Where to go from here?!
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Some might have seen my older posts, but for those who haven't. Last March we had the 'knock' by a vigilante team very late at night. They wore ski masks and tried to enter the house after my daughter refused to let her stepdad out the house. The last year has been hell, rumours flying around left right and centre.
My ex partner was moved from the area and ss got involved. Mine and my children's mental health took a very rapid nose dive and we were plunged into what can only be described as hell on earth. My address was given out by the team along with people in the community and my ex partner has been posted numerous times on the teams page.
I have absolutely no idea how we've survived to be honest.
Ss spent 6 months telling me to cut contact, I had absolutely no support at all. Children were put on CIN due to my mental health, they tried to take it to cp but failed as it didnt meet threshold. No compassion or empathy from them at all. I sought counselling for me and the children and have literally plodded through the last year.
We've finally moved house and out of the area and its been a god send. We are abit more relaxed, however theres still so many triggers. People in dark clothing, people with radios and walkie talkies. I have so much anger for the team that came out to our house.
Ss decided to close the case, didn't even tell me. Ex partner has been NFA, no chats found on his phone and decoy chat handed over was extremely leading.
I'm now in a state of limbo...how do I go forward?Ss have said the children can see ex partner again. Police can't show me anything because there's nothing to show.
I'm so angry, me and 2 out of 4 children have been diagnosed with PTSD, depression and anxiety disorder. I feel like we've gone through all of this for absolutely nothing, a whole year of absolute hell. These door knocks need to stop especially when there's children in the house, it causes so much damage.
My ex partner was moved from the area and ss got involved. Mine and my children's mental health took a very rapid nose dive and we were plunged into what can only be described as hell on earth. My address was given out by the team along with people in the community and my ex partner has been posted numerous times on the teams page.
I have absolutely no idea how we've survived to be honest.
Ss spent 6 months telling me to cut contact, I had absolutely no support at all. Children were put on CIN due to my mental health, they tried to take it to cp but failed as it didnt meet threshold. No compassion or empathy from them at all. I sought counselling for me and the children and have literally plodded through the last year.
We've finally moved house and out of the area and its been a god send. We are abit more relaxed, however theres still so many triggers. People in dark clothing, people with radios and walkie talkies. I have so much anger for the team that came out to our house.
Ss decided to close the case, didn't even tell me. Ex partner has been NFA, no chats found on his phone and decoy chat handed over was extremely leading.
I'm now in a state of limbo...how do I go forward?Ss have said the children can see ex partner again. Police can't show me anything because there's nothing to show.
I'm so angry, me and 2 out of 4 children have been diagnosed with PTSD, depression and anxiety disorder. I feel like we've gone through all of this for absolutely nothing, a whole year of absolute hell. These door knocks need to stop especially when there's children in the house, it causes so much damage.
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Polly Pocket I agree. It has to STOP. The only people these teams are protecting are the adults pretending to be children.
My children have been traumatised and I think some of that is completely irrepable now. We all have triggers resulting from what's happened. Even some normal day to day tasks are hard for us.
It's cruel and inhumane to inflict that on innocent children.
My children have been traumatised and I think some of that is completely irrepable now. We all have triggers resulting from what's happened. Even some normal day to day tasks are hard for us.
It's cruel and inhumane to inflict that on innocent children.
My sons case does not involve vigilantes but my god the more I read about them the more I feel these are more dangerous ( certainly causing more real harm) than their intended targets. The actions you have descibed above disgust me. Again, would this be allowed for any other crime?
Im glad you our on a bit of a more even keel but I sincerely believe what you and your children have been put through is criminal
Im glad you our on a bit of a more even keel but I sincerely believe what you and your children have been put through is criminal
I agree why aren't they protecting our children ? like they say they want to protect all children this will effect some of our children for the rest of their lives, it sounds like a horrendous situation to be in, living like that my heart goes out to you x
Oh how awful for you and your children Gemsie867
My heart really does go out to you xx
This is disgusting and Appalling, where is the help to protect you and your children xx
My heart really does go out to you xx
This is disgusting and Appalling, where is the help to protect you and your children xx
I wish beyond words how much I want this all to be made illegal. My children are going through this hell too.
