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Losteverything

Member since
September 2022

216 posts

Posted Fri April 21, 2023 11:17pmReport post

Has anyone else gained weight during this horrendous experience? I lost about a stone during the first 2 weeks cos couldn't eat. Now I've managed to put on 2 and a half stones!!!! So now not only depressed about life but also about what I look like!!
At the moment the only joy in life involves food!!!

SoTired

Member since
March 2021

387 posts

Posted Fri April 21, 2023 11:20pmReport post

Yep!



sorry that's such a short response. House end here!

Mandymoo

Member since
September 2021

292 posts

Posted Fri April 21, 2023 11:29pmReport post

Yes I initially lost 1/2 stone in the first few weeks but over the last few months I'm comfort eating consistently. Just can't motivate myself at the moment x

Smile through tears

Member since
September 2021

2540 posts

Posted Sat April 22, 2023 6:17amReport post

That's the trouble you loose all motivation - you get so wrapped up in pain and sadness everything happens physically as well as mentally.

I remember just sitting staring out the window for hours, just locked in my own thoughts and wanting people to just go away and leave me alone. People meant trouble in those days. I was on constant alert, even if someone looked at me - I was truly exhausted.....

Altough a sadness remains it does get easier but you really have to fight to get that willpower back. I started by giving myself a daily task or just going out for a short walk to get away from the four walls and memories in the house.

try to think a little about you and your life. I know it's definitely not easy xxxxx

Edited Sat April 22, 2023 6:23am

K4

Member since
October 2022

609 posts

Posted Sat April 22, 2023 6:43amReport post

I lost a stone and now it's slowly creeping back up. The problem is that I just don't want to socialise and struggle being out and about so eating is pretty much my only pleasure.

Also, who cares?? Unless you're a model or actress who is paid to be thin, we need to do whatever gets us through the day!



We are punished enough, please don't beat up yourself over your weight - society puts so many unreasonable expectations on women and we are taught to hate ourselves unless stick thin.



We are all gorgeous women who have such amazing hearts and empathy and never fail to amaze me on here!!



xx

SAL

Member since
December 2021

895 posts

Posted Sat April 22, 2023 8:22amReport post

Yes, I've gain 2 and a half stone. I've lost a stone 3 times only to gain it again. As Smile said its hard to be motivated - The pain, the confusion, the isolation is consuming. I've always been active, sports and being outdoors has always been a big part of me, my identity and my social life but it doesn't come easy now. I get waves of motivation and having head space for being active and eating well, but it doesn't take much to throw me off course - I beat myself up for this too, because it's not like me.

I started taking anti depressants which have made me feel better but I think have hindered weight loss. The only good think aviut gaining weight and not going the things I normally enjoy is that people know "something" is going on with me, even if I don't want to talk about it.

As Smile has also said, I found setting myself small lasts or simple boundaries to help me get started. When I am in a good rhythm and getting outside for a walk or doing exercise, I do feel better both in myself but also my mind.

Edited Sat April 22, 2023 8:27am

BaffledB

Member since
July 2021

876 posts

Posted Sat April 22, 2023 9:28amReport post

I have but I think it's more to do with working from home!

Try and up some exercise. Walking is the easiest way to do it and now the weather is nicer it's more enjoyable. I've got an Apple watch and was surprised how little steps I was doing and certainly nowhere near the recommended 10k a day! I've been walking every day now and I feel so much better in my mental health too. If you do little bursts (only a minute) of quick walking/jog every few mins this will help with fat burning too.

There's lots of free workouts on Youtube, you don't have to sweat buckets or do loads to make a difference. PureGym is a good gym too, open 24hours and reasonably priced.

A lot of people think looking at the fat content of food is the way forward but I watch carbs too. Studies show that having a low carb diet yields longer lasting weight loss than a low fat diet. Meat-free items like Quorn is great for weight loss but if you don't like that then chicken is great as it's low fat and carbs but super high in protein. If you wanted to be mindful of your intake you could download MyFitnessPal and log your food, it's quite easy to use and there's millions of products already loaded on there so you could scan (for example) a breakfast bar from Aldi and it would log the calories, fat, protein content etc. for you to show you what you're consuming.

I'm currently doing the gym and being more mindful of what I eat because I'm sick of being conscious of what I'm wearing and how I look.

Polly Pocket

Member since
May 2022

440 posts

Posted Sat April 22, 2023 10:39amReport post

Yes!

I lost a lot of weight very quickly after the knock because I couldn't eat. I remember thinking I had try and eat otherwise people will know that something is wrong and I couldn't stand the thought of my trauma showing on the outside. I stopped exercising because I didn't have the fuel to get through

Anyway, a lot of months in and my metabolism is knackered and I've whacked a load of weight on and I'm completely gutted.. my clothes don't fit and I feel gross.

I'm in the same boat as SAL - I get waves on motivation but it dosnt take much to knock me off course.

X

loulou74

Member since
September 2022

255 posts

Posted Sat April 22, 2023 11:20amReport post

Yes me too. Like most, struggled to eat initially but then so overwhelmed with everything that I've been eating too many carbs. Also menopausal which doesn't help. I started a few weeks ago tracking my calories on Nutracheck and I'm starting to feel better and my waist is getting smaller and clothes fit better (I don't weigh myself). I try to limit bread though not totally give it up, and increase my protein. I do go to a personal trainer weekly and we do strength training, it's a bit like a therapy session too! And have daily dog walks. I used to be a member of a gym and a walking club but can't do those at the moment. I'd love to get a regular yoga class again someday.

It's hard when dealing with lots of stuff to get the motivation but try picking one small thing that you can change at a time, it all adds up in the end. For example, if toast is your thing, don't try to give it up but reduce how much you have. We have a velvetiser and I love the lattes in it, but I save it for the weekend as it's approx 300 cals!

Anne20

Member since
March 2021

141 posts

Posted Sat April 22, 2023 12:06pmReport post

Yes I gain weight too, I seam to do well and then bang feel I couldn't be bothered what I eat. Menopause, working from home , age and the new normal I put it all down too.

I do have join nutracheck which I'm beginning to use and enjoy. So fingers crossed I can lose a lump ot two.

X

Mandymoo

Member since
September 2021

292 posts

Posted Sat April 22, 2023 2:04pmReport post

@smile

you could be describing me in the second paragraph xx

MywholeWorld

Member since
February 2023

37 posts

Posted Sat April 22, 2023 6:30pmReport post

I lost a stone and a half very quickly over a 3 week period.

I still haven't put any of it back on, I always wanted to be skinny but not by having to experience this awful life changing experience.

Summer

Member since
July 2019

394 posts

Posted Sat April 22, 2023 9:17pmReport post

Oh yes! I lost 5 stone after having my kids got to target the week after the knock! Now I've put it all back on and more! But I'm surviving that's all that matters!