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What is the risk to his own teenage sons?

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Aunt Bessie

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May 2023

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Posted Fri May 12, 2023 8:57amReport post

My situation is that my husband has recently been convicted of downloading iioc (all female) and given a suspended sentence and community service. We are separated and will be divorced in time. Like many partners I had absolutely no idea he was that way inclined and there was no sign of his attitude to child abuse throughout our 20 year marriage. We have two teenage boys aged 15 and 17 and I have never had any safeguarding concerns about his care of them.

Since my husband’s arrest we have been told he should not have unsupervised contact with anyone under 18 including his own children. I am totally in agreement that he should not be having any contact with children in general but I struggle to see what risk he is to his own young adult sons who are fully aware of everything that has happened.

Social services are now about to complete a child and family assessment so that they can make recommendations about what contact is allowed. Can anyone give me any advice on this? What risk do they think my boy’s father will pose to them? What is the likely outcome of this? If he is allowed only supervised contact who will check this and what is the consequence if he doesn't stick to the terms? Will I be held responsible for allowing contact which is not supervised baring in mind that I cannot control what my 17 year old does in his spare time like you can with a young child.

HelpMe

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June 2022

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Posted Fri May 12, 2023 2:41pmReport post

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Edited Thu August 10, 2023 1:45pm