I thought that being vigilantes is illegal but turns out it's not. Same as the police say they don't condone what they do yet use their evidence and allow it to posted all on line. It's not like they are telling them to remove the posts etc.
when my OH was arrested in this manner all my private life and that of my children was discussed and posted online. I was disgusted and disappointed that the police did nothing about what was posted online as according to them it didn't affect myself or my children as no threats were made. No threats were made but it didn't affect us???? How would they feel? It was cyber bullying
I thought that being vigilantes is illegal but turns out it's not. Same as the police say they don't condone what they do yet use their evidence and allow it to posted all on line. It's not like they are telling them to remove the posts etc.
when my OH was arrested in this manner all my private life and that of my children was discussed and posted online. I was disgusted and disappointed that the police did nothing about what was posted online as according to them it didn't affect myself or my children as no threats were made. No threats were made but it didn't affect us???? How would they feel? It was cyber bullying
I sincerely feel for those going through it, it does get better, however it doesn't go away.
To be honest the police were disgusted with how traumatised my children were when they turned upto the house and in their words "we don't condone this at all on any level".
I just want it all to stop. No real life innocent children should ever have to be put through any of this. It's disgusting and beyond inhumane. I wish these people had so much as a brain cell to see what effects it has on them.
To be honest the police were disgusted with how traumatised my children were when they turned upto the house and in their words "we don't condone this at all on any level".
I just want it all to stop. No real life innocent children should ever have to be put through any of this. It's disgusting and beyond inhumane. I wish these people had so much as a brain cell to see what effects it has on them.
My husband's case didn't involve vigilantes, but I have a proper hate for them.
I actually think most of them are quite sick in the head and get a kick out of pretending to be children online.
A lot of them have criminal records themselves and have quite meaningless lives apart from their vigilantism.
I saw a video of a pedophile hunter on youtube and he said he was a father and he spent the weekends traveling all across the country to hunt pedophiles.
I just thought to myself....if he is a father, why doesn't he spend the weekend with his kids? And some of them spend every night in chatrooms. Who's got time for that? They obviously have no life.
They should be made illegal and I am disgusted that police use them as evidence.
I actually think most of them are quite sick in the head and get a kick out of pretending to be children online.
A lot of them have criminal records themselves and have quite meaningless lives apart from their vigilantism.
I saw a video of a pedophile hunter on youtube and he said he was a father and he spent the weekends traveling all across the country to hunt pedophiles.
I just thought to myself....if he is a father, why doesn't he spend the weekend with his kids? And some of them spend every night in chatrooms. Who's got time for that? They obviously have no life.
They should be made illegal and I am disgusted that police use them as evidence.
Thankfully my OH wasn't stung at home, doesn't mean that my eldest particularly has come off Scott free, the neighbours have put a camera facing my home, she had them stop her in the street and shout "how's your daddy?" At her, whilst walking home from school (now imagine I hadn't told her what's going on), I they shouted at her once that she was a p word...she's 13. The police did nothing to help or deal with the situation. She knows that they keep posting about him on there Facebook page and their website. She told me one of her friends found out about her dad because they are on FB but thankfully they are supportive and haven't told anyone else.
now unfortunately my DD had admitted she has suicidal thoughts and is depressed. She and my DS miss their dad. It breaks my heart when my youngest cry's for his dad.
the vigilantes don't take any of this into consideration when they sting and post it all over social media, even when I begged them not to because of how my daughter is feeling their response was they do it to protect children. No they do it for a damn ego boost.
My children are real children suffering but they don't care
ironicly police said that they dont condone what the vigilantes did the very next day to me, but they arrested him using their evidence, he's on remand because he didn't feel safe in the real world due to the vigilantes (yeah you can ask to be remanded).
I hate them
now unfortunately my DD had admitted she has suicidal thoughts and is depressed. She and my DS miss their dad. It breaks my heart when my youngest cry's for his dad.
the vigilantes don't take any of this into consideration when they sting and post it all over social media, even when I begged them not to because of how my daughter is feeling their response was they do it to protect children. No they do it for a damn ego boost.
My children are real children suffering but they don't care
ironicly police said that they dont condone what the vigilantes did the very next day to me, but they arrested him using their evidence, he's on remand because he didn't feel safe in the real world due to the vigilantes (yeah you can ask to be remanded).
I hate them
Goodness - this is horrific...... you poor families that have to face this, I was so terrified we would be targeted but thank god it didn't happen but I still live in fear it 'might' one day, even though my son will never live here again.
