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Parkerpoo1

Member since
July 2022

252 posts

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BaffledB

Member since
July 2021

876 posts

Posted Tue April 18, 2023 1:14pmReport post

Oh Parker I am so sorry. You can take it one step at a time, one day at a time. Get yourself a coffee or something, take some deep breaths, have a cry, let it out. You will get through this, the limbo is over. Sending love xxx

Not today but maybe in the next few days you could look to appeal the sentence. May be worth a try. Have a chat to the solicitor when you feel up to it xx

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Life feels over

Member since
September 2022

412 posts

Posted Tue April 18, 2023 1:16pmReport post

I won't offer sympathy but can offer empathy. The shock is like nothing I've ever experienced before and it can seem almost hard to breathe in the early days. We are here when you need us. It does get easier although it won't seem so in this moment. I'm so sorry x

K4

Member since
October 2022

609 posts

Posted Tue April 18, 2023 1:37pmReport post

Deep breaths and hugs to you



xx

Cherry

Member since
January 2023

107 posts

Posted Tue April 18, 2023 2:15pmReport post

So sorry for the awful news, sending you so much love, definitely try do something kind for yourself today and if you can talk to someone that can support you someone you can lean on and have a good cry. we are all here for you xx

Distressed and pregnant

Member since
November 2020

994 posts

Posted Tue April 18, 2023 2:27pmReport post

I'm so sorry Parker. As has been said already be kind to yourself over the coming days and check with solicitors about grounds for appeal. It really is ridiculous that so much sits with the judge on the day rather than what has been recommended by probation etc. Sending love and strength xxx

Upset mum

Member since
June 2020

2394 posts

Posted Tue April 18, 2023 2:43pmReport post

Parkerpoo1

I am so sorry, x

I hope you have managed to get yourself back home, do you have any support around you that someone can be with you this evening?

Obviously this is a huge shock so please do try to take care of yourself x

It will take a couple of days before he will be able to call you but he will be looked after once numbers are approved he will be able to call,

Take a deep breath I know how daunting to you

Sending hugs xx

loulou74

Member since
September 2022

255 posts

Posted Tue April 18, 2023 2:56pmReport post

I'm so sorry. That must be a big shock for you. I hope you managed the drive home okay. Allow yourself to cry and shout, whatever helps. It's very emotional whatever the outcome. I sobbed so much it hurt and we were one of the lucky ones.

Dragonmama

Member since
November 2022

251 posts

Posted Tue April 18, 2023 2:57pmReport post

@parkerpoo1

i am so sorry that you have to go through all of this and got this outcome.

have a cuppa and cry I'm sat with you in sprit holding your hand xx

River

Member since
April 2023

68 posts

Posted Tue April 18, 2023 3:44pmReport post

Oh Parkerpoo I am so sorry too. My heart breaks for you. Hope you've managed to get back home okay. Take one step at a time. X

Bitterbean

Member since
December 2021

634 posts

Posted Tue April 18, 2023 3:50pmReport post

Oh Parkerpoo I am so sorry to hear this, I can only try to imagine how you feel right now. Please remember to take care of yourself first and get support from wherever you can.

Polly Pocket

Member since
May 2022

440 posts

Posted Tue April 18, 2023 4:30pmReport post

I'm so sorry. You must be completely heartbroken.

Sending lots of love xxxx

hpl111

Member since
November 2022

391 posts

Posted Tue April 18, 2023 5:54pmReport post

@Parkerpoo I am so sorry. It really is unfair that judges can go against everything that is recommended just to make an example

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SAL

Member since
December 2021

895 posts

Posted Tue April 18, 2023 6:33pmReport post

I'm so sorry, even when expecting custodial nothing prepares you for the reality. It must be so much worse when it's unexpected.

I hope you've got home safely.

The first few days are hard to process. As Upset has said, it may take a few days to speak to him - but you will get through it and he will be okay.

We are here for you and there are a few of us on here that might be able to help with some of the practicalities.

Take care and look after yourself.

Summer

Member since
July 2019

394 posts

Posted Tue April 18, 2023 8:49pmReport post

I'm really sorry to hear this is not what you were expecting. I hope you have spoken to someone even the helpline just to cry and be heard it's always hard at sentancing as we are always hoping for the best. Please take care of yourself you are the most important in all of this. X

Anne20

Member since
March 2021

141 posts

Posted Tue April 18, 2023 9:25pmReport post

Please take care of you

Sending you a

Massive virtual hug

Anne

xXx

Seaside

Member since
July 2022

558 posts

Posted Tue April 18, 2023 10:52pmReport post

I am so sorry do you have someone with you for support tonight?

You are not alone we are all here for you xxx

Parkerpoo1

Member since
July 2022

252 posts

Posted Wed April 19, 2023 12:03amReport post

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Life feels over

Member since
September 2022

412 posts

Posted Wed April 19, 2023 12:21amReport post

Glad to hear you are home safely and have support. There is absolutely no logic to sentencing at all so he could actually be telling you the truth. Unexpected custodial against all recommendations is tough for all concerned. Sending strength x

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Daffodil

Member since
March 2022

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Posted Wed April 19, 2023 7:10amReport post

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Upset mum

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June 2020

2394 posts

Posted Wed April 19, 2023 7:10amReport post

Morning parkerpoo1

Glad you got home safely and had your son with you x

Deffinatly reach out to your GP

You will still be in shock so just take each day as it comes for now you dont have to make any decisions as yet

You are absolutely not a mug so please dont think that

Please take care xx

loulou74

Member since
September 2022

255 posts

Posted Wed April 19, 2023 8:39amReport post

We had the same about support of family and wife. I think it is something they say to make it look good in court, whether it's true or not.

I'm sorry you're going through this, i found out it was worse than I thought at sentencing- I went to court as I had an inkling there was more to it and I couldn't sit at home waiting to find out the outcome.

Sarah ??

Member since
January 2021

177 posts

Posted Wed April 19, 2023 7:15pmReport post

Hi,

Sorry to hear this outcome.

Just picking up on the 30 images. My ex had a similar amount and received a 2 year custodial. He had one distribution as he forwarded it on (back to the same group it was sent from). Judges can be harsher for no real reason.

Take care.

Once you find out his prisoner number sign up to email a prisoner. It's a lifeline.

Parkerpoo1

Member since
July 2022

252 posts

Posted Wed April 19, 2023 7:21pmReport post

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Upset mum

Member since
June 2020

2394 posts

Posted Thu April 20, 2023 4:33pmReport post

Parkerpoo1

I'm glad you are ok and that you have spoken to him, you have every right to angry, this has been a huge shock to you x

Dont worry about the drive, the visit, let things settle for you for now then maybe in a day, a week, a month you may want to see him face to face and talk,

I know you have a son 22 and an older young adult, how are they coping?

Are you ok financially but more importantly have you spoke to your GP xx

Edited Thu April 20, 2023 4:36pm