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I am so grateful for the insights and kindness on this site. First time posting and I wish I didn't have to. Like so many posts on here.
My ex is due in court within the next month for sentencing - sexual communication with a child. He was apparently caught by vigilantes online and then filmed on his doorstep. So far no release of the video that i can find but I wonder if that will all change after sentencing? Does anyone know if that's what they generally do?
I keep hoping that this doesn't get out. It's my child I ultimately want to protect from both the media and social media.
is there anything I should be doing to try and limit the damage for my child in advance of sentencing? Either at the court or on social media.
thank you.
I am so grateful for the insights and kindness on this site. First time posting and I wish I didn't have to. Like so many posts on here.
My ex is due in court within the next month for sentencing - sexual communication with a child. He was apparently caught by vigilantes online and then filmed on his doorstep. So far no release of the video that i can find but I wonder if that will all change after sentencing? Does anyone know if that's what they generally do?
I keep hoping that this doesn't get out. It's my child I ultimately want to protect from both the media and social media.
is there anything I should be doing to try and limit the damage for my child in advance of sentencing? Either at the court or on social media.
thank you.
Thank you Lee, that’s helpful to know. I guess I don’t know if it was live streamed at the time. If it was they didn’t tag him on socials. It wasn’t at my address thankfully- he has lived alone for a few years now. I can't imagine going through the knock. As for the coming weeks I think I’ll have to live with the turmoil and try to balance preventative measures with the hope that my worst fears aren’t realised.
Your advice was great. I’ve come off of social media and have written to the court to request that my child and I are kept out of discussions due to the sensitive nature of the case. We’ll hopefully hear soon if that is granted but the person I spoke to said that there had already been hearings and this was just sentencing so the cat could already be out of the bag.
The school isn’t aware as yet (as far as I'm aware). Social services called today to tell me that we’re out of their area of jurisdiction and so they will pass us onto the relevant area who will pick up the file. I think I’ll speak to the school as soon as he is sentenced or if social services provide us with guidance. Until then, I’m not sure what I would say to the school as my child is currently blissfully unaware.
I haven’t felt this sick in a long time but I’m also really comforted by your support.
Thank you x
Your advice was great. I’ve come off of social media and have written to the court to request that my child and I are kept out of discussions due to the sensitive nature of the case. We’ll hopefully hear soon if that is granted but the person I spoke to said that there had already been hearings and this was just sentencing so the cat could already be out of the bag.
The school isn’t aware as yet (as far as I'm aware). Social services called today to tell me that we’re out of their area of jurisdiction and so they will pass us onto the relevant area who will pick up the file. I think I’ll speak to the school as soon as he is sentenced or if social services provide us with guidance. Until then, I’m not sure what I would say to the school as my child is currently blissfully unaware.
I haven’t felt this sick in a long time but I’m also really comforted by your support.
Thank you x