hope that the thug of a visor doesn't decide to scupper things again for him-I honestly can't see why he would need to but he's a complete git so still feeling a bit anxious.

He would need absolutely cast iron reasons to force a disclosure this time though

SAL

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Posted Sat April 1, 2023 2:26pmReport post

I like these weekly check ins, thanks Upset Mum for doing them.

Seaside I'm so pleased your son was offered a job and I hope he hears positive news on the other one and of course the visor is supportive. I've been reading your updates and employment for my person in the future concerns me.

A mixed week for me, ups and downs. Visited my person last weekend and I had this overwhelming feeling of tiredness. Tired of trying to find somewhere for us to live, tired of carrying the burden, tired of travelling for visits and trying to make them feel natural and happy occasions (feels like so much pressure put on that your) then of course a bit of guilt for feeling this way.

I had my own brush with the law this week for a driving offence and it really shock me up and I can't help the feeling that it happened because my mind was distracted because of the situation I'm in - I sort of want to blame him but I know it's all on me. I don't have to be doing this.

On a lighter note, I've just been looking at the best before dates on Easter Eggs - I've picked one up for him to have once he's released. Daft really, we haven't really celebrating things like this together before, they didn't feel important but they all of a sudden do. Whether or not the egg makes it through the next 8 and half months without being eaten by me is another matter!

I have a lovely weekend lines up, a really good friend came over yesterday and we went out to the pub - So nice to let my hair down. Having a hair cut today, after then I'll only have 2 more before he is released. Hanging out with friends for a silly movie night tonight and spending tomorrow with family at a sporting event.

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Polly Pocket

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Posted Sat April 1, 2023 2:35pmReport post

I'm here guys xxxx

Lovely to see you all xxx

Seaside

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Posted Sat April 1, 2023 4:58pmReport post

Lovely to hear from you @pollypocket I have been wondering how you were.

Thank you Sal I'm glad to hear that you have a nice weekend planned.

I'm trying not to overthink Monday -if my son is offered the job with Hertz then he will accept it.

He is going to phone the visor first thing on Monday ;and also email him so that there is a paper trail ) and state that he needs a clear yes or no asap as to whether there are any reasons why he can't do the job because he really doesn't want to accept the job and then have to retract.

To clarify the job is car hire admin and the company doesn't hire to anybody under 25 or employ under 18's at all so I can't see that there is any risk.

His SHPO only relates to no contact with under 16's but the visor has been trying to make it under 18's which we have challenged.

Upset mum

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Posted Sat April 1, 2023 5:13pmReport post

Hi SAL

I totally understand where you are with the constant pressure of trying to find somewhere to live, as much as the visits are so so important it really does take it out of you x

But you are incredibly resilient and you have got this, love the idea of getting him an Easter egg , making new memories, new challenges but then you both get to be together x he is very lucky to have you in his life xx

I hope my weekly check ins do some good as I think as much as we are here for help and support we also need to just share some sort of normality and just checking in with everyone shows we are all ok xx

Upset mum

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Posted Sat April 1, 2023 5:14pmReport post

Hi Polly

Glad to hear from you xx hope you are doing ok xx

Upset mum

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Posted Sat April 1, 2023 5:17pmReport post

Seaside

Try not to think about that bully easier said than done I know xx

hpl111

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Posted Sat April 1, 2023 9:39pmReport post

My week has been okay.....we're in the process of selling our house at the moment and will buy in another area (unrelated to the knock).

I met a friend and her husband for lunch today and tomorrow I and my husband will take the kids to the park.

I just love looking at my children and I feel so blessed to have them. They are unaware of what is going on, as they are very young.

It is wonderful to see them playing happily and freely, without any trauma from the knock.

I know I am a damaged individual, but I want better for my kids. I hope their lives will be less hard than mine.

loulou74

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Posted Sat April 1, 2023 9:52pmReport post

After a week of worrying about money, this morning I thought sod it and ordered Sotired's magic cream! Ex is currently without a job and therefore not contributing. I do earn my own money but we have teen boys (who eat a lot!) and it's tight. I have spent the last few months cutting back as I thought he'd lose his job so it's not as bad as it could have been. And we're lucky to have savings.

It's lovely hearing everyone's news. Like SAL I've also been feeling the pressure this week. Ex has been struggling with his relationship with the boys, it's not easy when he only sees them a couple of times a week. I don't think he realises the impact this has had on them.

Well done Seaside on the job and hope he gets the hertz one. I've been following with interest as ex is looking for a job at the moment.

Well done Sotired on the cream! And to your son. My eldest is sitting his GCSEs this year.

Life feels over

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Posted Sat April 1, 2023 11:04pmReport post

Evening all,

@seaside what fantastic news for you all regarding the job for your son. I hope things run smoothly x

@SAL I love your Easter egg idea. Looking forward and planning opportunities to make happier memories is a lovely idea.

We're still waiting for a phone call from my husband. We had another call from a nice human at the prison to say there were problems uploading the numbers to the system, but they were making a courtesy call to let us know that he was ok. I've sent an email a day babbling about my days. Monday will be 2 weeks since he was transferred. The wait continues to be painfully long and slow.

One positive for me is it is now April (I'm wishing this year away) a second was being given a sticker by a little one whilst serving at work. The rest adorned their shoes. Mine said 'good work'. They hadn't a clue how much that meant x

xx

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Life feels over

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Posted Sun April 2, 2023 10:29amReport post

@smile perhaps the Henderson's relish x

SoTired

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Posted Sun April 2, 2023 4:36pmReport post

KT/LouLou

I really hope this cream works for you! I'm not sure if it's a placebo effect.

Went to bed last night around 11, woke up at 10:30 this morning! Was like a zombie I'd slept so hard haha

11 hours of sleep. Slept through my alarms!



Now have decided, you know what? I can plaster this attic ceiling... of course I can haha

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