Its that Weekly Check in time x
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Its Friday again, where has the week gone?x
I really hope you are all ok with me doing these weekly check ins x
My week has been ok, I am binge watching Vampire diaries , I spend most of my time watching Netflix or Prime, love a good thriller, my daughter suggested this and I have to say even though it is over the top its good to get lost in something that is easy watchable x
My Son is doing ok, we have a visit next Sat and they have introduced back on to the menu toasted crumpets as the visit is at 9am it is a very much welcomed brekkie and a bargain at 2 for 50p but we still spend around £30 on a visit x
Today I did a good deed, a young polish lady turned up at my work place, I was going out for a cigarette break and happened to see her at our main building door, cut a long story short she was an agency worker looking for the company she was meant to be at but was lost, Googled where she was meant to be, it was pouring with rain, no umbrella or coat, the place I work we have uniform for our drivers so got her a jacket, gave her an umbrella, then one of our drivers was leaving the depot so asked if he could drop her off as it was local to where we are based, I told her she would be fine with our driver, and she gave me the biggest hug, and thanked me for been so kind
Just a small gesture but it made a huge difference to her xx
I really hope you are all ok with me doing these weekly check ins x
My week has been ok, I am binge watching Vampire diaries , I spend most of my time watching Netflix or Prime, love a good thriller, my daughter suggested this and I have to say even though it is over the top its good to get lost in something that is easy watchable x
My Son is doing ok, we have a visit next Sat and they have introduced back on to the menu toasted crumpets as the visit is at 9am it is a very much welcomed brekkie and a bargain at 2 for 50p but we still spend around £30 on a visit x
Today I did a good deed, a young polish lady turned up at my work place, I was going out for a cigarette break and happened to see her at our main building door, cut a long story short she was an agency worker looking for the company she was meant to be at but was lost, Googled where she was meant to be, it was pouring with rain, no umbrella or coat, the place I work we have uniform for our drivers so got her a jacket, gave her an umbrella, then one of our drivers was leaving the depot so asked if he could drop her off as it was local to where we are based, I told her she would be fine with our driver, and she gave me the biggest hug, and thanked me for been so kind
Just a small gesture but it made a huge difference to her xx
O I love reading how your all doing it's like a gossip column.
I'm having a tidying weekend after having the grandchildren to stay. So quite boring. Just finished a week of work so might have a drop of red tonight also. Then a bowl of snacks later to have a read up on everyone week.
Anne :)
I'm having a tidying weekend after having the grandchildren to stay. So quite boring. Just finished a week of work so might have a drop of red tonight also. Then a bowl of snacks later to have a read up on everyone week.
Anne :)
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Hello everyone,
I had a lovely week up until yesterday-a weekend away over Easter visiting a very wonderful friend who has been an absolute rock throughout this horrible journey and then meeting up with my other son in London.
However I started feeling unwell on Wednesday evening and yesterday tested positive for Covid so I'm currently tucked up in bed and feeling pretty rough .
I had a lovely week up until yesterday-a weekend away over Easter visiting a very wonderful friend who has been an absolute rock throughout this horrible journey and then meeting up with my other son in London.
However I started feeling unwell on Wednesday evening and yesterday tested positive for Covid so I'm currently tucked up in bed and feeling pretty rough .
I love that all this has not made us bitter and we can still and want to help people, that was such a lovely deed.
weeks been ok, managed to go to the dentist after putting it off three times already, I actually got out of the house again to buy shoes for the kids,swear shoes are not made to last more than a couple of weeks either that or my kids are heavy footed.
whilst cleaning up some toys in my DSs under stairs play area I managed to almost knock myself out by not realising quite where the bottom of the stairs were, some swearing and a possible concussion later the lump has gone down to about the size of half and egg which is a major improvement. Still have a mild headache but that's ok.
