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Another worried mum

Member since
December 2022

136 posts

Cant believe im posting this. Ive had an awful down day so worried for my sons future. Ive just had a call from the police NFA nothing found on devices. Im sobbing with relief just phoned my husband who is on his way home from work he is sobbing too. Spoke to my son who is at uni told him this is the first day of the rest of his life. I have no doubt he did look at something and he is so lucky that it wasnt found. To that end he will complete all his counselling and we will continue to monitor him and keep having those important conversations.

I feel guilty coming on here when you are all in the midst of your own personal battles but I have to tell you how much you have helped me, how I have taken strength from you in my darkest hours. You are warriors and in this world we found ourselves in where "shame" is a word attached to us, I want you to know im so proud of my lff friends.

I will still come on here to try and help especially any mums xx

Posted Mon April 24, 2023 5:03pmReport post

Distressed and pregnant

Member since
November 2020

1201 posts

Amazing news! I'm so pleased for you all. I bet you feel like the weight of the world has been lifted. Definitely keep having those awkward conversations and give your son the biggest of mom hugs when you see him from all of us here xx

Posted Mon April 24, 2023 5:07pmReport post

Upset mum

Member since
June 2020

2501 posts

Another x

I am truly so happy for you and your hubby but most of all for your son,

He can move forward in his time at Uni and can just keep looking forward to a happy life xx

This has to be the best outcome any of us could wish for , xx

The dangers of the internet but I am sure he is fully aware of this now, he has you both standing by his side always xx

Posted Mon April 24, 2023 5:25pm
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Another worried mum

Member since
December 2022

136 posts

Thank you ladies. My son is back home in a couple of weeks for the summer. We will sit down and have a very long talk. I am actually glad he got caught young, hard as it has been.

I am heartened by the low reoffending stats for this crime but not complacent. He has still got to work on himself. Both myself and my husband want to stress to him he hasnt"got away with it" We have all had 6 months of hell. But in a weird way that is good, he has seen me and his dad at our lowest ebb ever. He has himself been obviously worried sick.

I think if it had all been done and dusted in a couple of weeks it may not have had the impact necessary to make the changes in himself he needs to.

Posted Mon April 24, 2023 6:03pmReport post

Kt

Member since
January 2023

180 posts

Oh my gosh, this is fantastic to hear. I am so pleased for you and your family.

I can only imagine the relief you are feeling and like you say, this is the first day of the rest of your sons life. Absolutely brilliant xxx

Posted Mon April 24, 2023 6:12pmReport post

K4

Member since
October 2022

623 posts

Wonderful to hear, I can imagine the sobs of relief.

Thank you for sharing



x

Posted Mon April 24, 2023 6:23pmReport post

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SAL

Member since
December 2021

899 posts

I'm so pleased to hear this for you and your son.

I often think that the shock of the investigation itself is probably a big enough wake up call for them to seek the help they perhaps knew they needed before but didn't know how to go about it getting it or talking about it.

Posted Mon April 24, 2023 6:30pmReport post

Lois34

Member since
April 2023

89 posts

AWM....This is amazing news! Please don't feel bad for sharing it. Hopefully the trauma your son has caused the family will be a reminder to him how lucky he is you've stood by him and he is in a position to move on. I'm sure he is going to learn from this experience and continue to get help in the future and know where to turn if he is in trouble. You and your husband are amazing parents x

Posted Mon April 24, 2023 6:36pmReport post

hpl111

Member since
November 2022

409 posts

That's wonderful, I am so happy for you xx

Posted Mon April 24, 2023 7:25pmReport post

Another worried mum

Member since
December 2022

136 posts

Thanks everyone. You are amazing.Another thing I promise to do is set up a direct debit for LFF. They are literally life savers.

Posted Mon April 24, 2023 7:33pmReport post

Confused&worried

Member since
June 2022

328 posts

That is absolutely amazing. Please don't be sorry for sharing you're good news, we all take joy in everyone else's positive stories.

I'm so happy for you xxx

Posted Mon April 24, 2023 8:16pmReport post

BaffledB

Member since
July 2021

876 posts

Another Worried Mum,

That is fantastic news! I love a happy ending or an NFA! Cheers to the future xx

Posted Mon April 24, 2023 8:48pmReport post

loulou74

Member since
September 2022

257 posts

That's amazing news. Definitely no need to feel guilty for posting good news.

Posted Mon April 24, 2023 9:56pmReport post

Smile through tears

Member since
September 2021

2737 posts

Brill xxxxx

Posted Tue April 25, 2023 4:11amReport post

Polish bird

Member since
December 2021

44 posts

I am so pleased for you x all the best for all of you in the future xxx

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Another worried mum

Member since
December 2022

136 posts

No Daffodil you are absolutely right, this will go on the list of things he needs to know. He doesnt know about this forum. I didnt want to frighten him with the really tough true life experiences of everyone on here.

But I will be taking a lot of what I have learnt here to educate him on what could have been his life, and what could still be his life if he doesnt commit to change.

Posted Tue April 25, 2023 3:01pmReport post

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