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Hi all, this is my first post but I've been going through this for a while...
My partner is being sentenced tomorrow for possession of IIOC. We got the knock late 2020.
Please could you give me some positive stories, I'm starting to panic. I am confident that my partner is not a risk to children, the images are a result of childhood sexual abuse and a porn addiction. We are planning to have children of our own at some point.
Can anyone reassure me that we can stay together and it will be worth it in the end? Also any advice on navigating the sentencing process and media would be appreciated. The people closest to us already know and are supportive.
My partner is being sentenced tomorrow for possession of IIOC. We got the knock late 2020.
Please could you give me some positive stories, I'm starting to panic. I am confident that my partner is not a risk to children, the images are a result of childhood sexual abuse and a porn addiction. We are planning to have children of our own at some point.
Can anyone reassure me that we can stay together and it will be worth it in the end? Also any advice on navigating the sentencing process and media would be appreciated. The people closest to us already know and are supportive.
Good luck for today. There are lots of positive stories here. It's not easy, but it can be done.
I'm not sure there is much you can do about the media, other than be prepared that it may happen. It sounds like you've got some good support so that'll help. It blows over eventually and people move on.
I'm not sure there is much you can do about the media, other than be prepared that it may happen. It sounds like you've got some good support so that'll help. It blows over eventually and people move on.
You poor thing, I guess that it was your first post and that it wasn't moderated in time for you to get much reassurance.
I hope that yesterday went ok
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I hope that yesterday went ok
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Thank you both for your support, it's really appreciated.
Sentencing went well, it's a suspended sentence which I am very pleased about. I was dreading going home alone.
I've decided not to look at the media but my best friend is on look out, so she'll let me know if an article is written so I can prepare for potential backlash.
I'm feeling kind of weird now. Although I'm so relieved the sentence is suspended, I'm still feeling high levels of anxiety. Anyone else experienced this?
Maybe this anxiety has built up for all these years and it's just a part of me now. I'm sure it will get better as the dust settles.
Have a great weekend!
Sentencing went well, it's a suspended sentence which I am very pleased about. I was dreading going home alone.
I've decided not to look at the media but my best friend is on look out, so she'll let me know if an article is written so I can prepare for potential backlash.
I'm feeling kind of weird now. Although I'm so relieved the sentence is suspended, I'm still feeling high levels of anxiety. Anyone else experienced this?
Maybe this anxiety has built up for all these years and it's just a part of me now. I'm sure it will get better as the dust settles.
Have a great weekend!
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@stayinghopeful I'm glad you came home together and that you have a support network around you both. That in itself is invaluable. Every feeling you experience through this journey is valid, work through them and seek support if you feel the need. Remember we can overcome anything if we choose too. Concentrate on the things you can control, and allow life to settle. Find your happy again x
That's good news. And yes, I think that it is fairly normal to feel anxiety afterwards. Ours was in the paper the same evening as sentencing which probably contributed to me feeling anxious all the time, but I found it very unsettling for a few weeks. Things are calmer now but I'm still keeping a low profile.
Bluesky
Im sorry you've found yourself in this situation. Your whole world is turned upside down and nothing feels safe.
It does get better. Just researching or asking your solicitor about potential sentencing outcomes can help. Even though the idea of your loved one being taken away is horrific, I found that making a 'worst case scenario' plan eased my anxiety a bit. For example, my plan was to move back in with mum and reach out to my university for temporary financial support.
Just remember that this is only temporary. Whatever your outcome is will not last forever and there is always light at the end of the tunnel.
Stay strong and remember you are not alone x
Im sorry you've found yourself in this situation. Your whole world is turned upside down and nothing feels safe.
It does get better. Just researching or asking your solicitor about potential sentencing outcomes can help. Even though the idea of your loved one being taken away is horrific, I found that making a 'worst case scenario' plan eased my anxiety a bit. For example, my plan was to move back in with mum and reach out to my university for temporary financial support.
Just remember that this is only temporary. Whatever your outcome is will not last forever and there is always light at the end of the tunnel.
Stay strong and remember you are not alone x
Lifefeelsover
Thank you. Things feel a bit more settled now the shock has died down..
It has definitely helped having the SHPO explained to us in depth, as a lot of the restrictions felt very subjective and I was so scared that he would accidentally breach the rules inadvertently.. but now we feel happy that we can fit into a new lifestyle and roll with it.
Sending love x
Thank you. Things feel a bit more settled now the shock has died down..
It has definitely helped having the SHPO explained to us in depth, as a lot of the restrictions felt very subjective and I was so scared that he would accidentally breach the rules inadvertently.. but now we feel happy that we can fit into a new lifestyle and roll with it.
Sending love x
Loulou74
The media involvement causes an awful lot of anxiety. I find it very unfair as it's not just the defendant that has to deal with it, it's the whole family/household.
Our sentence was written about and it's in yesterday's paper but we're fairly confident that the people in our life do not read the paper. And it hadn't been shared on the paper's Facebook page either. Feeling hopeful that it will be old news very soon.
Anxiety is becoming more manageable each day as we're settling into a new life.
Sending love x
The media involvement causes an awful lot of anxiety. I find it very unfair as it's not just the defendant that has to deal with it, it's the whole family/household.
Our sentence was written about and it's in yesterday's paper but we're fairly confident that the people in our life do not read the paper. And it hadn't been shared on the paper's Facebook page either. Feeling hopeful that it will be old news very soon.
Anxiety is becoming more manageable each day as we're settling into a new life.
Sending love x