Therapy is going well so all in all a good week
weeks been ok, managed to go to the dentist after putting it off three times already, I actually got out of the house again to buy shoes for the kids,swear shoes are not made to last more than a couple of weeks either that or my kids are heavy footed.
whilst cleaning up some toys in my DSs under stairs play area I managed to almost knock myself out by not realising quite where the bottom of the stairs were, some swearing and a possible concussion later the lump has gone down to about the size of half and egg which is a major improvement. Still have a mild headache but that's ok.
Therapy is going well so all in all a good week
Anne20
It is so like a gossip column lol :-) but it's so good to hear that our lives outside this journey we are all doing ok xx
Enjoy your weekend , I love a good tidy up and I dont even have grandchildren xx
It is so like a gossip column lol :-) but it's so good to hear that our lives outside this journey we are all doing ok xx
Enjoy your weekend , I love a good tidy up and I dont even have grandchildren xx
Daff
Check you out with your grading, well done xx
Sorry you are in pain, :-( but look at what you have achieved xx
Can I ask a personal question?
What is the pain you suffer with xx
Check you out with your grading, well done xx
Sorry you are in pain, :-( but look at what you have achieved xx
Can I ask a personal question?
What is the pain you suffer with xx
Considering it's been a short week after the Bank Holiday, it feels like it's been a long week. My first full week back in the office for months. Mixed feelings about it. Often on my own in our small office but then I ran into someone on site (outside the gents toilet!) that I hadn't seen for ages and he gave me a big hug when he saw me, which was nice. He has no idea about what's going on as far as I know. It was just nice to get a hug!
Another plus, work is about a mile and half from home so I've walked some days. Despite the rain (I've bought myself some waterproof trousers) I'm enjoying the "me" time. Planning on shopping for some waterproof shoes next!
Another plus, work is about a mile and half from home so I've walked some days. Despite the rain (I've bought myself some waterproof trousers) I'm enjoying the "me" time. Planning on shopping for some waterproof shoes next!
Blue sky
Having time away from work is good but it leaves to much time to think x
Dry those eyes, and enjoy doing something for you, let us know what new clothes you choose, I am awful with choosing clothes, I live in jeans and tops, :-) at work I have to dress in trousers and blouses,
You sorted your mums online banking that is a positive xx
Having time away from work is good but it leaves to much time to think x
Dry those eyes, and enjoy doing something for you, let us know what new clothes you choose, I am awful with choosing clothes, I live in jeans and tops, :-) at work I have to dress in trousers and blouses,
You sorted your mums online banking that is a positive xx
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Seaside
Ahh so glad you had a lovely meet up with your dear friend,x
Your other son lives not that far away from where I am, I'm 30 mins away from London x
How is he? What is his relationship with his brother if you don't mind me asking?
Sorry to hear you have tested positive hope you are not feeling to bad xx
Ahh so glad you had a lovely meet up with your dear friend,x
Your other son lives not that far away from where I am, I'm 30 mins away from London x
How is he? What is his relationship with his brother if you don't mind me asking?
Sorry to hear you have tested positive hope you are not feeling to bad xx
Dragonmama
Omg hope you are ok x please keep an eye on the bump and if you feel any worse call the doctor x
Dentist are my worst phobia, so well done you xx
Omg hope you are ok x please keep an eye on the bump and if you feel any worse call the doctor x
Dentist are my worst phobia, so well done you xx
Runawaygirl
I know what you mean x even long weekends are great they still feel like a normal weekend
Well done for getting back in to the office and I bet it felt nice to have someone hug you weather they know or not, xx
I know what you mean x even long weekends are great they still feel like a normal weekend
Well done for getting back in to the office and I bet it felt nice to have someone hug you weather they know or not, xx
Daff
Do you have medication to help? It sounds awful, but yet you mange to cope with everything xx
Do you have medication to help? It sounds awful, but yet you mange to cope with everything xx
I love our catch/ups.
An ok week. Apart from the prison phone problems causing me stress loosing contact with my son if only for a few days. Mind racing yet again.
