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Thursday last our life's became a living hell. My sons (he's 20) PC and phone have been removed and an investigation is underway. I am completely lost.
There is no help! I have tried so find a solicitor, someone to talk to , some advice... it's impossible. The help is available 9-5 or not every day. It's Easter... there's no help.
I dont know where to turn, and I'm tiring up for work each day since ... distrrpoyed inside, and trying to hide it outside.
There is no help! I have tried so find a solicitor, someone to talk to , some advice... it's impossible. The help is available 9-5 or not every day. It's Easter... there's no help.
I dont know where to turn, and I'm tiring up for work each day since ... distrrpoyed inside, and trying to hide it outside.
Sorry you have found yourself here through no fault of your own we are supportive and non judgemental there are other parents on this forum who maybe able to help with questions and can resonate with how you feel. The helpline is mon-Fri til about 9pm I think give them a call they are very busy but keep trying and also signpost your son to call
take care of yourself
take care of yourself
Hello there,
You probably posted this over the bank holiday. You're able to post now that you've been moderated.
Sorry you find yourself here. There are lots of different people at stages here. Lots are parents too.
I hope you've managed to find a solicitor now. You need a criminal defence solicitor if you haven't navigated that yet.
The LFF helpline here is open lots, check the times on the website here, and there is sometimes a chat feature open. The forum here is 24/7.
If your son is feeling desperate then there is Papyrus (google them) who offer a phone line and text support.
These early days are a particular kind of hell that unless you've been through it, no one understands. We all understand here.
Sleep and eat when you can. Your son will need a lot of support to get through this, and so will you, so reach out when you can.
Sending love x
You probably posted this over the bank holiday. You're able to post now that you've been moderated.
Sorry you find yourself here. There are lots of different people at stages here. Lots are parents too.
I hope you've managed to find a solicitor now. You need a criminal defence solicitor if you haven't navigated that yet.
The LFF helpline here is open lots, check the times on the website here, and there is sometimes a chat feature open. The forum here is 24/7.
If your son is feeling desperate then there is Papyrus (google them) who offer a phone line and text support.
These early days are a particular kind of hell that unless you've been through it, no one understands. We all understand here.
Sleep and eat when you can. Your son will need a lot of support to get through this, and so will you, so reach out when you can.
Sending love x
My son is 19. Exactly like you his devices were taken and our world came crashing down. You have had some good advice already. Once you have time to digest the information out there you will realise it will take the police a long time to examine those devices so although this in many ways prolongs stress and worry it does give you time. Time to look around for legal advice, time for your son to enrol in some therapy to address his behaviour. You are still in shock, use the helpline and take care of yourself.
This forum can be a little bit overwhelming so many people so many stories but it is an enormous resource for help support and great advice. Sending love, you are not alone.
This forum can be a little bit overwhelming so many people so many stories but it is an enormous resource for help support and great advice. Sending love, you are not alone.
BrokenFather
Deep breath and breathe x
This is a total shock and hard to even try to think straight but as already said, try to eat, rest,
Please keep trying the helpline they will be able to listen and offer support, recommend a therapist etc
My son is also the one who has offended but he was late 20s when first arrested
You will get through this as will your son no matter how difficult it is at the moment
We are all here to offer support, please be kind to yourself x
Deep breath and breathe x
This is a total shock and hard to even try to think straight but as already said, try to eat, rest,
Please keep trying the helpline they will be able to listen and offer support, recommend a therapist etc
My son is also the one who has offended but he was late 20s when first arrested
You will get through this as will your son no matter how difficult it is at the moment
We are all here to offer support, please be kind to yourself x
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I'm here for you too. Our lives changed when my son was 'caught' - he was 35.
You have made a good choice by seeking support on here, we don't judge, we help and guide. It's a horrible place to be.....
like what's been said, yes try as hard as you possibly can to seek legal support. We were SO shocked at the time, I will always regret not doing this for him.
Keep strong my friend.....
You have made a good choice by seeking support on here, we don't judge, we help and guide. It's a horrible place to be.....
like what's been said, yes try as hard as you possibly can to seek legal support. We were SO shocked at the time, I will always regret not doing this for him.
Keep strong my friend.....
Hi Brokenfather. My son(18) is also the offender I can't really add much more than what has already been said, but I just wanted to add my support and tell you that this forum is a fantastic place to come for advice or just to vent. Definitely ring the helpline aswel, my son has spoken to them numerous times and they are fantastic. Love and strength to you xx