As for the children, it is pure abuse and surely breaking the law - I'm stunned the police don't act. I'm sure these group's do work hand in hand - makes it easier for the police so they can continue sitting in their cosy office in front of a screen, job done for them.
We've said it endlessly on here we are innocent victims, we had no idea what was happening under our noses - we weren't part of this. Unless you've lived through it you have absolutely NO idea or understanding .... :-(
As for the children, it is pure abuse and surely breaking the law - I'm stunned the police don't act. I'm sure these group's do work hand in hand - makes it easier for the police so they can continue sitting in their cosy office in front of a screen, job done for them.
We've said it endlessly on here we are innocent victims, we had no idea what was happening under our noses - we weren't part of this. Unless you've lived through it you have absolutely NO idea or understanding .... :-(
Omg . I have no word except I'm so sorry this happened to you band your family. It's horrendous and I really hope you're getting help and can move on from this trauma. They are absolute scumbags .x
I dont think I will EVER be able to describe the full extent of what trauma my children went through on that door knock.
Luckily we've moved now and they are settling abut better, however they will still have to have counselling.
I dont understand why these teams have to behave in this manner.
Other children are so cruel, especially as 3 of mine are teens so as you can imagine it was posted everywhere. What makes me so angry is the adults were worse than the kids.
Luckily we've moved now and they are settling abut better, however they will still have to have counselling.
I dont understand why these teams have to behave in this manner.
Other children are so cruel, especially as 3 of mine are teens so as you can imagine it was posted everywhere. What makes me so angry is the adults were worse than the kids.
It's so unfair . They should be convicted for thevtrsuma they cause .your poor children. I was lucky I put a letter to judge to protect my (teen) daughter and myself and she agreed no media . I feel lucky ever day for this . I just really hope you can all eventually move on from this as best you can honey .the only way is hope now and I hope you have some luck and the life you deserve xx
The proof is in the pudding
yet again my DD was accosted by the Pr**K living over the road this time his little devil sporn put his finger up at my DD so she reciprocated (she has every right to do so), so the dad (I'm using that term very loosely) starts on my DD again. Please bare in mind she's 13 this bloke is in his 40's. This time calling her a fat little c word and a d-head. Now I'm proud of my girl because she shouted "you should know what one is being one" hahahah sorry slightly comical. Comes in then starts crying her eyes out begging to phone the police so of course I allow her to.
now bare also in mind that there is a pin on this address due to him previously bullying my DD, police will attend in a few days. A few days shows just how much they take accosting a child seriously.
im fuming, I would love nothing better than to go over there and give his head a good swivel, however I don't want to end up in jail so I'm just sat here telling you all that I not only hate the A-Hole doing this to a child but also HATE the vigilanties because this is what we now have to deal with. Sorry for the rant xx
yet again my DD was accosted by the Pr**K living over the road this time his little devil sporn put his finger up at my DD so she reciprocated (she has every right to do so), so the dad (I'm using that term very loosely) starts on my DD again. Please bare in mind she's 13 this bloke is in his 40's. This time calling her a fat little c word and a d-head. Now I'm proud of my girl because she shouted "you should know what one is being one" hahahah sorry slightly comical. Comes in then starts crying her eyes out begging to phone the police so of course I allow her to.
now bare also in mind that there is a pin on this address due to him previously bullying my DD, police will attend in a few days. A few days shows just how much they take accosting a child seriously.
im fuming, I would love nothing better than to go over there and give his head a good swivel, however I don't want to end up in jail so I'm just sat here telling you all that I not only hate the A-Hole doing this to a child but also HATE the vigilanties because this is what we now have to deal with. Sorry for the rant xx
Dragon mama, that's absolutely disgusting. As I said in a earlier post it's adults (you would think they know better) that are the worst.
We have a marker on our new house the same as the old house. A post went up about me, my address was given out about our old house etc. I didnt phone the police but 2 friends asked them to do a welfare check on me and the children......a month later they finally did that welfare check. A whole month, considering what my mental health was like at the time they were lucky to not have walked in on someone deceased.
Something needs to be done in regards to real life children and these teams doing door knocks.
We have a marker on our new house the same as the old house. A post went up about me, my address was given out about our old house etc. I didnt phone the police but 2 friends asked them to do a welfare check on me and the children......a month later they finally did that welfare check. A whole month, considering what my mental health was like at the time they were lucky to not have walked in on someone deceased.
Something needs to be done in regards to real life children and these teams doing door knocks.