Had an in depth conversation about his crime today, he said he would never do anything like it again and wouldn’t go back inside. He was looking forward to starting a complete new life. I said I had faith in him - that’s why I’ve stuck by him. It’s not very often we have this type of conversation.
Continue to keep an eye on my skin change. Not got any worse and skin going back to normal. Fingers crossed.
Lots of holiday, lie-ins good but yearn to go back to normal routine.
Hoping for warmer climes - lots of gardening to be done! Always does me good to get outdoors.....
So this week, not too bad......
* well done Upset for your good deed. I feel much more sensitive towards other people's troubles than I did previous.
An ok week. Apart from the prison phone problems causing me stress loosing contact with my son if only for a few days. Mind racing yet again.
Had an in depth conversation about his crime today, he said he would never do anything like it again and wouldn’t go back inside. He was looking forward to starting a complete new life. I said I had faith in him - that’s why I’ve stuck by him. It’s not very often we have this type of conversation.
Continue to keep an eye on my skin change. Not got any worse and skin going back to normal. Fingers crossed.
Lots of holiday, lie-ins good but yearn to go back to normal routine.
Hoping for warmer climes - lots of gardening to be done! Always does me good to get outdoors.....
So this week, not too bad......
* well done Upset for your good deed. I feel much more sensitive towards other people's troubles than I did previous.
Upset his relationship with his brother is ok but he hasn't really talked to him about what happened-he has discussed things with me and I did tell him that I would understand if he didn't want to maintain contact but he says that whilst he thinks his brother was an idiot he can understand the reasons behind it and he knows that he's not a bad person.
Smile x
Have you been to get it checked up?x
Honestly I know our sons will never do this again, I have spoken to my son numerous times about his offending and I know in my heart if we could only turn back it would never have got to where he is now x
How brave it was for him to open up I know how tough this has been for you both, small steps each day xx
Have you been to get it checked up?x
Honestly I know our sons will never do this again, I have spoken to my son numerous times about his offending and I know in my heart if we could only turn back it would never have got to where he is now x
How brave it was for him to open up I know how tough this has been for you both, small steps each day xx
Seaside x
It was the same for my eldest son, he dosent do emotions, but i never really thought about the impact to him, my daughter was distraught, she has been on antidepressants since the knock, she is my rock and is beautiful inside and out and had supported her brother since day one, but my eldest broke down once in floods of tears, and sobbed in my arms ( heartbreaking) as much as I said to him come on a visit he kept making excuses, as hard as it was I didn't ask him anymore and then he asked me and the e of us had a visit on xmas eve, it was heartbreaking to see them hug each other but at the same time it was lovely x
This journey as awful as it is has made us just so much closer, I just wish we could have had this before but I understand why it wasn't now xx
It was the same for my eldest son, he dosent do emotions, but i never really thought about the impact to him, my daughter was distraught, she has been on antidepressants since the knock, she is my rock and is beautiful inside and out and had supported her brother since day one, but my eldest broke down once in floods of tears, and sobbed in my arms ( heartbreaking) as much as I said to him come on a visit he kept making excuses, as hard as it was I didn't ask him anymore and then he asked me and the e of us had a visit on xmas eve, it was heartbreaking to see them hug each other but at the same time it was lovely x
This journey as awful as it is has made us just so much closer, I just wish we could have had this before but I understand why it wasn't now xx
Hi all
I absolutely love the normality of these weekly catch ups. We'll done all for surviving another week. We'll done for the grading, the therapies, the tidying and the concussion x
I'm very excited tonight. My baby girl is 18 tomorrow, I've arranged a few surprises for her so can't wait to see her smiling face. Without realising she has been my rock over the past 10 months.
I have a zoom call with Circle Southeast about some group work for wives and families of offenders next week. Fingers crossed I can start putting myself first soon.
Have a good one ladies x
I absolutely love the normality of these weekly catch ups. We'll done all for surviving another week. We'll done for the grading, the therapies, the tidying and the concussion x
I'm very excited tonight. My baby girl is 18 tomorrow, I've arranged a few surprises for her so can't wait to see her smiling face. Without realising she has been my rock over the past 10 months.
