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3 months after the knock, social services closed our case, I was delighted to be given the news over the phone but I received the report today and I feel really down upon reading it (twice so far).
It's a good report, good enough that they dropped the case but I am overcome with sadness that it had to happen.I had to discuss what kind of mother I am, what I think had happened, how I am going to protect my child so on and so fort for hours and hours..
Reading it back has upset me, it was the first piece of paper I have seen since the search warrant.
When you remove the personalities, shared experiences, dreams, plans, memories it's on the paper from an outsider's perspective; in black and white. Good child, good protective mother, father with issues A,B,C. Investigation ongoing. I know we are more than some of the boxes we think on a spesific paper but it's just upset me to see all.
I know some of you would love socials services to step away, and perhaps not dwell over a word, coma or a box so I'm sorry I'm not a bit more cheerful about it when I think I should be but I am not.
Nevertheless I am very pleased with the outcome. Most tips I read on this forum I acted on, some of you helped me get here by sharing your measurements, risk assessments, experiences and situations and for that I want to say a BIG thank you.
It's a good report, good enough that they dropped the case but I am overcome with sadness that it had to happen.I had to discuss what kind of mother I am, what I think had happened, how I am going to protect my child so on and so fort for hours and hours..
Reading it back has upset me, it was the first piece of paper I have seen since the search warrant.
When you remove the personalities, shared experiences, dreams, plans, memories it's on the paper from an outsider's perspective; in black and white. Good child, good protective mother, father with issues A,B,C. Investigation ongoing. I know we are more than some of the boxes we think on a spesific paper but it's just upset me to see all.
I know some of you would love socials services to step away, and perhaps not dwell over a word, coma or a box so I'm sorry I'm not a bit more cheerful about it when I think I should be but I am not.
Nevertheless I am very pleased with the outcome. Most tips I read on this forum I acted on, some of you helped me get here by sharing your measurements, risk assessments, experiences and situations and for that I want to say a BIG thank you.
Well done on getting case closed. We are 22 months on and past sentencing and are fighting to get ours closed within the next few weeks. I can't wait for the day but also feel all this could of been avoided
I completely understand how you feel. We've had case closed twice and have had to read their reports both times and feel a bit deflated at parts of it, particularly the things I've been misquoted on. The scores out of ten annoys me probably more than it should too. We will have to go back to them, hopefully just one more time when we decide it's time for him to move back in. It plays on my mind almost daily that I've got to go through it again and I was pretty lucky with my social workers xxx
Indeed it is a hard read in black and white and I totally get how you feel, unfortunately I have learnt we are just a tick box shame but that's the way it is/seems. I understand they have massive caseloads etc but my family should be important!
There were lots of errors in the report I received and yes I typed out 2 pages of factual errors and assumptions! And another page of complaints in general about the process! But what was it going to achieve I just want them to go always and leave me alone I certainly don't want to work with a social worker who lies and doesn't have my children's interests at heart! Don't worry I'll protect my children as sure as hell no one else is!!
There were lots of errors in the report I received and yes I typed out 2 pages of factual errors and assumptions! And another page of complaints in general about the process! But what was it going to achieve I just want them to go always and leave me alone I certainly don't want to work with a social worker who lies and doesn't have my children's interests at heart! Don't worry I'll protect my children as sure as hell no one else is!!