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Upset mum

Member since
June 2020

2396 posts

Posted Fri May 12, 2023 5:01pmReport post

Evening lovlies xx

I hope you are all keeping ok x

Mandymoo, I hope your mums funeral was peaceful and beautiful in a celebration of her life xx and I am so sorry your sons court was cancelled, as much as we dread this day we know it needs to happen x

SoTired great news about your son getting a job, but I hope you are taking care of yourself x

Smile, love our chats;-) x

I have been keeping busy with work and my son is ok, he has been poorly and trying to see the doctor in prison is as bad as us trying to get an appointment on the outside (so bloomin frustrating) x

The hardest thing this week has been seeing Lee's podcast locked

While I understand LFF reasons I think what we all have to remember is how important she is to us on here,

I remember my first time reading the forum for a few months before I was brave enough to post, Lee was the first person to reply and that made a huge difference, even though her own journey has been hell she has been there every step of the way, offering support and so much needed help and support, a selfless good kind and warm person who each one of us has connected with, her knowledge, wisdom has been so so important to us all , I speak from my heart when I say we need her, a woman that is our voice, because this journey is horrendous, lonely and we feel like we need to be heard so much , Sorry I went off on one but I am just been Honest xx

Confusedwife

Member since
October 2022

169 posts

Posted Fri May 12, 2023 5:25pmReport post

Evening!!



iv had a quite week emotions up and down, but I think it's partly because Iv not been working my day job so Iv kinda just moped around all day whilst waiting to pick the kids up.... I'm back to working my day job next week, im a carer in the day and then weekends I work in a bar.



sorry to hear your son is poorly!! Hopefully he will get to see a doctor soon... it's like the lottery on the outside trying to get an appointment. Xx

Upset mum

Member since
June 2020

2396 posts

Posted Fri May 12, 2023 5:36pmReport post

Confused x

Sorry it's been a mixed week, what a contrast in jobs, been a carer must be such an emotional but a lovely job, and then working in a bar at the weekend, just chatting to eveyday people takes us away from this journey x

Been of work is awful isn't it,

How are the kids, I bet they keep you busy xx

Confusedwife

Member since
October 2022

169 posts

Posted Fri May 12, 2023 6:21pmReport post

I love being a carer, I think more people should do it it's such a rewarding job. But it can very hard as well... my bar job is entertaining its a mix of good and wronguns that go there, but I can drink whilst working so that's a plus.



my kids do keep me very busy my youngest has just been diagnosed with autism so she's very challenging right now but also very loving, she's done a lot of baking at home which isn't helping my diet... My eldest does a lot of dance lessons and singing lessons so I'm her personal taxi make up artist and hair stylist... but I love it love to watch her perform.



Have you much planned for the weekend? I feel like they appear from nowhere, can't believe it's almost summer already.

Upset mum

Member since
June 2020

2396 posts

Posted Fri May 12, 2023 6:38pmReport post

Confused

Bless her, I think girls are more cuddly, but the fact she likes to bake cakes amazing :-) what's that saying a minute on the lips a lifetime on the hips, who cares x

I can remember my Babygirl doing her hair, seems like a life time ago, she is 27 now but she is beautiful inside and out and has been my rock on this journey x

Edited Sat May 13, 2023 7:42am

Parkerpoo1

Member since
July 2022

252 posts

Posted Fri May 12, 2023 9:58pmReport post

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Anxious mummy

Member since
February 2023

99 posts

Posted Fri May 12, 2023 10:03pmReport post

I hope Lee is back soon. She has replied with amazing advice on my posts and does such a great job supporting others

Upset mum

Member since
June 2020

2396 posts

Posted Fri May 12, 2023 10:38pmReport post

Parkerpoo1

I am so sorry heartbreaking x

SoTired

Member since
March 2021

387 posts

Posted Fri May 12, 2023 11:54pmReport post

Oh Upset, really hope he's on the mend soon. You must be worried sick!

Not long in since picking bugger lugs up. He's shattered. But happy news is he's now on the fork lifts instead of just sorting. Plus, we have sorted his cbt for weds, so he will have his scooter that day! Will be worried sick about him on it at first but like was said, independence! And that's the aim!