I have a zoom call with Circle Southeast about some group work for wives and families of offenders next week. Fingers crossed I can start putting myself first soon.
Have a good one ladies x
Upset mum,
im ok, the bump has gone down quite a bit, still some pain in the area but headache has mostly gone.
I don't mind the dentist (though I will have to have a tooth pulled eventually) it's just getting out of the house that's the problem. What is it about the dentist that you dislike? Did you know that if it's the white coats for example you can request that they wear more normal clothes? (My mum was terrified of the dentist for that reason)
im ok, the bump has gone down quite a bit, still some pain in the area but headache has mostly gone.
I don't mind the dentist (though I will have to have a tooth pulled eventually) it's just getting out of the house that's the problem. What is it about the dentist that you dislike? Did you know that if it's the white coats for example you can request that they wear more normal clothes? (My mum was terrified of the dentist for that reason)
I had a good week and I'm going to meet my colleagues in London tomorrow for a team event. Should be fun and I am looking forward to it.
I wish you all a lovely weekend xx
I wish you all a lovely weekend xx
Confused&worried
Oh wow Happy 18th to your Baby girl for tomorrow, mine is going to be 27 on the 27th xx
Glad you are doing ok x
Oh wow Happy 18th to your Baby girl for tomorrow, mine is going to be 27 on the 27th xx
Glad you are doing ok x
Dragonmama
Glad the bump has gone down but do be careful, if you still have a headache tomorrow get it checked x
I used to go to the dentist every 6 months but the last time was awful that was 4 years ago and now its impossible to register somewhere where I live unless I go private and that costs a fortune xx
Glad the bump has gone down but do be careful, if you still have a headache tomorrow get it checked x
I used to go to the dentist every 6 months but the last time was awful that was 4 years ago and now its impossible to register somewhere where I live unless I go private and that costs a fortune xx
Hpl111
I hope the team event includes lots of drinks:-)
London isn't that far from me, spent a lot of time doing the trips out, walking for miles xx
I hope the team event includes lots of drinks:-)
London isn't that far from me, spent a lot of time doing the trips out, walking for miles xx
That was a lovely thing you did upset mum. My two boys have been home from uni (going back tommorow)
Because we are still waiting on the devices being checked ..things just feel normal...with a constant undercurrent of anxiety.
Like you I like to submerge in a good tv show to take my mind off things so will have a look at your recommendations.
Chin up everyone, sending love xx
Because we are still waiting on the devices being checked ..things just feel normal...with a constant undercurrent of anxiety.
Like you I like to submerge in a good tv show to take my mind off things so will have a look at your recommendations.
Chin up everyone, sending love xx
Good evening ladies, well I have just got home from work and I'm now going to enjoy a nice glass of wine. I have had a bit of an anxious week but feeling bit better today. Our son has started the young persons inform course so I'm feeling good about that. Its been rain rain rain all day so looking forward to some sunshine next week. Have a good weekend everyone xxx
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If I thought last week was bad for me this week was worst. My mum passed away on Tuesday and today my friend has been diagnosed with lung cancer which has spread to the liver. Only has a matter of months to live. The only person I could talk to about my son and they never judged him. My mums funeral is the day before my sons next court date for sentencing. I don't know how much more I can take. Xx
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It's nice to see something positive. I like the updates it reassures me I am not alone.
I took a big step and took the kids on holiday on my own. Caravan holiday by the beach for the Easter break. Just wanted to prove to myself I could manage it all on my own.
We had a fab time and it was nice to get away from home and work. Away from the memories of what home brings.
Still struggling with everything and I just don't know what to do but one step at a time. Some good news from the Social Worker, they have advised that they will leave me be as there is nothing they can do for me or my family. It will be nice not to have those drop in visits.
I took a big step and took the kids on holiday on my own. Caravan holiday by the beach for the Easter break. Just wanted to prove to myself I could manage it all on my own.
