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Upset mum

Member since
June 2020

2396 posts

Posted Fri April 28, 2023 3:39pmReport post

Afternoon you incredibly strong lovely friends

I call you friends because that is how I feel about you all, we have never met but yet we have this unique understanding of each other and this journey, when we feel down the care and support is in abundance xx

Work has been good that's always a bonus x

SoTired I hope your first week back went well and that you have remembered to take some you time! I bet it felt good to be back to a routine xx

This week was a year since I was in court for my sons sentancing but we had a really good phone call on the day and he is in a good mindset xx

Yesterday was my Babygirls 27th Birthday I took the day off work, she had a lovely day and that is all I could wish for, she is an amazing young person, and to be honest it doesn't matter how old they are they are still our babies, xx

I hope you have all been ok and the week has been kind to you all xx

Dragonmama

Member since
November 2022

251 posts

Posted Fri April 28, 2023 4:00pmReport post

Doing well

Confusedwife

Member since
October 2022

169 posts

Posted Fri April 28, 2023 4:21pmReport post

Happy birthday to your daughter... my daughter is 12 in a few weeks and Iv no idea where that time has gone!!



my week has been ok we're preparing for my daughters dance show so that's keeping us busy. Iv finally accepted that I need to take the anti depressant that the doctor prescribed me a few months ago I felt like a failure so wouldn't take them, they've made me feel so sick which apparently is normal for the first week.



we've still no updates on my persons case he is Rui since Oct arrested in July 22. I feel like I'm on eggshells waiting for the next stage, it really is the worst thing waiting. I'm so worried about it getting out into the media, my youngest is autistic with anxiety and I worry so much what will happen if it gets out.

Parkerpoo1

Member since
July 2022

252 posts

Posted Fri April 28, 2023 5:01pmReport post

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Upset mum

Member since
June 2020

2396 posts

Posted Fri April 28, 2023 5:05pmReport post

Dragonmama

I read your earlier post glad to see you back x

You have been so strong since last weeks sentancing, just small steps each day xx

Upset mum

Member since
June 2020

2396 posts

Posted Fri April 28, 2023 5:10pmReport post

Confused

Thank you x

They grow up so quickly, I remember when my daughter was that age x it's good she has her dancing, I bet it keeps you busy

The waiting on this journey is horrendous but you will get through it, try not to think of the media, I know easier said than done , hopefully it wont be reported, but it is hit and miss, but take each day at a time xx

I have been on antidepressants for over a year, so decided to reduce from 50mg to 25 after 3 weeks I went back on the 50 as my anxiety was at an all time high, I thought I dont need them as they don't seem to be doing anything but they did so I am back on 50mg xx

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Upset mum

Member since
June 2020

2396 posts

Posted Fri April 28, 2023 5:15pmReport post

Parkerpoo1

Sorry you have had the trolls but they have nothing better to do, they are not even worth the words they write, they have no idea what this journey is like

Getting in to a routine is the first step, how have the phone calls been any better between you and your person? xx

Are you ok x

Smile through tears

Member since
September 2021

2545 posts

Posted Fri April 28, 2023 5:59pmReport post

Busy week so feeling tired and certainly ready for rest and wind down time.

Son ok, been helping an old chap - he found him ill in bed, reported it and appears the he had an infection. He's been in and out checking on him & making him lots of tea...... he's a good lad x

hope everyone has a nice bank holiday weekend.....

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Upset mum

Member since
June 2020

2396 posts

Posted Fri April 28, 2023 6:40pmReport post

Smile, x

Our sons are good people, the fact he got help for another person shows in what he did for the man in question, he is not lost in the prison system, xx he is a kind and thoughtful son xx

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Flower

Member since
February 2023

103 posts

Posted Fri April 28, 2023 7:31pmReport post

Upset mum, hello dear friend!
Happy birthday to your baby.

Parkerpoo, I'm sorry to hear about trolling. I'm sure none of them could say a word to your face.


We've had a good week, hubby back in the house, SS closed the case, for now I can not ask for more.. this is us until the investigation ends. I still can't believe we woke up every day under the same roof this week!

Something I never appericiated before the knock.

Looking forward to 3 day weekend.

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Runawaygirl

Member since
March 2023

85 posts

Posted Fri April 28, 2023 7:56pmReport post

Made it through to another weekend. Desperately worried that my husband's employer is trying to find a way to terminate his contract for breaches of company policies after their meeting last week. I'm on tenterhooks awaiting the outcome of their investigation. Hoping that the worst will be a written warning. Surely not remembering the content of half a dozen polices can't be gross misconduct and sackable?

As for me, I'm starting a virtual course offered by the NHS on Confidence and Communication tomorrow. This is supposed to be my counselling but it's a group support 8 week course. I'm not turning down support from wherever it's offered but I'm sceptical about what it can do to help. I was hoping/expecting 1-2-1 counselling. I'm also hoping that next week's session will be cancelled because I want to watch the Coronation! Is that wrong priorities?

