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HelpMe

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June 2022

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Posted Mon May 15, 2023 5:38pm
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Smile through tears

Member since
September 2021

2720 posts

Hi - I too was terrified to join in - you can't shut me up now!!!!!! The amazing people have truly been my lifeline.

Posted Mon May 15, 2023 6:12pmReport post

Kt

Member since
January 2023

180 posts

Helpme..this is a great post for people who feel too afraid to post first time.

I was also terrified to post because of the same reasons, but once I had, I felt such a release and very well supported and not judged atall. The advice and support especially with the private messaging available is priceless.

Xxx

Posted Mon May 15, 2023 6:26pmReport post

CrystalTears

Member since
April 2023

7 posts

Hi HelpMe,

Thank you for the reminder. This is actually my first post. I feel like I've been waiting for a sign to post and I'm taking this as it.

Baby steps, I hope one day I can be brave enough to share my own experience.

I just want to take this as an opportunity to say thank you to everyone on this forum - especially so, the regular posters and those that continue to post and answer all the questions that come up, even after they have crossed the waters themself and are now on the other side. You are all amazing and it is so appreciated. I often wonder how many other people check this forum everyday but don't post (I am one of them and have been for the past almost 3 months).

Posted Mon May 15, 2023 8:05pmReport post

River

Member since
April 2023

68 posts

Echoing these sentiments. This forum has been a Godsend since I first discovered it. It has been so, so helpful connecting with others who are in the same horrible boat and realising I'm not alone and there are others out there who understand. Xx

Posted Mon May 15, 2023 10:26pmReport post

Confusedwife

Member since
October 2022

169 posts

I also was terrified to post anything, I read lots of posts for months until I actual posted anything. The first few weeks after the knock I would panic every time my ring doorbell went off, I was paranoid when I'd be on the phone to my husband thinking the police were listening for some strange reason even sending text messages I wouldn't want it to look as if were still together Incase it was used against me with ss as they kept asking if we were still together.



I feel much better now that I actually feel like I can post and reach out.

Posted Tue May 16, 2023 5:33pmReport post

HelpMe

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Posted Tue May 16, 2023 6:03pm
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Confusedwife

Member since
October 2022

169 posts

Help me



I thought it was just me being crazy thinking they were listening, I use to think I could actually hear them connecting to the call and my mind would be over thinking. I was terrified with everything I did, sometimes I'd actually sit and watch my ring doorbell live cause I was that worried.

Posted Tue May 16, 2023 6:43pmReport post

Bitterbean

Member since
December 2021

637 posts

Its reassuring in some ways to read that others have been as paranoid as me after the knock.

On thing that we did discover through querying the warrant and intelligence that led to police to our ISP is that everyone's usage of the Internet is being monitored, you cannot relax in the knowledge that this is illegal in this country because the monitoring and information can come from other countries and the police and NCA don't ask too many questions about it's legitimacy. So we are all correct to be paranoid about the Internet. You can protect yourself to some extent by using a VPN, but of course the police are likely to interpret this as you having something to hide. You can't really win.

Posted Tue May 16, 2023 9:20pmReport post

Quick exit