We had a fab time and it was nice to get away from home and work. Away from the memories of what home brings.
Still struggling with everything and I just don't know what to do but one step at a time. Some good news from the Social Worker, they have advised that they will leave me be as there is nothing they can do for me or my family. It will be nice not to have those drop in visits.
So sorry Mandymoo to hear of your loss. It's so sad when life changing circumstances occur while we are on this journey, especially when we loose someone.
I lost my dad last year, in his last months I felt so sad my son would not see his grandad again.
I lost my dad last year, in his last months I felt so sad my son would not see his grandad again.
@Mandy I'm so sorry to hear your news x
@mandymoo, I'm so incredibly sorry for what you are going through and your loss xxx
Mandymoo
My heart really does go out to you, sending strength and love at this sad time xx
We are here for you xx
My heart really does go out to you, sending strength and love at this sad time xx
We are here for you xx
Another x
Aww as hard as it will be to see them leave but think of how well they are doing and they will always be back home in the holidays xx
And on another note how much less washing you will have to do :-)
My daughter and her boyfriend are moving out in 4 months and as much as I am happy for them I am dreading it xx
Aww as hard as it will be to see them leave but think of how well they are doing and they will always be back home in the holidays xx
And on another note how much less washing you will have to do :-)
My daughter and her boyfriend are moving out in 4 months and as much as I am happy for them I am dreading it xx
@Mandymoo, I'm so sorry to hear your news. Sending you lots of love and strength xxx
Kt
Have a glass for me x
Aniety is awful but it comes hand in hand with the uncertainty of this journey x but you have been so strong , you have us to learn on if it gets to much xx
Have a glass for me x
Aniety is awful but it comes hand in hand with the uncertainty of this journey x but you have been so strong , you have us to learn on if it gets to much xx
SoTired
Wow a busy week for you x
Your house sounds amazing, and to be fair a dishwasher is a waste of money, I say that as I have never had one lol x
How is the facecream? I googled it and it sounds amazing, xx
Wow a busy week for you x
Your house sounds amazing, and to be fair a dishwasher is a waste of money, I say that as I have never had one lol x
How is the facecream? I googled it and it sounds amazing, xx
Thank you ladies for your kind words. It means a lot xx
Love this weekly update. I have been off work this week. Spent the whole week looking after my puppy. Life is so simple for the little pup. Keeps my mind off things. Mandymoo so sorry to hear about your loss. This journey makes things seem do much worse.
it is nice to hear people talk about everyday things. I have managed to read a book this week which always helps me. My thing is chocolate not wine so have had fun this week eating my easter eggs.
Heres to having a good week everyone. X
it is nice to hear people talk about everyday things. I have managed to read a book this week which always helps me. My thing is chocolate not wine so have had fun this week eating my easter eggs.
Heres to having a good week everyone. X
So sorry to hear about your mum and how those important dates will come close together. You are amazing and strong and you have come this far you will get through it.
It's lovely to hear everyone's positive stories this week x
It's lovely to hear everyone's positive stories this week x
Mandy moo, I'm so sorry for the loss of your mom and sad news of your friend. Try to find some time for you to process and grieve.