Upset mum

Member since
June 2020

2396 posts

Posted Fri April 28, 2023 7:59pmReport post

Flower

Thank you x

Oh wow what a change it must feel surreal having him with you, waking up each morning must be so lovely xx

Enjoy your long weekend, xx

Upset mum

Member since
June 2020

2396 posts

Posted Fri April 28, 2023 8:17pmReport post

Runawaygirl

A group support could be really helpful, is it a group for the same reason we find ourselves here or is it a mixed reason group?x

It must be really difficult to not know what your husband's company is going to do, but he hasn't brought it in to disrupt, so not sure where they can go with it, have you spoke to Unlock to see if they can help?xx

Runawaygirl

Member since
March 2023

85 posts

Posted Fri April 28, 2023 8:34pmReport post

Upset Mum

It's a mixed group. I don't have to say anything about why I'm there they said. They describe it as helping to develop a healthier relationship with yourself and others. To remove barriers to being confident, offering support and understanding.

I have been through a lot of stress caused by my husband over the last five or six years (not related directly to why I'm in this Group) with the knock having been the latest bombshell and perhaps an unsurprising culmination of what's gone before (ie porn addiction).

Not contacted Unlock yet but will keep it in mind. Thanks for the reminder :)

Edited Fri April 28, 2023 8:35pm

Anne20

Member since
March 2021

141 posts

Posted Fri April 28, 2023 8:51pmReport post

Hello mum Friday

Good to see you had a lovely day with your girl can't beat taking time off work , I did today and spent it with my girl.

Work been busy, that's the way I like it.

Now going to enjoy the long weekend home, bit of DIY, cleaning and hopefully get the hot tub out, only comes out now on treat weekends.

Have a good weekend all.

Anne xx

SoTired

Member since
March 2021

387 posts

Posted Fri April 28, 2023 9:13pmReport post

Hello!!!!
I've had an brilliant week, truly! Loved being back in work and within the first 10 mins it felt like I've never been away. Kids were fantastic and so welcoming and pleased, which makes what I do all the more worthwhile. I was asked where I had been, I just told them Tesco haha.



Just need to catch up on the other posts but really pleased you've had a good day celebrating your daughter's birthday, Upset



xxx

Bitterbean

Member since
December 2021

634 posts

Posted Fri April 28, 2023 9:46pmReport post

I'm having a weekend away to getaway from it all and here I am catching up with my partners in crime LOL.

Hope everyone is doing OK, I think I was losing it a bit this week but feeling stronger at the moment. I'm sure that knowing you guys are all out there helps me, I feel like we are a human chain all holding one another's hands.

Distressed and pregnant

Member since
November 2020

994 posts

Posted Fri April 28, 2023 10:44pmReport post

My week has been ok, toddler picked up a virus so no nursery or groups this week. Fortunately she's been well in herself.

We've had a good day with my person today but feelings of being open and vulnerable got to me a little. In some ways I know it needs to happen for me to be authentic in our relationship but it's a struggle to have those thoughts of what if he breaks my heart again. Probably doesn't make much sense but I wouldn't be true to myself if I didn't write it either.

I hope everyone is doing as well as possible. Love to you all xxx

SoTired

Member since
March 2021

387 posts

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Daffodil

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March 2022

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Posted Sat April 29, 2023 7:28amReport post

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Newlady

Member since
April 2021

644 posts

Posted Sat April 29, 2023 8:47amReport post

Hi there ! Well I'm.plotting along , we are talking openly and honestly. I'm stuck in a way this last few weeks . I'm starting more thearpy on Tuesday because like I described it to thearapist , I feel like I've been on a rollercoaster and it's finally stopped and I'm stuck at the bottom and I can't get off . 4 months post sentencing.although a lot happened to me before too think it's all coming to a head . My person doing brilliant, he's stronger than ever now and is pushing forward with his life and I'm just stuck .anyway hopefully I'll get moving ! Xx

River

Member since
April 2023

68 posts

Posted Sat April 29, 2023 12:27pmReport post

Upset,

Glad to hear you had a good phonecall with your son and I can imagine the year anniversary of his court date brings up some memories and emotions, so I hope you're taking care and being kind to yourself.

Delighted you and your babygirl had a lovely day celebrating her birthday! She is lucky to have you.

This week has been another tough week for me. Yesterday marked one month since the knock. It's been a tough week, but I'm getting up each day and carrying on.

Wishing you a good bank holiday weekend x

Seaside

Member since
July 2022

560 posts

Posted Sat April 29, 2023 6:18pmReport post

Upset happy birthday to your baby girl and I am so pleased that you had a good day with her.

The reminders are always difficult though aren't they but good to hear that your son is doing ok.

Lee -what can I say ?you are simply amazing!!

Sotired-hope your first week back went ok .

Dragonmama -sending you love and strength xxx

This week has been ok but not without challenges as we had a family member visiting who knows nothing about what happened so having to put on an act which I found difficult but we are where we are and have to get used to a new normal