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I don't even know where to start, 3 days ago I was happy married with a happy family, yesterday there was a knock at the door, my house was flipped and searched for technology, my husband was taking away by the police after the findings on his phone . They labeled him as a grade 1, I got told that he can not make contact with us, the police were not helpful they left me numb broken and in a mess, the ruined my life that day and left me with a leaflet, I have so much questions that I don't want the answers too. He's due to appear in court this Saturday in private, but what next . What is really next, can't process any off this it dosent feel real . I can't breath thinking about it.
I'm really sorry you have joined this club no one wants to be a part of. You will find lots of support on the page there are some (mainly) ladies wife who have stayed some who have left mothers and other family members. We don't judge newcomers. None of us condone our persons behaviours it is a space to rant ask questions get suport from people who understand
I'm sorry you have not been able to have contact with him I'm sure you have a million questions which probably can only be answered by him. Sorry I don't know what grade 1 is but there is lots of knowledgeable people on here who maybe able to advise further.
It is often the case the police treat and leave you feeling this way, don't feel that's a reflection of you. Please remember it was your husband though who brought them to your door, although I'm sure it could have been handled more sensitively.
Maybe after court he may get bail and perhaps will be able to contact you by phone so you can ask the questions you need. Please keep an open mind as to how your person has ended up in this situation. Often the wait for devices to comeback takes a while but don't focus on that now.
it's really important to look after you and any children of you have them it's survival mode at the moment take it hour by hour that's all you can do. Try and eat and drink something and get some sleep. Ring the helpline for suport if needed sometimes it's good just to cry and talk. Be cautious with who you tell as you can't take the information back. Don't make rash desions regarding anything just take time to process and do what's right for you not what others think you should. No one understands unless they walk in our shoes.
Please take care of yourself and keep coming back to post x
I'm sorry you have not been able to have contact with him I'm sure you have a million questions which probably can only be answered by him. Sorry I don't know what grade 1 is but there is lots of knowledgeable people on here who maybe able to advise further.
It is often the case the police treat and leave you feeling this way, don't feel that's a reflection of you. Please remember it was your husband though who brought them to your door, although I'm sure it could have been handled more sensitively.
Maybe after court he may get bail and perhaps will be able to contact you by phone so you can ask the questions you need. Please keep an open mind as to how your person has ended up in this situation. Often the wait for devices to comeback takes a while but don't focus on that now.
it's really important to look after you and any children of you have them it's survival mode at the moment take it hour by hour that's all you can do. Try and eat and drink something and get some sleep. Ring the helpline for suport if needed sometimes it's good just to cry and talk. Be cautious with who you tell as you can't take the information back. Don't make rash desions regarding anything just take time to process and do what's right for you not what others think you should. No one understands unless they walk in our shoes.
Please take care of yourself and keep coming back to post x
Hi Db - it's hard, but try not to take it all on board at once, it's too much for anyone to cope with. You fill your head with 'what if's' and overthink/dread things that might never happen.
It is easier said than done with such an horrific situation we are all in, I know.
you matter too, keep that strength up xxxxx
It is easier said than done with such an horrific situation we are all in, I know.
you matter too, keep that strength up xxxxx