I like the weekly check ins, it's amazing the sense of family we all share on here. It's fab to have read so many positives this week. I've had a good week, was able to have our date night last weekend and actually spent 3 days as a little family over the bank holidays even if it was broken up to sleep. We've had quite a few conversations this week about our future and whilst we don't know when we will be in a position to live together again we definitely want to be together and will continue to work towards that xxx
I like the weekly check ins, it's amazing the sense of family we all share on here. It's fab to have read so many positives this week. I've had a good week, was able to have our date night last weekend and actually spent 3 days as a little family over the bank holidays even if it was broken up to sleep. We've had quite a few conversations this week about our future and whilst we don't know when we will be in a position to live together again we definitely want to be together and will continue to work towards that xxx
Webb89
Bet it was nice having time off and what a great way to spend time with your new addition, has she settled in well with your other furbaby?xx
Bet it was nice having time off and what a great way to spend time with your new addition, has she settled in well with your other furbaby?xx
Distressed
Aww I bet it was lovely been able to have some quality time in your little family unit xx
Who knows how it will end up but you really do have some solid grounds to be able to rebuild a family future all together xx
Aww I bet it was lovely been able to have some quality time in your little family unit xx
Who knows how it will end up but you really do have some solid grounds to be able to rebuild a family future all together xx
Upset mum
Yes she is settling in nicely. My other dog has been a bit insecure since the new addition but we are working hard to make it as easy a transition as possible. Dogs alwayd see life in its simpliest terms. Food, sleep and play and thats life. They keep me grounded, get me get up every day which on some days that is a challenge, to walk and look after. The puppy gets me very tired so i am sleeping better. Xx
Yes she is settling in nicely. My other dog has been a bit insecure since the new addition but we are working hard to make it as easy a transition as possible. Dogs alwayd see life in its simpliest terms. Food, sleep and play and thats life. They keep me grounded, get me get up every day which on some days that is a challenge, to walk and look after. The puppy gets me very tired so i am sleeping better. Xx
Distressed and pregnant, sounds like me, we are also a 3 and altho nearer the beginning of this journey than I think you are, we are hoping we can work things out to live together and be a proper family once more!
Decorating this weekend ready to sell up. Very depressing as this is my home of dreams but trying to see some silver linings in the reduced costs and feelings of independence it will hopefully give me to move!
Decorating this weekend ready to sell up. Very depressing as this is my home of dreams but trying to see some silver linings in the reduced costs and feelings of independence it will hopefully give me to move!
Hi Inthemoment,
I'm strange because I have 3 kids so me and baby belong to a family of 4 (us and my older children) and another family of 3 (us and my person, her daddy). We're over two years post sentencing now and things are more on an even keel. I hope you're doing ok xxx
I'm strange because I have 3 kids so me and baby belong to a family of 4 (us and my older children) and another family of 3 (us and my person, her daddy). We're over two years post sentencing now and things are more on an even keel. I hope you're doing ok xxx
I want to reply to all these messages as I'm a 'fixer'. In fact after many years as a teacher I retired to become a pastoral worker for a big city centre church and supported/befriended women with lots of probs, including historical sexual abuse and the aftermath of that. Now I'm trying to love and support an adult son living with us on bail because of being arrested for an indecent images offence. We have had several years of worrying about him due to his wife's mental health problems (delusions and confabulations, some aimed at us and some sexual in nature) but have admired his protective capabilities with his children. Now we discover that he wasn't as strong and stalwart as we had believed. So that is the ongoing narrative of our life....
BUT we have a daughter and family who are leaving next week to live in Australia and I'm determined not to spoil our last days with them so this week we have loved seeing our grandson, hearing all his fart jokes and eating too much chocolate (our son has been part of this too after many years of his wife separating him from us, so every cloud etc etc)
I also ADORE musical theatre and as we live in easy reach of London I took myself off for a day seeing Guys and Dolls (amazing and reminded me of my mum) and Ain't Too Proud - all about the Motown group, the Temptations. Both fabulous and a few hours of forgetting my troubles.
Lots of love to all you amazing ladies - and an especial hug for the mums xx
BUT we have a daughter and family who are leaving next week to live in Australia and I'm determined not to spoil our last days with them so this week we have loved seeing our grandson, hearing all his fart jokes and eating too much chocolate (our son has been part of this too after many years of his wife separating him from us, so every cloud etc etc)
I also ADORE musical theatre and as we live in easy reach of London I took myself off for a day seeing Guys and Dolls (amazing and reminded me of my mum) and Ain't Too Proud - all about the Motown group, the Temptations. Both fabulous and a few hours of forgetting my troubles.
Lots of love to all you amazing ladies - and an especial hug for the mums xx