Shattered now so off to bed as in delivering GCSE boosters tomorrow from 9am for our students/my younger son!



love you to all. Will catch up properly tomorrow xxx

Upset mum

Member since
June 2020

2396 posts

Posted Sat May 13, 2023 12:11amReport post

SoTired

Love the nickname:-) xx catch up when your recharged xx

Webb89

Member since
July 2022

438 posts

Posted Sat May 13, 2023 12:30amReport post

My week has not been too bad. Met up with a friend who knows and is really supportive of me. She even came to my house to see my puppy. Have not had anyone in my house except people who live there and workman for nearly a year it was so nice. Did not even realise i missed that! I had to wait until pup was old enough to go out to my family as they wont come to my house even if OH is not here. Not good for my children though adults it would be nice for them to see people.



Got a birthday party this weekend which i am dreading as going on my own. Will meet people i have not seen in years and they will all ask where oh is. Just cant wait until that is over with.

it is nice to hear what everyone gets upto. Heres to a good week for everyone. X

Edited Sat May 13, 2023 12:31am

StressedWife

Member since
January 2023

47 posts

Posted Sat May 13, 2023 12:50amReport post

I have had the worst week. It was the plea hearing Thursday, he's told me since the start he's innocent and decided to plead guilty. He says his solicitor told him to because it would be hard to fight in court, deep down I think he knows he's done it but was denying it to me and maybe himself.



It's being sent to crown for sentencing, provisionally for 8th June, although I've been told to expect that to change. His solicitor has said a lengthy custodial sentence will be considered.



Our marriage is over. Although he's not been home since the arrest it didnt feel final, it does now and I feel like I've taken 10 steps backwards. I'm broken, my daughter is in pieces. I still love him but I hate him at the same time.

Smile through tears

Member since
September 2021

2546 posts

Posted Sat May 13, 2023 5:23amReport post

My week has been pretty quiet - just work and routine stuff so not a lot to report really.

I can see both sides of Lee|LFF situation, this area as we know is often like walking on a tightrope and you have to be so so careful. It'd be nice if she were working as part of the LFF team.

Lee is indeed one of a kind and I hope she can rejoin our group. She is perhaps the only person I have fully opened up to on the forum. She's a lovely mix of strength and kindness.

my son is fine and in good spirits.

have a good weekend my lovely ladies xxxxx

Edited Sat May 13, 2023 5:26am

Seaside

Member since
July 2022

560 posts

Posted Sat May 13, 2023 6:34amReport post

Mandy moo I hope the funeral was as good as it could be and that you can remember the happy times with your Mum. I'm so sorry to hear about your son's court being delayed its hard enough without that.

Upset my friend I hope your son is feeling better soon.

Sotired great news about your son and strangely enough I use the same nickname for my son !!

Regarding Lee I totally agree with Upset she has been a source of comfort and support to me from the very beginning and she is a fantastic spokesperson for all of us.

My week has been pretty tough as we have had 2 close family members diagnosed with terminal cancer in the last couple of days.

I have also had some very unpleasant comments made by an ex family member which are not related to the situation with my son as, fortunately, she knows nothing about that but this person has sought to undermine and discredit me for many years and is becoming more vocal in her attempts-I'm just so tired of it all I've tried reasoning with her but to no avail..

On the plus side however son is doing well in his job and seems a lot more positive so that is what I'm holding onto.

Love and strength to all of you xxx

River

Member since
April 2023

68 posts

Posted Sat May 13, 2023 8:16amReport post

Morning all,

Upset, sorry to hear your son is poorly. I hope he's on the mend and is able to see a doctor soon. You're right - seems like getting medical help in this country no matter where you are is difficult.

I also hope Lee returns to the forum when she's ready. Although LFF have explained their reasons I do think it's a shame and a loss of a lovely voice on here, though hopefully only temporary.

My week has been good. I've been off work and it's helped my mental health a lot without the pressure of work for a little bit as the anxiety post-Knock and the strain on my relationship was becoming unbearable. After some time off work and since having some distance from my now ex-BF I'm feeling a lot more stable. Earlier this week I reached out to my now ex for the first time since our breakup to wish him a Happy Birthday. It was nice to speak with him but it reminded me that things are no longer the same with him and it made me a bit sad again. But it's okay to be sad and this journey is a rollercoaster of emotions and I'm taking each day as it comes.

Wishing you all restful weekends x