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Confused&worried

Member since
June 2022

326 posts

Posted Sat May 13, 2023 4:39pmReport post

I've just found out that my OH can not attend our children's Holy communion in a few weeks. The priest says he spoke to the Safeguarding people at the Diocese and they feel it best that he does not attent. I 100% completely understand and always feel it better to be honest, as much to protect my OH from accusations as anything else.

The last year has felt so much like I have been punished more than him. This feels like my beautiful babies are being punished for their fathers actions. And that is so painful.

I'm sitting in my car watching them happily playing in the park, knowing that I have done a great job in protecting them from the fall out of this shit storm. I love them so much it hurts and hate that what should be a wonderful day for them will be tainted by this.

K4

Member since
October 2022

610 posts

Posted Sat May 13, 2023 5:24pmReport post

I'm so so sorry to hear this; heartbreaking for you.



I have no advice, just a hug to send.



And utter frustration on your behalf



xx

Inthemoment

Member since
February 2023

358 posts

Posted Sat May 13, 2023 10:13pmReport post

I will be in the same situation in a few years with holy communion. No idea how to navigate all these important milestones and help little one emotionally cope with understanding why daddy was never at any of the important things

It hurts so much that my child will be punished in this way.

Sending hugs

Summer

Member since
July 2019

394 posts

Posted Sun May 14, 2023 7:12pmReport post

howcome the priest knew? I hope it was a valid reason he gave as to why he couldn't be there? Couldn't someone supervise him for the service?

Confused&worried

Member since
June 2022

326 posts

Posted Sun May 14, 2023 8:00pmReport post

I told the priest because our church has a lengthy process for the children and I didn't know if we would be able to attend everything required. The priest send that he felt it "best" because of how the other parents may feel. None of the other parents are aware of the situation, but I understand his point. He was being asked to make decisions on behalf of all of the families.