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hi first time posting and really don’t know where to begin. The knock was a week ago and I am not coping well. They found images on my partners computer and he was arrested and taken away. Later returned on bail with court date given
since then we have talked and talked and he tells me he has never visited a site with ioc images and would never. He thinks they have come in in peer to peer whilst downloading other films/tv etc. He just randomly clicks until he gets the file he wants deletes everything else! They were found within the computer so he did not have access - not sure how this works if I am honest
i don’t know what happens next. His solicitor says this is more common than we would know and it’s happening more and more. How can this be right
my life is upside down any positive tales would be appreciated
since then we have talked and talked and he tells me he has never visited a site with ioc images and would never. He thinks they have come in in peer to peer whilst downloading other films/tv etc. He just randomly clicks until he gets the file he wants deletes everything else! They were found within the computer so he did not have access - not sure how this works if I am honest
i don’t know what happens next. His solicitor says this is more common than we would know and it’s happening more and more. How can this be right
my life is upside down any positive tales would be appreciated
Hi, I'm sorry you have found yourself here amongst us. It's not somewhere any of us ever anticipated being. Your solicitor is absolutely correct about this becoming more common. You will see from the many posts on here how common and also how complex each individual case is. Post knock the progression can be painfully slow so be prepared. Our lives returned to a new normal with a dark cloud hanging over us until charged. What followed was also painfully slow and incredibly stressful. From knock to sentencing our journey was 18 months, I know for some here it was longer. However long your journey is you are absolutely not alone x
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Ring the helpline for Lucy faithful (it can sometimes take a while but worth the wait) as they will be able to give more insight in the next steps and what could be expected. Unfortunately the journey can be quite long ...talking at least a year as checks in devices can take a long while. The police don't allows start this process straight away, depends on workload etc.
A caution I would give is that it is early days, my partner denied and played it down for a couple of weeks and then told the whole truth. Not saying your partner is lying, but some people caught with iioc are not fully honest as they go through shock too.
Might be worth in time asking about their overall online behaviour and if they may have not been too cautious with their veiwing/ downloading of files etc. The act of deletion to the police and CPS could be seen as willing hiding the evidence, I hope I'm making sense.
It is somewhat common to hear people come across iioc through illegal downloads of 'legal' content such as films and music.
It is very early days, don't make any big decisions.
A caution I would give is that it is early days, my partner denied and played it down for a couple of weeks and then told the whole truth. Not saying your partner is lying, but some people caught with iioc are not fully honest as they go through shock too.
Might be worth in time asking about their overall online behaviour and if they may have not been too cautious with their veiwing/ downloading of files etc. The act of deletion to the police and CPS could be seen as willing hiding the evidence, I hope I'm making sense.
It is somewhat common to hear people come across iioc through illegal downloads of 'legal' content such as films and music.
It is very early days, don't make any big decisions.
Thank you to those who replied to my post
I will give the helpline a call tomorrow. I just do t know what way up the world is at the moment. I am hurt, angry, confused but I want to believe him for the moment. He is under no illusion if this is true it’s done. I can’t do it anymore. If he has indeed stupidly or mistakenly then we can make mistakes can’t see?
I thiught i had had been through some stuff in life but this is the worst and most painful to date
hang on in there ladies and any gents on here. We are not to blame but it feels like it
I will give the helpline a call tomorrow. I just do t know what way up the world is at the moment. I am hurt, angry, confused but I want to believe him for the moment. He is under no illusion if this is true it’s done. I can’t do it anymore. If he has indeed stupidly or mistakenly then we can make mistakes can’t see?
I thiught i had had been through some stuff in life but this is the worst and most painful to date
hang on in there ladies and any gents on here. We are not to blame but it feels like it
Very helpful advice from the other posters on here.
Can I just add, it doesn't matter if your husband downloaded these pictures accidently.
He might very well tell the truth, but it won't matter to the court. It will be treated as a crime irregardless.
Sorry to be a bit negative here (I am in exactly the same situation as you)
Take care xx
Can I just add, it doesn't matter if your husband downloaded these pictures accidently.
He might very well tell the truth, but it won't matter to the court. It will be treated as a crime irregardless.
Sorry to be a bit negative here (I am in exactly the same situation as you)
Take care xx