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Do any of your husbands/partners look in on this forum? If so what's their take on it? - as I say just curious how would it make them feel..,,,
Yes Lee - makes perfect sense. X
Mine doesn't he knows it's my space if I need it. I do tell him the odd thing I've read on here sometimes to see his reaction and like lee said mine can see how much pain all this causes x
Hi,
I read posts to my person, usually ones that are similar to our situation but occasionally ones like the ones recently that I can't believe have progressed the way they have (the WhatsApp images and videos sent in jest and Clarkestaffs young son).
He is massively grateful that I have been able to access the forum and gain some knowledge. His other feelings include relief that he's not alone, he has gone through a lot of questioning himself about whether he is attracted to children so to read other people saying that their partners aren't but have committed the same offences as him allows him to feel that someone understands. He has the same feelings as many of us here of frustration at the lack of consistency between professionals, sentences, restrictions for the same crimes and support levels for offenders and families. He feels sad and ashamed that he has caused me and his family to feel the way members articulate their feelings. Sometimes he is angry with society as a whole for their lack of belief in rehabilitation for crimes of this kind and for the backlash that some families have suffered because of it xxx
I read posts to my person, usually ones that are similar to our situation but occasionally ones like the ones recently that I can't believe have progressed the way they have (the WhatsApp images and videos sent in jest and Clarkestaffs young son).
He is massively grateful that I have been able to access the forum and gain some knowledge. His other feelings include relief that he's not alone, he has gone through a lot of questioning himself about whether he is attracted to children so to read other people saying that their partners aren't but have committed the same offences as him allows him to feel that someone understands. He has the same feelings as many of us here of frustration at the lack of consistency between professionals, sentences, restrictions for the same crimes and support levels for offenders and families. He feels sad and ashamed that he has caused me and his family to feel the way members articulate their feelings. Sometimes he is angry with society as a whole for their lack of belief in rehabilitation for crimes of this kind and for the backlash that some families have suffered because of it xxx
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I havent got a partner, however I do talk about this forum to my son x
I havent got a partner, however I do talk about this forum to my son x
Like the others, I share some things with my OH.
He appreciates that this is my safe space, often he leads me here to ask for advice.
He appreciates that this is my safe space, often he leads me here to ask for advice.
He doesn't look (to my knowledge, but I think most of us feel we can't 100% vouch for their person's online behaviours anymore!)
Much like everyone else though he is hugely grateful for all the advice and help from this forum.
I am even more grateful for the community we have in this isolating journey.
x
Much like everyone else though he is hugely grateful for all the advice and help from this forum.
I am even more grateful for the community we have in this isolating journey.
x
I share things I have read on here and advice given with my son but he doesn't look himself he knows that this is my space to express my feelings and thoughts.
My partner's PO introduced me to the forum and my partner encouraged me to use it as an outlet.
He doesn't view but I do share bits I have learned and I do ask him for his input at times. It was in 2017 for the arrest and it is human nature to forget some details and so I try to verify them by checking in on the facts.
He doesn't view but I do share bits I have learned and I do ask him for his input at times. It was in 2017 for the arrest and it is human nature to forget some details and so I try to verify them by checking in on the facts.
I have told my son about this forum and pass on bits of learnt information.
I haven't told anyone else about it as I feel it's MY space and some might think poss posting on an open forum could be risky.
It really is my lifeline, I don't want to burden my family with too much as they have their own life to deal with.
you ladies just understand full stop x
I haven't told anyone else about it as I feel it's MY space and some might think poss posting on an open forum could be risky.
It really is my lifeline, I don't want to burden my family with too much as they have their own life to deal with.
you ladies just understand full stop x
I told my hub about this forum, when I found it I do read bits out. But I would be annoyed if he was on here reading it, and I have told him.He knows this is my place even though I hardly write on here, i still check in and read up knowing I'm not alone. This forum for us, we dealt with so much and often feel extremely lonely and to be honest I don't what him on here reading I know it sounds odd as it's in the public domain. I'm rambling I sure most understand what I'm trying to say.
Anne
Anne
My person reads the forum. Hes been suggesting to me to use it for ages and I've only posted for the first time this week. I think it helps him to see similar situations to ours and again gives him the realisation of the devastation caused. I told him I posted this week, don't know if he's read my posts or not. He doesn't know my user name.