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I have a relative who has been convicted on being in pocession of images of children and had been caught by the police speaking to who he believed to be an adult with a child (undercover officer). He was arrested 2021 so we've known for over two years. But now he has been sentenced and it has been in the paper my head is just utterly scrambled, I haven't been to work and can't speak to anyone who didn't already know. Has anyone been involved in a similar situation?
I have a relative who has been convicted on being in pocession of images of children and had been caught by the police speaking to who he believed to be an adult with a child (undercover officer). He was arrested 2021 so we've known for over two years. But now he has been sentenced and it has been in the paper my head is just utterly scrambled, I haven't been to work and can't speak to anyone who didn't already know. Has anyone been involved in a similar situation?
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As Daff has said many of us have experienced the media unfortunately and they certainly portray it as worst as possible
It does become old news very quickly and remember if anyone wants to ask/say things you dont owe anyone an explanation
Look after yourself and if you need time away from work take some if possible xx
It does become old news very quickly and remember if anyone wants to ask/say things you dont owe anyone an explanation
Look after yourself and if you need time away from work take some if possible xx
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Thank you for the replies. Even though I knew this day would come with his court hearing coming up, I just don't think I had thought much about the aftermath. it's really taken over my head at the moment, I have tried to support my Mom as much as I can and she is not doing too bad, but i'm struggling to process things. I understand as the weeks go by things it will feel different and hopefully be easier, I just want to try and make this part a bit more tolerable. I have as you suggested taken some time off work, which I don't know if it is a good thing or not, as I have given myself more time to think about things, but I am trying to keep busy with different things. But I am struggling to concentrate with anything and have very little motivation. Although I have a wonderful partner and have one or two friends I could lean on, it still feels very lonely in a bizarre way.
I just don't know how to have that first conversation with someone to tell them what's happened, I am a very sensitive person and very much wear my heart on my sleeve, so people at work will know that I am not okay. As much as I don't want to worry people, equally I just don't feel I can face it yet. I am obviously worrying how this all reflects on me and how I am dealing with it.
has anyone used the helpline or online chat service and found it useful?
I just don't know how to have that first conversation with someone to tell them what's happened, I am a very sensitive person and very much wear my heart on my sleeve, so people at work will know that I am not okay. As much as I don't want to worry people, equally I just don't feel I can face it yet. I am obviously worrying how this all reflects on me and how I am dealing with it.
has anyone used the helpline or online chat service and found it useful?
Reach out to the helpline they are really good x
As for telling people if anyone does ask then just say you are not ready to go in to detail but some will be concerned for how you are coping, so out of care rather than been negative xx
As for telling people if anyone does ask then just say you are not ready to go in to detail but some will be concerned for how you are coping, so out of care rather than been negative xx
It's horrendous - I remember it well, like the ladies have said just sit tight - it'll soon be 'old' news, promise.
Try not to read all the shit opinions that people tap in. They know nothing about the person or the circumstances - it's not worth upsetting yourself. Sit tight my lovely.......... you'll be fine.....
Try not to read all the shit opinions that people tap in. They know nothing about the person or the circumstances - it's not worth upsetting yourself. Sit tight my lovely.......... you'll be fine.....