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Inturmoil1974

Member since
November 2022

275 posts

Posted Mon May 15, 2023 6:29amReport post

I literally work all the hours I can so I don't have to think of the situation he has put me in, I am scared to stop now as I feel I may not make it out the other side

Lucy from Stop it Now!

Member since
September 2018

490 posts

Posted Tue May 30, 2023 1:44pmReport post

Hello,

Thank you for posting on the Family and Friends forum, we understand that it is not easy to post on a forum about these difficult situations. I can see that you have not yet had a reply on your post, hopefully someone else in a similar situation can reply soon with some support.


If you haven't already done so, I would also encourage you to contact our Stop it Now! helpline. The helpline is anonymous, confidential and free, on 0808 1000 900. One of our trained advisors will then be able to explore your situation in detail and provide some support and do their best to answer your questions. Our trained advisors deal with similar concerns to yours every day and will be able to talk these through with you and offer you the best advice we can.

I hope this has been helpful.

Take care,

Lucy

Webb89

Member since
July 2022

438 posts

Posted Tue May 30, 2023 2:02pmReport post

I also work long hours to try and forget and to cope. But in the end it will make you ill. The money is great, but at what cost to your health. Try and find other things that you enjoy that can take your mind off your situation.



is it days or nights that are the worst? I have develped coping mechanisms to help me. I hope you have managed to learn to relax, as i see this is a post from a few weeks ago. Please let us know how you are.

Newlady

Member since
April 2021

644 posts

Posted Wed May 31, 2023 9:36amReport post

I did the same then 8 months in I crashed and it all hit me up the face. Ended up taking 8 weeks off so be careful, although many do this as a coping mechanism, it can be harmful too you need to deal with all these feelings or you'll hit a brick wall at some point. Im good at practicing self care now and on second batch of counseling even tho we are 6 months post sentencing it's still difficult some days x

Inturmoil1974

Member since
November 2022

275 posts

Posted Wed May 31, 2023 6:55pmReport post

Thanks for the comments 2 steps forward 4 back I feel, oh mental health at its lowest and I am at the stage of what will be will be I wish his family supporting him was enough to shake him out of this self pity!!!!

SAL

Member since
December 2021

895 posts

Posted Wed May 31, 2023 8:01pmReport post

I would also be weary of this over working and not giving yourself headspace to think.

Like so many women on here, before this journey I felt strong and capable, but this journey does take it out of you. Looking back I can't quite believe how I carried on when I first found out my partner had been charged and would likely be going to prison (he didn't tell me he was being investigated - He's now in prison). Although I managed, I have made mistake and some unwise choices related to work and my position /job in the company and the reprocussion have spiralled and so have I. That alongside a high work load and the stresses of having a partner in prison is pushing me, to what very much feels like the brink. I really wish I'd taken time out. Typing this now, it's making me wonder if I need to take time out now, I'm increasingly feeling very lost but very little time to process how I'm feeling due to the long hours.