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Db

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April 2023

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Posted Mon April 24, 2023 3:14pmReport post

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Db

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Db

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April 2023

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Posted Mon April 24, 2023 9:27pmReport post

No plan not anything, to be honest they have kept the distance until today's phone call which has thrown me over the edge, my kids 100 percent Deffo don't want him to know, surly there rights should be respected, I'm just totally over the edge with it all, I have seen a doctor and got standard anti depressants, I'm not depressed what so ever, I'm hurt I'm torn an my world has been totally blown apart, my mental state of mind can't take any more , I can't breath when the door goes, my kids are sleeping in beside me , I can't sleep, I'm running on auto pilot. And I'm emotionally drained x

SoTired

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March 2021

387 posts

Posted Mon April 24, 2023 11:22pmReport post

Hi, do you have a local women's aid charity that can offer supoort? I would be contacting them or women's aid. They will work with you and advocate for you (I have experience of this and they have been incredibly supportive with my ex. Not sure if it's a national thing or just for our area but we used Harbour as SS exacerbated post separation abuse as my ex used it as an opportunity to have an in with his controlling and abusive ways when they said we had to co-parent and not parallel parent - he didn't parent, just traumatised me). He's since been regarded as an in protective parent. The issue will be if your ex is regarded as having parental responsibility as they are legally obliged to provide him with reports. However, women's aid or a similar charity do provide advocates.


I'd also be contacting the school to inform them as they may also be able to offer support and signpost you x

Edited Mon April 24, 2023 11:27pm

Db

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April 2023

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Posted Tue April 25, 2023 12:33pmReport post

Hey just had a call and email from ss saying they have taken everything I have said in to consideration, and they will not inform bio dad, they are also contacting the schools to tell them no information sharing. It's a massive pressure that's been lifted, I'm not gonna say I feel better because I don't, but the weight of it all does not seem as heavy, hope u all have a great day thank you very much for you reply. X

SoTired

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March 2021

387 posts

Posted Thu April 27, 2023 10:58pmReport post

Oh so pleased you got a good outcome. Sending virtual support x